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    I'm in my early twenties and, even though it's pretty embarrassing, I've always been really hairy. For the most part, I tried not to think about it too much growing up since I never dated or wanted to be with anyone. Now though, there is someone in my life. We hardly see each other (though that is a tragic tale for another thread) so it's hard enough as it is. I don't even know how long we'll be in each other's lives but I miss him every day that I don't see him. I want to make the most of the time we have together.

    The thing is, I have a major ingrown hair problem which means I can't even let myself do anything with him. I know it may not sound serious but I literally cannot remove hair without having bumps and ingrown hairs all over. My legs are disgusting all the way up. All my life I've had so many body issues and a lot of them I've just learnt to accept I can never change. But this I can't get past. What man expects to get intimate with a girl only for her to have ingrown hairs all over? It's disgusting. I've never known any other girl to have this issue. Whenever I see girls' legs or bikini line, I always look and it makes me feel so *****y. Why can't I just be normal? I don't know what to do. I've been so depressed over this person not being in my life and now that he's back in my life, I feel depressed because I can't let him near me.
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    Assuming he likes you for you, he shouldn't care how your legs look
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    You shouldn't be worried at all!
    If the guy really loves you for who you are then appearance won't matter at all to him because the only thing he'd see is how perfectly you treat him and how amazing your heart is!

    I doubt that he would judge you based on our appearance and hair etc if your dating and it's normal to have hair, honestly it's not a big deal. Be confident in your body and love who you are in order for others to love every part of you
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    wax
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    Have you considered laser or electrolysis?
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    Laser hair removal or deal with it- if he really likes you, he won't care.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm in my early twenties and, even though it's pretty embarrassing, I've always been really hairy. For the most part, I tried not to think about it too much growing up since I never dated or wanted to be with anyone. Now though, there is someone in my life. We hardly see each other (though that is a tragic tale for another thread) so it's hard enough as it is. I don't even know how long we'll be in each other's lives but I miss him every day that I don't see him. I want to make the most of the time we have together.

    The thing is, I have a major ingrown hair problem which means I can't even let myself do anything with him. I know it may not sound serious but I literally cannot remove hair without having bumps and ingrown hairs all over. My legs are disgusting all the way up. All my life I've had so many body issues and a lot of them I've just learnt to accept I can never change. But this I can't get past. What man expects to get intimate with a girl only for her to have ingrown hairs all over? It's disgusting. I've never known any other girl to have this issue. Whenever I see girls' legs or bikini line, I always look and it makes me feel so *****y. Why can't I just be normal? I don't know what to do. I've been so depressed over this person not being in my life and now that he's back in my life, I feel depressed because I can't let him near me.
    True love isn't based on appearance. If I truly loved someone I really wouldn't care on how they looked.
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    Get an IPL machine if you're not blonde or ginger

    £300-500 and you wont have hair growth, so no ingrown hairs
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    (Original post by Eternalflames)
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    I know but it doesn't even look normal. There's black dots all over. If people saw my legs in public, I'd get stared at.

    (Original post by bluemadhatter)
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    I do. I've tried waxing, epilating, shaving, hair removal cream. I even exfoliate now but nothing works.
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    (Original post by TheonlyMrsHolmes)
    Have you considered laser or electrolysis?
    I think it's way too much for electrolysis. It would take ages to remove all the hair and it's very painful.

    (Original post by liquidconfidence)
    Laser hair removal or deal with it- if he really likes you, he won't care.
    I don't have the money for laser atm. Would laser actually eliminate ingrown hairs though?

    (Original post by Shazen)
    True love isn't based on appearance. If I truly loved someone I really wouldn't care on how they looked.
    I know but I feel like he'll have this image of what I look like in his head and it's just not what I am. It's not just about him, this is something that is really getting me down all the time. I wish I could just feel open around him but I'm always restricted in how far I'll let him touch me.

    (Original post by 1010marina)
    Get an IPL machine if you're not blonde or ginger

    £300-500 and you wont have hair growth, so no ingrown hairs
    I've actually thought about this. My only issue is that I don't know if it removes the existing ingrown hairs? Do you know if they do?
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    Stop removing hair if it bothers you that much. Also, people who are worth it won't care.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I think it's way too much for electrolysis. It would take ages to remove all the hair and it's very painful.

    It's not that expensive per session, also you can go weekly and the better the person doing it is, the faster and cheaper it will be.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I think it's way too much for electrolysis. It would take ages to remove all the hair and it's very painful.



    I don't have the money for laser atm. Would laser actually eliminate ingrown hairs though?



    I know but I feel like he'll have this image of what I look like in his head and it's just not what I am. It's not just about him, this is something that is really getting me down all the time. I wish I could just feel open around him but I'm always restricted in how far I'll let him touch me.



    I've actually thought about this. My only issue is that I don't know if it removes the existing ingrown hairs? Do you know if they do?
    Ive not got one but I'll be getting one when I get my student loans -- I have PCOS hirsutism so I get a lot of unwanted hair and I have quite sensitive skin so lots of reactions etc..

