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    So basically I have been struggling mentally a bit for quite a few years already, but I can't tell if it is something normal / just a teenage-angsty phase that I will grow out of, or it is something that I should not be brushing aside.

    It started when I began year 10 (I am 19 now). my motivation suddenly disappeared. I couldn't care about most things I just didn't give a damn anymore. Unless something NEEDS to be done (homework and exams etc, I still do quite well academically) I would find a million excuses to avoid responsibilities. Every single day I dreaded school knowing that I would have to make the effort to take a 1 hour bus ride and interact with people. Too much work. Previously I tried hard to stay connected with my friends, even though I find socialising excruciatingly exhausting, I began to isolate myself from my friends completely. Hobbies became chores. Meeting people became chores. I don't even have the energy to keep conversations going anymore.

    Whenever there is an event coming up, be it a quick meet-up with an acquaintance or freshers week, I will spend days prior to that event worrying about it and thinking what would go wrong. I remember spending the entire week before a Chinese speaking exam worrying about it and crying the night before because it involved a group discussion lol. I also spent another week worrying all day and night because I would be seeing people that I am not familiar with while seeing a friend off in an airport at the end of that week. The prospect of having to make the effort alone is enough to throw me into a pit of emotional despair.

    There are good days and bad days - good days happen during holidays when there are 0 responsibilities and there is no need to leave the house at all; bad days can get quite bad to the point where I'll just lie on the floor in my room sobbing about my existence for an hour.

    I can't really tell if this is normal or not, because I assume this is something that everyone will experience at some point in their lives. Maybe this is just a low point of my life that lasts a few years, and things might pick themselves up eventually. But I don't know.

    So, all things considered, should I be worried, or should I just let things roll and see how they turn out?
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    It could be a bit of both. It's common to isolate yourself and withdraw when things aren't going your way.

    Refresh your motive for studying and the benefits of putting in the effort. Where do you want your degree to take you? Are you doing this for you?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So basically I have been struggling mentally a bit for quite a few years already, but I can't tell if it is something normal / just a teenage-angsty phase that I will grow out of, or it is something that I should not be brushing aside.

    It started when I began year 10 (I am 19 now). my motivation suddenly disappeared. I couldn't care about most things I just didn't give a damn anymore. Unless something NEEDS to be done (homework and exams etc, I still do quite well academically) I would find a million excuses to avoid responsibilities. Every single day I dreaded school knowing that I would have to make the effort to take a 1 hour bus ride and interact with people. Too much work. Previously I tried hard to stay connected with my friends, even though I find socialising excruciatingly exhausting, I began to isolate myself from my friends completely. Hobbies became chores. Meeting people became chores. I don't even have the energy to keep conversations going anymore.

    Whenever there is an event coming up, be it a quick meet-up with an acquaintance or freshers week, I will spend days prior to that event worrying about it and thinking what would go wrong. I remember spending the entire week before a Chinese speaking exam worrying about it and crying the night before because it involved a group discussion lol. I also spent another week worrying all day and night because I would be seeing people that I am not familiar with while seeing a friend off in an airport at the end of that week. The prospect of having to make the effort alone is enough to throw me into a pit of emotional despair.

    There are good days and bad days - good days happen during holidays when there are 0 responsibilities and there is no need to leave the house at all; bad days can get quite bad to the point where I'll just lie on the floor in my room sobbing about my existence for an hour.

    I can't really tell if this is normal or not, because I assume this is something that everyone will experience at some point in their lives. Maybe this is just a low point of my life that lasts a few years, and things might pick themselves up eventually. But I don't know.

    So, all things considered, should I be worried, or should I just let things roll and see how they turn out?
    This honestly sounds like myself
    I honestly think it could be hormones and also I feel secondary school can make people soo miserable. I entered 2ndary school feeling confident happy I left a sad wreck bullies, pressure, teachers having favourites just must have built up inside.
    I just hope one day we can both feel happy. PM me if you want x
 
 
 
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