I moved in almost a week ago to my halls and although we get on, I feel a bit like I'm the odd one out. I can't seem to hold a conversation with some of my flatmates for long because they don't seem to want to keep it going?
I'm not too fussed about this issue, but considering we have to live together for a year I would prefer to make life with them as easy as possible.
I've met some other people and I'm far from antisocial, but I would still quite like to sort this issue out.
How can I make conversations with my flatmates easier? I'm not trying to force it and today at the beach I kind of gave them a little space because I don't want to come across desperate.
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- Thread Starter
- 22-09-2016 19:03
- 22-09-2016 19:11
I had similar flatmates at uni. Just make friends outside some people are cliquey as who cares!! but if theyre bullying u or something move flat obv and tell someone.
- Thread Starter
- 22-09-2016 20:13
- 22-09-2016 23:03
People tend to bond well over food. Try having a meal together with a a friendly chat afterwards. You need to give people time to open up and develop social bonds as some people take a while to become friends. If it doesn't work out in the long run, as long as they are polite and respectful, it's best to just focus on your studies and on the friends you have outside of halls.
- 23-09-2016 12:07
Remember that you've been put together more at less at random you can't be too surprised if you don't all get on like a house on fire, I think if you can get along with them reasonably well that's about all you can ask for. Also bear in mind that after the year finishes in May/June you'll probably never see them again and for quite a lot of the time in between you'll either be on holiday or busy with exams etc so it's not like you'll be seeing all that much of them anyway.
I'd certainly make an effort to try to chat to them when you see it but don't try to force it.
(Original post by Anonymous)
- 23-09-2016 12:33
I'm not trying to force it and today at the beach I kind of gave them a little space because I don't want to come across desperate.
stop over thinking things and just relax. this is your house! just make yourself comfortable and be friendly and open! jjust think of them as your family.
- 23-09-2016 14:16
Arrange a night drinking and play spin the bottle or never have I ever.
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- 23-09-2016 14:21
Some flats just don't click, tbh. Mine didn't really, it all fell apart after the first few weeks. But as long as you are on speaking terms with them, you should manage fine, especially since you have made friends elsewhere.