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no councellor (long rant)

for a couple of months before breaking up for summer holiday i was seeing college councellor. i struggled to turn up every week as i didn't feel confident talking to her. now im not in contact with her im really struggling. normally i turn to my boyfriend for a shoulder and an ear. he's been camping for 6 days and its really hard as i have no one to talk to. my best friend is also away, and i've been stuck indoors for weeks now. as my mother was against me going camping with my boyfriend. starting to go mad.

yes im missing my friends but its more my mother driving me around the twist. im getting so stressed out. results are soon (failed first time) - mother putting alot of pressure on me. she doesnt talk to me, even if i initiate the conversation. she keeps teasing me about me missing my boyfriend, and how she is getting a really embarassing fancy dress costume for my 18th. im not being treated like a 17 year old, nearly 18. she likes humilliating me, even to the extent that she gets my spots in public.

sorry just needed to get that off my chest.
Reply 1
email your college counsellor?
Reply 2
very good idea. could do with that but i am unable as college email is down over summer - you cant access it. :frown:
Heya,

I completely understand how it feels to suddenly lose the support and guidance of a counsellor; the same thing happened to me last summer. I finished my counselling in the June (had my counselling at college too) and then i spent the summer without counselling and it was very, very tough. I tried to book myself in to see a new counsellor through a private company but the waiting list was so long that i didn't get seen in the summer. I ended up emailing the samaritans a lot, and dropped in once to see someone face to face. It really helped me get through those really tough days (i would also like to add i wasn't suicidal, many people have the misconception that the Samaritans is just to help those with suicidal feelings, it's not). Could you try talking to your friends? I know that helped me an awful lot, as did going for long walks/ runs and taking time out for myself to think and unwind (i'm very fortunate to live about 3 minutes away from huge parks/ fields and rivers). Hang on in there, it won't be this bad forever, i promise.
polarbear89
very good idea. could do with that but i am unable as college email is down over summer - you cant access it. :frown:

That's annoying. Anyway, to reassure you about results, a lot of people only realise they've truly mucked up in their second year of A-levels, I certainly saw a lot of familiar faces in my second year of college. Mildly surreal. And the fancy dress 18th doesn't sound great.
But, you do have an excellent taste in music, 'cause let's face it, the ol' Barenakeds rock. I'd love to give some great advice, but really, I'd just listen to music to take my mind off of it until the ol' boyfriend got back. Not that I have an old boyfriend.
Reply 5
yer with the 18th. it was supposed to be me and my mates in a pub dressing up. mother thought it would be an amazing idea to invite the whole family. lol.

if i do pass it will be my 3rd year, and i only get on with a select few people, and the closest people are going to uni. im dreading results because it also means my boyfriend will be going to coventry. i think im so low because i have had no contact with him. uni will be fine compared to this.

thanks for the help. alot of the barenaked ladies' songs make me think about him. and im prone to random crying. lol
Reply 6
Is there anywhere that you could see another counsellor like at a health centre?
Reply 7
i would but not sure where nearest is. and my mum has to know exactly where im going, how long i will be. she will probably be against the idea of me walking just anywhere. i cant even get out of the house for fresh air.
Reply 8
Keep a diary. In another language if possible. And put a lock on it.