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Arrrgh well this is mostly a rant tbh. I'm feeling kinda down atm, me and my boyfriend haven't been together too long and I've not seen him for nearly 2 weeks now which is quite a while for us and everything just feels weird. I talk to him over text and online each night but for the last couple of days he's just been acting like he doesn't really care, like he doesn't really want to speak to me. Ok and basically I'm over-reacting, i keep stressing out over little things (inside - not to other people) i've always been irrational with the way i think. So because my bf is acting strangely i immediately think that he wants to split up or something. I know this is all jumbled up and not really understandable but its hard to explain. I just can't help looking at the worst case scenario all the time, and it gets me down. I don't know how i can stop worrying all the time about everything.
I've got low confidence, low self-esteem, basically low everything lol. And my boyfriends fantastic. I'm just so scared I'm going to screw it up because i worry so much about every little thing.
So I'm looking for advice really, about how i can stop worrying so much, how i can reassure myself because eventually it'll start effecting other people. I just don't have any kind of rational thoughts, i jump to conclusions and i want so much not to. Thanks
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I think you need to talk to him and also you need to have a little more trust in him.
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:hugs:

Try telling your boyfriend how you are feeling- if he knows how you feel, he might change his attitude towards your relationship.

If you want to control your thoughts a bit more, I advise that when you jump to a conclusion and then worry, you should think about other possible outcomes and weigh up the real likelihood of your idea occuring. Pretend to be a mediator, as if a friend of yours wanted to know something.
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I do talk to him, thats why i wanted to be with him tbh because i really feel i can confide in him. i just feel sometimes that it bothers him, which i understand i mean it'd get to me if someone kept worrying. Because i know it seems like i don't trust him or have faith in him - but i do, i just don't have any faith in me. Confusing i know.
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I do talk to him, thats why i wanted to be with him tbh because i really feel i can confide in him. i just feel sometimes that it bothers him, which i understand i mean it'd get to me if someone kept worrying. Because i know it seems like i don't trust him or have faith in him - but i do, i just don't have any faith in me. Confusing i know.
But you don't know that it's bothering him that you feel that way.

You really do need to get some confidence back- it will be hard to do, but worth it. But what exactly is stopping you from feeling confident in yourself?
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I just find it hard to find anything to be confident about. I really cant find any good things about me. And i feel like any time i start feeling a bit better something happens and i feel worse again. I really do want to be more confident i just don't know how.
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I just find it hard to find anything to be confident about. I really cant find any good things about me. And i feel like any time i start feeling a bit better something happens and i feel worse again. I really do want to be more confident i just don't know how.
TBH I have some self-confidence issues about my body. And I still consider myself to be confident otherwise. But as far as personality goes, I find that the best thing to think is, "I am who I am, if people don't like me for who I am they can forget it."
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you sound like my ex gf ... she worried too too too much .. eventually lead to separation ... :eek2:
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you sound like my ex gf ... she worried too too too much .. eventually lead to separation ... :eek2:
So reassuring....
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Thanks Namakemono, your advice has been really helpful I'm going to try my best to think more positively about myself at least personality wise, hopefully it'll have some kind of positve effect.
And thankyou for the post Hasnain, have to say it made me feel pretty bad when i first read it lol, but its a good reminder of what can happen if i carry on worrying so much.
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Thanks Namakemono, your advice has been really helpful I'm going to try my best to think more positively about myself at least personality wise, hopefully it'll have some kind of positve effect.
And thankyou for the post Hasnain, have to say it made me feel pretty bad when i first read it lol, but its a good reminder of what can happen if i carry on worrying so much.
No worries If you need to talk s'more, feel free to PM me (Y)
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... sorry for making you feel bad .. wasn't my intention
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