last sunday (for the first time) i tried to have sex
we had kissed and touched for long enough but i didnt get particularly turned on?!
i was probably about as excited as i would have been had i watched about 60 seconds of porn...
i put my (not fully hard) **** in her anyway but it didnt work out because it hurt her
i had masturbated about 5 hours prior to that encounter
im worried as to why i wasnt very excited?
How excited are you expecting to be?! Its not like steam will start coming out of your ears.
My advice, calm down, and have a little chat with your girl. IMO the way to go is "I am fine to fool around, and if we have sex, great! but if not lets just have fun"
Hopefully that will reduce any performance anxiety you might be feeling.
Also foreplay is your best friend!! Unless your packing a bratwurst you really should be hurting her much, especially if you were not 100% up.
Just try to remember, most people thing the first time is going to be all fireworks, but the important thing is you both have fun. Dont try having sex until your both 100% ready.
the fact that you'd had a bit of a solo marathon beforehand probs didn't help mate. it's like trying have a nice meal after 5 hours of gorging yourself on crap: you won't feel up to it and the food won't taste as good.. so to speak
well if it happens again and ur no "fully" excited then y dont u ask her if she could help u out a bit u kno say summut like "my head is full of things, help me take my mind off things??" but not cheesy lmao. maybe you were nervous about it?
did it probably hurt her because she wasnt excited enough (she isnt a virgin; she had sex 2 times when she was 15, now 17)?
and i thought i should masturbate first; i hadnt for about a week
probably because she aint done it for a long time it hurt her.... and may have been best to help urself as u would have exploded much quicker if u hadnt. well to prevent it from hurting her maybe u shld have made her more excited........ 4play n all that jazz (did u spend long on that or rush into things?) would have made it easier for her too....
she was wet & initiated it
Sounds to me like you were just a little nervous. Like its been said, try calimg down a bit and just enjoy in all one step at a time, never underestmate the power of foreplay either!
It hurts her the first time - use lube, it'll help. Might also help if she goes on top and lowers herself at her own pace.
As for you, get worked up a bit first. Get her to tease you a bit or something. Tell her what you like! Arousal doesn't always just happen by itself.
yer good point, allow her to lower herself onto u. It wouldnt have hurt her as much as it would have her first time, but like i sed earlier she may just not be used to it.......... did she say it hurt?
did you both carry on or did u have to stop?.....
it never really started; it hurt as soon as i put it in
i feel a bit bad that she wasnt aroused enough by me
aww don't be... maybe she was embaressed, or nervous you never know. But dont put yourself down okies. next time it will be beter i expect. Just take all the info into account.... make her want u more by teasing thats always good. any other problems???
try,try,try,try,try...........ag ain, oh, and try again
If you weren't aroused, then maybe it's the girl? Do you actually like her - as in, do you find her sexually attractive?
Spend longer on foreplay, anyway. Can't be a bad thing, really, haha.