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    Hi, I've been at university for 1 week now, and I'm just really not sure if this is for me. I have tried fitting in and making friends but everyone just seems to be getting on better with other people that I am, and I haven't really clicked with anyone yet, whereas my flatmates all seemed to have done. I'm also having second thoughts about my course, and whether or not I would prefer some kind of apprenticeship or something. How much longer shall I leave it before I really know what I want? I just feel like you're meant to fall in love with Uni during freshers week, and that hasn't happened for me yet.
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    Freshers week is completely different to the rest of the year.

    Once classes get underway and there is more of a routine you will have a better idea what the uni is actually like. Making friends happens throughout the year too, as you meet so many different groups of people in societies and at events.
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    I agree with above. Freshers week is closer to a week in Ibiza than university life to be honest. Make sure that you join at least one society/sports team and stick with it. If not, make effort to talk to people on your course.
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    (Original post by magratgarlick)
    Freshers week is completely different to the rest of the year.

    Once classes get underway and there is more of a routine you will have a better idea what the uni is actually like. Making friends happens throughout the year too, as you meet so many different groups of people in societies and at events.
    This pretty much. Unless you either feel like partying is the be-all-and-end-all of the Uni life or you didn't make any attempt to socialize whatsoever fresher's week really doesn't mean anything in the grand scheme of things. It's just another money-making scheme and once you get to the December holiday it's likely that no-one will even remember much about it.
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    How you feel is completely normal. However, you do need to get out there and make an active effort in finding friends. Not everyone loves their flatmates which is totally understandable as you don't really get a choice in your first year, and this is why making friends on your course and joining societies is really important. Ask people questions about themselves - how they feel about uni so far, what course they're doing (if you're talking to someone from a society you've joined), if they're enjoying the experience, etc. People are generally a little self-centred so getting them to talk about themselves is a great way to get the ball rolling.

    This won't be possible for the everyone, but if you're really struggling, it'd be great to meet up with people from your uni who you attended school/college with (assuming that you're on good terms with each other ofc). You can then go out together and socialise as a group, and if you want to branch out after that, you can do so.
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    (Original post by AbbeyLeigh20)
    Hi, I've been at university for 1 week now, and I'm just really not sure if this is for me. I have tried fitting in and making friends but everyone just seems to be getting on better with other people that I am, and I haven't really clicked with anyone yet, whereas my flatmates all seemed to have done. I'm also having second thoughts about my course, and whether or not I would prefer some kind of apprenticeship or something. How much longer shall I leave it before I really know what I want? I just feel like you're meant to fall in love with Uni during freshers week, and that hasn't happened for me yet.
    Hello ,

    It's a shame to hear that's how you've started off your university life but as someone has stated, Freshers Week is fairly different to the rest of the year. I'd say if you're feeling unsure, wait it out until the end of your first term and then see how you feel. Get involved in your classes and the university life a bit more and then see how you feel. It's early days yet.

    Good luck
 
 
 
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