    The technology behind it is that it essentially fries the hair root and stops it growing a hair, so it takes a full hair cycle (~3 months++) to stop it completely. So youd still have to deal with it until then... But long term worth the investment I'd say.

    Hair trimmers are quite good... I have a Philips pink stick thing which doesn't give me any reactions (but it's not practical for your whole body)
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    How fast does your hair grow?
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    You could wax and let the hair grow out in areas where there is less (upper thigh) and use Jolene creme bleach to make the hair blonde.
    For in grown hairs you can use conditioner when you shave, use tweezers on your legs to prevent early looking ingrown hairs from developing (scratch surface gently with tweezer). Also ingrown hairs are a legitimate issue to consult with your doctor over or maybe a skin specialist in a clinic that deals with hair/birthmark/fat/tattoo removal.
    With hair removal you've just got to keep tying until you find something that works for you and then keep up with it.

    Also I know this is for you, but still you shouldn't care to much what a guy thinks, would you want to get invested in someone that shallow?



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    (Original post by Nirvana1989-1994)
    Stop removing hair if it bothers you that much. Also, people who are worth it won't care.
    Um no because I don't want to have hairy legs. I just want to be able to remove the hair without it causing such problems.

    (Original post by TheonlyMrsHolmes)
    It's not that expensive per session, also you can go weekly and the better the person doing it is, the faster and cheaper it will be.
    Thanks.

    (Original post by 1010marina)
    Ive not got one but I'll be getting one when I get my student loans -- I have PCOS hirsutism so I get a lot of unwanted hair and I have quite sensitive skin so lots of reactions etc..

    The technology behind it is that it essentially fries the hair root and stops it growing a hair, so it takes a full hair cycle (~3 months++) to stop it completely. So youd still have to deal with it until then... But long term worth the investment I'd say.

    Hair trimmers are quite good... I have a Philips pink stick thing which doesn't give me any reactions (but it's not practical for your whole body)
    I'm just scared to spend all that money if I still have loads of hairs underneath my skin. This seems like my most realistic option though so I will give it a long hard think. And thanks.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Um no because I don't want to have hairy legs. I just want to be able to remove the hair without it causing such problems.



    Thanks.



    I'm just scared to spend all that money if I still have loads of hairs underneath my skin. This seems like my most realistic option though so I will give it a long hard think. And thanks.
    Oh no hairy legs!! And, ask a Dermatologist or something if everything else is causing problems.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I think it's way too much for electrolysis. It would take ages to remove all the hair and it's very painful.



    I don't have the money for laser atm. Would laser actually eliminate ingrown hairs though?



    I know but I feel like he'll have this image of what I look like in his head and it's just not what I am. It's not just about him, this is something that is really getting me down all the time. I wish I could just feel open around him but I'm always restricted in how far I'll let him touch me.



    I've actually thought about this. My only issue is that I don't know if it removes the existing ingrown hairs? Do you know if they do?
    Look at Schrödinger's Cat take that as an example. Imagine a cat being enclosed in a box with a radioactive source and poison that will be released unpredictably. When the source emits radiation, according to Quantum Mechanics the cat is simultaneously believed to be dead and alive but to actually find out you have to open the box. I'm trying to say take a chance and things might not be how you necessarily expect it to be. It could be much better then you actually think.
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    (Original post by Ishax)
    How fast does your hair grow?
    Pretty fast unfortunately.

    (Original post by LillyB14)
    You could wax and let the hair grow out in areas where there is less (upper thigh) and use Jolene creme bleach to make the hair blonde.
    For in grown hairs you can use conditioner when you shave, use tweezers on your legs to prevent early looking ingrown hairs from developing (scratch surface gently with tweezer). Also ingrown hairs are a legitimate issue to consult with your doctor over or maybe a skin specialist in a clinic that deals with hair/birthmark/fat/tattoo removal.
    With hair removal you've just got to keep tying until you find something that works for you and then keep up with it.

    Also I know this is for you, but still you shouldn't care to much what a guy thinks, would you want to get invested in someone that shallow?


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    I know but I'm pretty hairy so I kinda need to remove it all. Thanks for your advice. He's not that shallow but it's just the fact I don't feel normal. 99% of girls just have normal smooth legs when they remove hair so that's what any man would expect. I guess it's just not one of those things people give thought to unless it affects them directly. I just feel like it'd be a let down. Idk, I could list so many things wrong with me but I've just had to get over them. I just wish I could have one thing at least that wasn't wrong with me. People say it shouldn't matter but, realistically, it does. It's off-putting.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know but it doesn't even look normal. There's black dots all over. If people saw my legs in public, I'd get stared at
    Send the hodgetwins an email

    But in all seriousness if you don't have the money for laser treatment atm, I honestly wouldn't give a **** about how my legs look with my partner
 
 
 
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