troubled by being a blended family

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    Hello in the past couple days I feel troubled by being a blended family.My step-father is black I am white.I am tired of people asking me personal questions at school for example who is this?I answer my dad and they would say are you adopted?I am tired of people asking me what jobs my parents do and personal questions.

    My biological father who I have no relationship with and call him by his name is not present which is ok it is his loss, not mine.I struggle with the fact that I am craving that family feel that Hollywood has promised and well it is complicated as his family give me the feeling they don't really want to be a family I have never met them though.I just wish we could be a normal family I lie to myself that we are, we use the titles of father daughter etc to make it easier to convince ourselves that we are a normal family but I feel as if we aren't I feel conflicted by this lacking family structure I would like to know how it truly feels to have that family structure which I never experienced.I know it may be too much to ask for I just feel hollow inside I try my hardest to replicate the family structure and try my hardest to make it feel like it but I am only living a lie telling myself we are a family because no one will love me as much as I love them.
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    Hollywood hasn't promised anythingl each family is different and is, in its own way, broken.

    Also, saying you come from a "blended family" just makes me think of cheap Scotch.
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    Is your step-father a decent guy? If so, perhaps you should appreciate him for what he is and ignore all the ignorance questions.
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    (Original post by Anonymous1502)
    Hello in the past couple days I feel troubled by being a blended family.My step-father is black I am white.I am tired of people asking me personal questions at school for example who is this?I answer my dad and they would say are you adopted?I am tired of people asking me what jobs my parents do and personal questions.
    I've nothing worthwhile to contribute to your actual problem (sorry), but just so you know people would still be asking you questions like this about your parents regardless of race.*
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    It has nothing to do with other people.
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    Blended? I prefer pulp free.

    But in all honesty, this is between you and your stepfather. Now I don't know you so I can't really give any suggestions but talk to him? Try and see if you guys can create the family structure you crave (wow I sound like a cheap dr Phil)

    Smh ignore people, they'll always be asking stupid questions regardless of whether your dad is the same race as you or not. Most of the time they're just curious but come off as....uh like a really *****y person

    Best to just ignore them
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    (Original post by airportsh8me)
    Blended? I prefer pulp free.

    But in all honesty, this is between you and your stepfather. Now I don't know you so I can't really give any suggestions but talk to him? Try and see if you guys can create the family structure you crave (wow I sound like a cheap dr Phil)

    Smh ignore people, they'll always be asking stupid questions regardless of whether your dad is the same race as you or not. Most of the time they're just curious but come off as....uh like a really *****y person

    Best to just ignore them
    Thank you.
 
 
 
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