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Don't know where my head is right now (girl problem)

Let me fill you in on the situation. I have currently just finished my 1st year at university and go back in September.

I met Girl A and Girl B at the start of the year and hit it off with both. I became friends with both. Girl A was in a long term relationship and even though I fancied her like nobody ever before I respected her relationship and so didn't make a move.

Girl B and I really got close at the end of the 3rd term and became BF/GF about a few weeks before the end of term. We have kept in contact over the hols and were originally planning to continue after the summer (we live really far apart, I'm international).

I was originally holding out for girl A, because she is the girl of my dreams, I've never had such a personality click with anyone else before and she is the most stunning girl I have ever seen (not conventionally stunning, but I've got a strange 'type' and she is 1000000% my 'type'). However after seeing their relationship survive a 5 years prior and a year at uni I thought it was never going to end and so left her go, getting together with girl B.

However I go on facebook today and see girl A has ended her relationship with the guy and is now single!! Now my first thought upon seeing this was to dance and jump around the room shouting 'yippee!!!!', before I remembered I already have a GF.

Now to make things even more complicated I'm living with girl A next year.

So now I don't know what to do. I still really really really (x100000) like girl A, but I'm already in a relationship with girl B. I don't know if I should continue with girl B because of the way I reacted to girl A's singleness means I'm totally still in love with her (crush). I don't know if asking girl A out would be a good idea because I'm living with her so it would be awkward if she said no and could ruin the friendship.

Sorry about that rather random confusing thread, I don't even know really what I'm asking, I guess just advice, words of wisdom, your thoughts on the situation would be great :smile:

Sorry for anon, but all parties involved use TSR.

Reply 1

gbduo

You have only been going out with Girl B for like a couple of weeks, if you are infatuated with Girl A so much, your relationship with Girl B is never going to work. I would say try your luck with Girl A, it is a risky strategy as you could lose both girls, but hey, thats love.

Reply 2

reisen

i totally agree with the person above, its pointless being with girl B if u feel that strongly for girl A. You don't necessarily have to straight up ask her out, just see how things develop when you live together, make sure she feels the same before u jump in, perhaps damaging things.

Reply 3

anon21

Mate, go for girl A. You seem to feel so strongly about her that it would be a crying shame if u didnt. Lifes too short to miss opportunities like this.

Girl A.

Just make sure you don't hurt girl B too much :redface:

Reply 6

FFCrusader

Just make sure you don't hurt girl B too much

agreed, go for girl A but let girl B down gently :smile:

Reply 7

Music_Enthusiast

Deciding to live girl A wasn't the best move if you're planning on starting a relationship.

Girl A.

Thanks for the replies so far, I've decided to see how things go next term.

She has definitely broke up with him I hear from a 3rd party.

As I said I'm international so there is no chance of seeing her before I go back, so I will just gauge the situation. Let her get over her ex and see if I think she likes me back.

Out of curiosity though, how do you guys think should I go about leaving Girl B should the situation arise?

Saying 'I only went out with you because I thought the girl of my dreams was going to end up marrying this guy. Guess what, I was wrong' doesn't seem to be a very tactful way to deal with the situation :frown:

Reply 10

cullmac

if your living with girl A next year i wouldnt risk making any moves on her until you know the feelings are mutual... you wouldnt want to make things awkward for an entire year and plus as im sure anyone who has just come out of a long term relationship will agree with me on this one.. her head will be all over the place anyway for quite a long time.
However your relationship with girl B does sound like its going to end up nowhere, especially if you already would rather be with someone else. Breaking up with someone is never easy, i wouldnt mention girl A at all, as you have said it isnt a very tactful way around it, just tell her that your heart is not in it 100%.

Reply 11

Champagne Breakfast

Pabs666

maybe u shuld make sure she has broken up with her boyfriend. her changing her facebook status to single or wateva dosent really mean much

Blasphemy! Facebook never lies.

^ Lol.

my friend is in a similar situation too so I understand where you're coming from :wink:

Hmm probably girl A by the looks of it. But you NEED to call off the relationship between you and girl B as soon as possible. won't be fair on her if you dragged on the meaningless relationship longer which would just hurt her more if she found out the truth. Why did you get into a relationship with girl B if you didn't like her in the first place??