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    I've just started my second year at university, and I hate it. I'm living in halls again, and am having trouble connecting with my flatmates, partly because I'm autistic and not good with people, and partly because they're all first years. I kept going this far because I thought that my second year would be better than the first, but I'm more stressed about work and lonelier than before. Should I try to transfer to a university closer to home, where I'd have to change my course, drop out and perhaps try to get a degree online, or keep going and hope it gets better?
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    Do what you think is best for yourself. If you can and are willing to carry on do so, but if you have other options which you'd prefer, then choose them
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    (Original post by Cbarretthome)
    I've just started my second year at university, and I hate it. I'm living in halls again, and am having trouble connecting with my flatmates, partly because I'm autistic and not good with people, and partly because they're all first years. I kept going this far because I thought that my second year would be better than the first, but I'm more stressed about work and lonelier than before. Should I try to transfer to a university closer to home, where I'd have to change my course, drop out and perhaps try to get a degree online, or keep going and hope it gets better?
    You aren't at university to get a social life, you're there to get a degree. I will repeat this as many times as necessary.
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    (Original post by Cbarretthome)
    I've just started my second year at university, and I hate it. I'm living in halls again, and am having trouble connecting with my flatmates, partly because I'm autistic and not good with people, and partly because they're all first years. I kept going this far because I thought that my second year would be better than the first, but I'm more stressed about work and lonelier than before. Should I try to transfer to a university closer to home, where I'd have to change my course, drop out and perhaps try to get a degree online, or keep going and hope it gets better?
    You're in your second year, why waste that? You say you have autism, have you spoken to anyone? Or seen anyone about that at university? If not you should, I'm sure they'd assist in any way possible. After speaking to them see if it's resolved also discuss transferring closer to home if that helps you.

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    (Original post by AngryRedhead)
    You aren't at university to get a social life, you're there to get a degree. I will repeat this as many times as necessary.
    I don't care about going out all the time or anything like that, but I don't think I can cope living here for another two years without at least someone I feel comfortable talking to, which is why I'm considering getting a degree while living at home.
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    (Original post by SMEGGGY)
    You're in your second year, why waste that? You say you have autism, have you spoken to anyone? Or seen anyone about that at university? If not you should, I'm sure they'd assist in any way possible. After speaking to them see if it's resolved also discuss transferring closer to home if that helps you.

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    I talk to someone who's part of the university regularly, and I've told her about this, but she didn't have any practical advice.
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    (Original post by Cbarretthome)
    I've just started my second year at university, and I hate it. I'm living in halls again, and am having trouble connecting with my flatmates, partly because I'm autistic and not good with people, and partly because they're all first years. I kept going this far because I thought that my second year would be better than the first, but I'm more stressed about work and lonelier than before. Should I try to transfer to a university closer to home, where I'd have to change my course, drop out and perhaps try to get a degree online, or keep going and hope it gets better?
    Only you know what is right for you bit something to bare in mind,

    Exposure to something you feel comfortable with little and at your own pace, join a society that you feel you would fit in with.

    Help - possibly you need more emotional and academic support than you are currently being given through your university. Speak to a family member maybe or friend for so memotional support. Also try speaking to a tutor or your student support centre again for better academic advice.

    Aspergic/Dyspraxic so can identify with at least some of what you are going though 😊 Hope it all works out for you whatever you choose!
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    I think you want an answer to something which is a very personal decision an we cnat possibly say whats right for you. I would tend to write down all the issues and then analyse them. Too sleepy to do them now but. I would explore


    1. What are the state of my studies? How well am I doing, what do I want to do and do I need the degree? How well am I likely to do in future based on current scores and how easy you are finding the course. Enjoying the course, but more importantly if its important, useful and I think I cna get a good degree, then that would be the priority.

    2. The other area is your social life. You are feeling lonely. You say you are autistic? You sau you arent good with people? I dont know about the autism, but have you tapped into disabiliyu services, have you had any counseling or support as to how to minimise the impact of your disability and socialise? Have you made a genuine effort to do so and looked at why it hasnt worked and then tried again? I'm not autistic, so I couldnt say, but you should be able to locate advice on how to minimise the effect on your social life? Its up to you to adapt and work out a strategy to make it work.

    Have you tried to make friends, have you asked about being moved, do you koin many societies or go to events, get involved in things? theres plenty of chance to meet people outside just your flatmates?

    If you are doing well, but you are just lonely then I would stay and persevere.
    If you are doing poorly then I might call it a day and start fresh. Not becayse of not making friends, but if you cna see a poor degree is coming then id avoid and start again.

    If your social life is so important and you would stay if you made a few friends, then I would renew my efforts to make friends. I apprciate it will be harder, but thats comes with the disabiliyu. People do manage it.

    If you seriously want to go home, then youd better get researching to find a suiatbel course and unii. If you live at home and making friends was an objective then it will be slightly harder to do so (not impossible), but youd need to make even mre of an effort to socialise.

    I remember a thread several months back about someone who was autistuc and couldnt appreciate the library wasnt the besy place to approach people to make friends.


    People who you cna speak to:
    Tutor
    Disability services
    Student welfare
    Chaplain

    see if theres any opions of being moved, but theres no guarantee your new flatmates would be any better. If thed been second years they could have pre existing friendship networks.

    You would also need to check with student finance and appreciate how your funding would be affected if you withdrew. They will write off one year, but anything more then you have to make a compelling reasons claim.

    Sorry cant be more helpful than that.
 
 
 
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