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    all my life I've been in small schools and never really became 'close' friends with anyone in particular. I'm the girl who's friends with everyone but has no close group of friends. I was hoping for advice on how I can become close with friends and any tips. It's not that I try to be friends with everyone but I'm just nice to everyone In General. I know a lot of people who meet people and a week later are best buddies...what is it that they do that makes them different?? how can I become close friends with particular people without looking like a creep who's joining them. advice would be helpful as I'm going into uni next year
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    I always spread my self out so thin that I don't have close friends. I have lots of acquaintances and people I know but I'm not close with anyone really. how can I get closer to people. I don't know what I can say or do to make close friends... so people become best friends with people after a week of meeting them. HOW?? a I'm going into uni next year and advice would be aprrectiated.
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    (Original post by Hashemite)
    I always spread my self out so thin that I don't have close friends. I have lots of acquaintances and people I know but I'm not close with anyone really. how can I get closer to people. I don't know what I can say or do to make close friends... so people become best friends with people after a week of meeting them. HOW?? a I'm going into uni next year and advice would be aprrectiated.
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    (Original post by Hashemite)
    all my life I've been in small schools and never really became 'close' friends with anyone in particular. I'm the girl who's friends with everyone but has no close group of friends. I was hoping for advice on how I can become close with friends and any tips. It's not that I try to be friends with everyone but I'm just nice to everyone In General. I know a lot of people who meet people and a week later are best buddies...what is it that they do that makes them different?? how can I become close friends with particular people without looking like a creep who's joining them. advice would be helpful as I'm going into uni next year
    Well I am this kind of person whom people don't like alot and my best friends usually dump me but it's like i started gym last week and i just keep smiling to everyone and i made a friend in just a week.
    Basically, you go and start talking to someone or ask them out for a game or shopping and text them alot to make 'em feel special!
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    i dont have the courage to go up and talk to someone, i feel judged. what do you say to them without making it awkward? and... for a game? ha what do u mean

    (Original post by Aimen.)
    Well I am this kind of person whom people don't like alot and my best friends usually dump me but it's like i started gym last week and i just keep smiling to everyone and i made a friend in just a week.
    Basically, you go and start talking to someone or ask them out for a game or shopping and text them alot to make 'em feel special!
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    i dont have the courage to go up and talk to someone, i feel judged. what do you say to them without making it awkward? and... for a game? ha what do u mean
    You would never make friends if you don't get the fear out!
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    Smile, ask what they like, sports, hobbies etc. what they are studying, where they're working, do they have a big family etc. you play a sort of ping pong game - you ask a question they answer, you listen to them and ask another etc. Be interested.

    I think people make close friends when they offer more intimacy ie they tell the other person personal things about themselves, innermost feelings and share problems. They are getting past small talk. They may also have interests in common, combine to fulfill a goal. Easiest to do when you go somewhere where you'll meet people with a similar outlook, an interest in common - join a reading, dramatic, sports' club, political party, go to classes, help at a charity - by concentrating on a common purpose you'll relax and the relationships will follow.
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    (Original post by Hashemite)
    all my life I've been in small schools and never really became 'close' friends with anyone in particular. I'm the girl who's friends with everyone but has no close group of friends. I was hoping for advice on how I can become close with friends and any tips. It's not that I try to be friends with everyone but I'm just nice to everyone In General. I know a lot of people who meet people and a week later are best buddies...what is it that they do that makes them different?? how can I become close friends with particular people without looking like a creep who's joining them. advice would be helpful as I'm going into uni next year
    I was like this at school. Trust me uni is completely different, you are much more likely to make friends there! goodluck!!
 
 
 
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