Major crush on a girl in a relationship

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    HELP.

    I've known this girl for years, we met through mutual friends when we were 15/16 and we've always had good flirty banter. Anyway due to going to uni, growing up etc we haven't seen each other for a good few years although we have regular interaction on social media (liking and commenting on each others pictures etc). When we first met I only ever saw her a friend and nothing more. However, I recently bumped into her in a restaurant (ironically I was on a date with someone else) and I just couldn't take my eyes off her. She looked incredible, and again we exchanged a bit of flirty banter.
    When I got home I stalked her on social media (obvs) and noticed she had a boyfriend. I was gutted to say the least... I shrugged my shoulders and gave up on that idea, at least I thought I did... because over a month has gone by since we bumped into each other and I can't stop thinking about her.
    I came out of a three year relationship last October, and I've not been attracted to anyone as attracted I was to my ex until I bumped into this girl again. I'm normally quite a confident guy, especially talking to girls, but I was so nervous when I saw her!

    What do I do? I don't want to me the guy who breaks up (or tried to break up) a relationship, but at the same time I really want her! Should I start a conversation with her? Even if I do, what do I say? Am I allowed to be flirty? I don't want to scare her away...

    DAMN, I feel like I'm back in year 5, hahaha. HELP!
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    (Original post by adollop)
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    What do I do? I don't want to me the guy who breaks up (or tried to break up) a relationship, but at the same time I really want her! Should I start a conversation with her? Even if I do, what do I say? Am I allowed to be flirty? I don't want to scare her away...
    You say nothing to her. Leave her relationship alone and find another girl. You shouldn't initiate a conversation with her either if you feel this way because you'll only end up liking her more and feeling worse that she's giving all her attention to her boyfriend.
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    Let this ship sail, far away, to another sea, straight to the Bermuda triangle
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    You sound like a *******, every girl should run away from you.
 
 
 
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