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    Its pretty normal to find getting/maintaining an erection difficult during your first number of times having sex. Its usually caused by psychological issues such as you just worrying about whether or not you cant get it up! I know how it feels with the lack of excitement part.. you have to talk to your partner and get her to do things that really turn you on.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i feel a bit bad that she wasnt aroused enough by me
    Don't feel bad, it's not your fault - if a woman is out of practice, sex is something you have to work to get back into doing - it sounds graphic, but an unused vagina will tighten up again (you know, at least for young women who haven't had kids or anything) to a certain extent, it's gonna hurt. Takes a bit of practice to 'loosen up a bit', as it were.
    Don't either of you be put off, just use loads of lube and go slowly.
    What hurts is when a guy expects to just jump right in and start thrusting away immediately. Ease it in, leave it in for a bit, have a wriggle to get comfortable with the feeling, THEN get to movement...
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    (Original post by Music_Enthusiast)
    Its pretty normal to find getting/maintaining an erection difficult during your first number of times having sex. Its usually caused by psychological issues such as you just worrying about whether or not you cant get it up! I know how it feels with the lack of excitement part.. you have to talk to your partner and get her to do things that really turn you on.
    Yep..!! true both of you need to feel as ease foreplay!! lube relax together etc!!
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    Yep..!! true both of you need to feel as ease foreplay!! lube relax together etc!!
    Oh my word, hes back.
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    (Original post by Music_Enthusiast)
    Oh my word, hes back.
    :bawling:
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    (Original post by sam_sam)
    the fact that you'd had a bit of a solo marathon beforehand probs didn't help mate. it's like trying have a nice meal after 5 hours of gorging yourself on crap: you won't feel up to it and the food won't taste as good.. so to speak
    you have a lot to learn, after five hours he would have been absolutly fine.

    OP id say it was nerves, the first tim no matter how "ready" you are will always have you fretting, take it slow and dont set youself a timetableit just ads more pressure

    just go with the flow
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    my first time we were like 'ok, chances are this is going to be **** first time round, so lets just have a 'training session''. Took the pressure right off and it turned out to be good. perhaps saying something like that might help?
 
 
 
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