Hi guys, I'm starting uni tomorrow and I literally feel so upset. I want a degree but I'm moving away and I don't feel 100% about the university I've chosen. I've literally cried so many times today over it whenever I think about it I start crying. I'm not gonna see my mum tomorrow so she said goodbye to me today and she was hugging me and crying I felt so sad. When going to uni you should feel excited but I just feel so upset and anxious I feel physically sick and stressed over it I feel sick just thinking about it. I want to make new friends but I'm just in two minds about going to university because I'm not sure about the uni I've chosen and the fact that I'll be away from my family but at the same time I don't want to waste a year taking a gap year. I just feel so upset and sick about leaving I don't know what to do. Any help guys?
Moving away from home for Uni is a big step, but you got to remember home is only a train ride away and you can see your family more than you think, There is also phone calls and video chat you can do to keep your connection with home and be in touch a lot more. It is a big step as said but you will be fine just remember its easy to go home and see your family and they are a phone call away.
Which university and to do what course?
You should listen to your gut, and you clearly don't want to go. So don't - taking a gap year isn't wasting a year, especially if you're in a better place and go to a university you want to go to next year
You can always quit. What's the harm in quitting when it gets tough?
You need to sort out what are the most importnat factors and how serious they are .
Homesickness= usual- most people get over it and thrive- if not consider whether being somewhere closer to home.-
Degree choice= yoy will be getting £45,000 into debt and 3 years of tour life., so make sur its soemthing you wnat and will enjoy or be able to cope with.
Uni= if its not the one you wnat, then consider a hap year and maybe retakes so you cna go soemwhere else.
You have had time to think about this.
The worst mistake is to go somewhere where you are unhappy for 3 years at a place you dont wnat to be in a subject you dont enjoy.
Most people deal with homesickness just fine. You have to decide if its just fear becayse its your first time away and you are naxious or whether its soemthing more deep seated. Talk to friends, your mum , teacher anyone you know who is sound and rlatively calm or has been to uni. If yopu quit do it witin 14 days.
Also I just don't feel 100% passionate about the uni. When I went to open days such a Nott Trent and other unis I really liked it but didn't apply because if the reputation but now I'm thinking I made a mistake because I don't feel truly happy going to the uni I've chosen and also my accomodation isn't on campus
I felt exactly the same way, throughout all of summer I couldn't stop wobbling and had extreme anxiety about the whole thing; I wasn't sure on course or uni and so I decided there was no point in starting something that I'm obviously not ready for. I've now deferred my place for a year and feel much more relaxed and have finally stopped having meltdowns.
I'm not saying this is what you should do but I believe there should be some part of you that is excited for uni, even just a little. I was just dreading it.
A gap year really isn't a waste of time if you find something to do, one of my friends is going back to college whilst I am continuing at my job until Christmas to earn some money before I go travelling!
Hope I've helped ☺️
I'll probably sound stupid now but the city that I'm going to for uni I spent a week there before in the summer and I didn't really like it that much... It's a nice city but I don't feel like it's for me
But I'm looking on Facebook and seeing photos of people from my uni partying and that's making me think everyone's out there having a good time and then there's me ...