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Odd trait/quirk

I know this is a really odd question, but what would you think if every so often you go for a day out with people or trip (say collegues or something) and you never saw them eat anything on any of the day outs?

Its just im embarrased and scared to eat in front of certain people, I have many odd quirks no idea why but this is one of them. Certain people have never seen me eat, I usually go to the toilets and eat quickly and im wondering what there thinking. Although I can eat chewing gum in front of them.

Reply 1

recneps

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Er... rather strange. Any reason why you feel scared of eating? Do you feel that you have bad table manners or what?

Do they eat in front of you?

Reply 2

billbonesknowswhatimean

lol

Reply 3

yellow96

15

I don't like eating in front of people, but my love of eating usually cancels it out. Certain people have never seen me eat though; I actively avoid it if I can help it.

Reply 4

herbal bug

12

I think it's weird but i can't say much as personally I'm exactly the same. I can't eat infront of certain people as I for some weird reason feel intimidated.

They have told me that they're worried about me but I just assure them i eat at other times so.. (sorry i can't help much)
x

Reply 5

billbonesknowswhatimean

Thelfo

I don't like eating in front of people, but my love of eating usually cancels it out. Certain people have never seen me eat though; I actively avoid it if I can help it.

haha. i'm a cockney geeza, watch me bleed ya

Reply 6

User69701

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I dont neat in front of people unless large amount of alcohol have been consumed - the amounts i eat make me look piggish.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

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recneps

Er... rather strange. Any reason why you feel scared of eating? Do you feel that you have bad table manners or what?

Do they eat in front of you?

Yeh they do, its like I feel a bit selfish/guilty or something :confused:

I don't know if its related but say if these people take big bags with them and lots of belongings I take a small bag and as little as I can for the same reason I can't understand it myself. I could eat in front of them if I tried obviously but its just uncomfortable.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

Also ive always been really quiet and shy if that helps lol, maybe its part of that?

Reply 9

recneps

10

Odd... have you always done this or is it a recent thing?

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

The eating thing is recent but as kid I felt embarrased to say/hear certain words and still am, but am not as bothered now. I do appear quite normal and people except family (and maybe people who never see me eat) can't see anything odd about me just im quiet and shy. Not that Ive asked but I find it hard to believe that anyone else has the same weird things going on :/

Reply 11

lookoutapiano!

i think its probably just an anxiety thing. maybe you could start by eating little things at a time like a chocolate bar or something and see how you go on and then build it up over time?

i think alot of people have it to some extent. i know i could never go on a date for a meal or anything like that id be far too nervous to eat!

Reply 12

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happywonderingx

i think its probably just an anxiety thing. maybe you could start by eating little things at a time like a chocolate bar or something and see how you go on and then build it up over time?

i think alot of people have it to some extent. i know i could never go on a date for a meal or anything like that id be far too nervous to eat!

I can eat in front of most people its just certain people I dunno why but yea I don't know how people can feel like eating on a first date lol. That would help though starting off small its a good idea, thanks :p:

Ive never told anyone but my parents all this stuff but my mum laughed so Ive never took it serious but really thinking about it theres something not right with me even if I can live with it lol.

Reply 13

40550

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Sometimes its easy to follow what everyone else is doing, to avoid running the risk of being the odd one out. That being said, if you are hungry, your body is telling you to eat. So you probably should. Don't fool yourself, these guys are probably as hungry as you are, unless their stomach is shrunken in some way. Decent people wouldn't reject you for tucking into some grub

Reply 14

Beckysparkle

I'm quite similar although i've found I don't mind eating in groups as there's less attention on me. If I'm not comfortable with the people i find it more difficult as I tend to eat quite slowly and feel embarrassed to have them watch me eat after they've finished etc! I could never have a date which involved eating. That would be a nightmare lol. I had a meal with my boyfriend and all his extended family a couple of months ago and I was nervous enough as it was so I chose a pasta dish as it was quite quick and easy to eat and meant I could quickly swallow and so avoid the awkward silence that comes when somebody asks you a question while you have food in your mouth!! Maybe you could try and eat simple things with people?

Reply 15

space hopper

1

I reckon I'm very similar to you. I don't mind eating in front of people I know well or people I don't know at all, its people i semi-know when i feel uncomfortable. :redface:

Odd. I also have a lot of OCD like things and obsessions going on. Maybe it falls under the OCD/ anxiety/ obsession group of things. Whether you do anything about it or not depends on how much it bothers you...
PM me if you want to chat about it. :smile:

Reply 16

avalanche

To me, from everything you have said, it sounds like you are embarrased of others to think of you as normal/human, what words are you embarrased to say and hear?

Reply 17

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Okilidokili

I reckon I'm very similar to you. I don't mind eating in front of people I know well or people I don't know at all, its people i semi-know when i feel uncomfortable. :redface:

Odd. I also have a lot of OCD like things and obsessions going on. Maybe it falls under the OCD/ anxiety/ obsession group of things. Whether you do anything about it or not depends on how much it bothers you...
PM me if you want to chat about it. :smile:

Thats it its people I know a bit that it happens most with im not bothered if I won't see them ever again or they don't know me. Yeh Ive had a bit of ocd, stuff like shutting doors twice and checking, im not as bad now though.

Beckysparkle that would be awkward I don't know why eating is a social thing lol

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

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avalanche

To me, from everything you have said, it sounds like you are embarrased of others to think of you as normal/human, what words are you embarrased to say and hear?

I actually think your right!! Its words that would indicate that im normal, vunerable :confused:

I won't get into it, it sounds like im attention seeking or something.

At least im not the only one embarrased to eat though

Reply 19

Rutter knows best!

12

i don't really like eating in front of people but i have no problem doing so..

i can't sip, i always gulp down drinks?.. don't know if thats a trait.

i always stroll or stagger in some way when i walk whether i'm sober or not.

i always gouch when i sit aswell, i never really sit up right .

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