The one?

Do people believe in soulmates or "the one"?

And if you do how do you know if they are "the one" or just "a one"?

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Reply 1

I believe you can love anyone, and associate them with being the one if they meet you're minimum 'requirements' in a relationship. After some time tho however.

Reply 2

I_am_the_mob

deffinatley and i think my boyfriend is the one fo me!!

Good for you!

I do believe in soulmates too
I also believe that if people are soulmates they truly both believe that or, they just aren't

Reply 3

Talya

I think so too.. there's no other way to explain the way I felt about my bf the first time I saw him! (Before I even knew him)

Reply 4

I_am_the_mob

Awwww that's nice
I think there are loads of ways to tell, like you always have something to say to them
And if they leave your life they leave a hole you never knew was there before

Reply 5

CommunistHamster

I_am_the_mob

Do people believe in soulmates or "the one"?

And if you do how do you know if they are "the one" or just "a one"?

If there really was only one, then the chances are you wouldn't meet them.

There are, however, very few people who you can truly love. Find one, and keep him\her. I see you're 17, like me. At this age it isn't really worth hanging desperately onto somebody who appears to be your "one". All the kerfuffle of university and careers really gets in the way and shuffles your cards, making it hard to find your ace of spades\diamonds. You might go to Uni and end up with someone who totally blows away your expectations. Plus, at this age it's just plain hard to know. You might think you know, but as time passes you realise your mistaken feelings for what they were, even though they seemed true at the time.

Reply 6

Cirsium

I'm debating about "the one". I thought i'd found the One at about 17, and to some extent I still think I was right in my judgement as I would literally do ANYTHING for him, and he became the centre of my entire universe. Which sounds horrible, but thankfully it worked both ways. And we're still close to the extreme that he can phone me on a day when i'm feeling like **** and have told nobody and i'll pick up the phone and he'll just go "Honey, something's wrong, tell me what it is." before I even say hi. Unfortunately no matter how wonderful someone is, when they have extreme schizophrenia there's not a lot you can do and that ended in tears. Since then there have been other men, and i've loved some, and maybe been in love with some. But I can't ever imagine having that extreme view-shift ever again - that sort of closeness. Only thing is I'm not sure I'd want to - resurfacing afterwards and looking back it's absolutely terrifying how into one another we were. At least we were sensible - we'd agreed no getting married until after we'd both been through uni and lived together for a bit... we had all these plans. But I don't think I could cope with just becoming one person like that again. So now I think maybe there are several people you could spend your life with, and not all have to be like that.

Reply 7

ForeverIsMyName

Personally I believe that anyone who claims to have found "the one" should be treated with skepticism; the idea that most of them seem to have found this single person on a planet of nearly 7 billion before the age of 20, an unlikelihood of staggering improbability. People are suited to each other, some much than others, but the idea that there's one person in the world for you, and you just so happen to have found them is something I can't accept.

Reply 8

PatchTheCatch

I seriously seriously hope so because I can't wait till I find her ^^

Reply 9

Sopheh

I'm not sure if there's just one person for everyone.

More like there are a handful of potential 'the ones' for everyone, and what makes them special from the others is the experiences you've had with them.

If you think about it, before you meet your partner or talk to them, they could be anyone, it's only through spending time with them that you grow to love them.

Of course the concept of love at first sight sort of goes against this. I'm not sure whether I believe in love at first sight or not, but I like the idea of it. I think you need to know the way someone's mind works before you can love them or not.

...If that makes any sense at all :smile:

Reply 10

nezy90

CommunistHamster

That is soo true, If you claim somebody is the one but nothing is happening/going to happen there is no point on hangning onto them. I have a boyfriend who i love with all my heart i and i would like to think that he is the guy i will spend the rest of my life with but if things dont work out which i hope doesnt happen then of course i will be devistated but i will have to move on. i wouldnt call him the one as i dont think there is a "one" for anybody but i kno he is the one i love and would do anything for......

Reply 11

Becca <3.

I have two. :smile:

Reply 12

I_am_the_mob

Yeah I agree, I don't think hardly anyone finds "the one" at a young age, I mean look at the divorce rates, but i would like to think people find theirs eventually

Reply 13

I_am_the_mob

I have two.

lol!

Reply 14

73337

No. I think it's a ridiculous idea. Oh well.

Reply 15

Innuendo_anonymous

I used to believe that there was one person for everyone, but now im not so sure. I think me and my ex were perfect for each other and we didnt break up because we didn't love each other (because of distance). This make me think that we may possibly get back together in the future; weeks, months, years i dont know. If we do get back together, then my answer is yes but if we dont i would still say yes/no. I believe that there a set number of people for each person (more for some than others) that we are compatible with, in which case i guess you could say that all these people are your soulmates.

The problem with this theory is that it could mean that we may never meet our soulmate. So to answer your second question, i'd say that you know that you've found your soulmate when everything all around you could be going to **** (maybe a death of some one close to you or/and you lose your job etc etc) but at the end of the day you can look into each others eyes and still be happy.

Personally i dont know how i feel about soulmates love etc atm. But this is how i used to feel.

Hopefully you get where im coming from :smile:

Reply 16

Knotty

Of course there's no such thing as a soulmate. If there is one person out there for you, out of 6 billion people, how come so many people happen to come across theirs in their everyday life?

It's more a type of person that you're capable of loving, if you ask me.

Reply 17

little-clumsy-me

I_am_the_mob

Do people believe in soulmates or "the one"?

And if you do how do you know if they are "the one" or just "a one"?

i believe in soul mates
i believe u no wen uv never felt the same about a person
and when u feel so different around them
and so happy
and so natural
and ur able to be the complete u without doubtin wether they will like u or not

Reply 18

lookoutapiano!

i believe in soulmates, but i dont think that your soul mate has to be someone you are linked with in a romantic way. i believe it can be a friend too.

as for the one i think that that would be a statistical possiblity! its a nice thought though. and perhaps destiny guides us to this person. you never know.

Reply 19

khil

I dunno if the idea of "the one" is just a romantic notion that people love to believe in cus then they can hope on that they'll find someone right for them at some point in their lives. Or the idea of "the one" could be true.

I do believe that there's someone out there for everyone, but that may not be limited to just one person. What makes "the one" "the one", someone once told me, is that that person cannot be replaced because of the moments and memories that you two share. Those are uniquely linked to the person with whom you built those memories, and that makes them special.

And recently I think I've found out when, in my eyes anyway, you know that you should marry someone. I think it's when you feel and want to be truly one with that person and for them to be rightfully yours, and that "rightfully" is a different, deeper kind than the right you have in a relationship. When their body and life and soul and love are rightfully yours and never to be anyone else's because you alone have the privilege of that. I could be very wrong here, but it's just a conclusion I've made, for now.

I've often wondered why you love someone. What makes them special, what makes you care, even when they've stopped caring?