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    I'm in sixth form/ still living with my parents.

    I sat down and thought about it and I realised that I only really "use" my dad materialistically.

    In fact it's gotten so bad I don't even like it when he now tries to form some kind of relationship, I'm used to not spending time with him or just being hurt by **** he says. I just go to him when I need stuff or money.

    I pretty much buy whatever I want with his money, granted I don't ask for *that* much. As soon as I start earning, I'll probably become alot more distant.

    I feel like I should feel bad about this:
    Anyone else only see their parents as a money machine?
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    No because some people are grateful to their parents for everything they've done for them.
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    No.

    Depends on how much "money" you ask for. My parents help me out here and there, as much as they can. I certainly don't think I just use them for money though.

    If you expect your parents to buy materialistic and designer things then, yes.
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    No lol, wtf is wrong with you?
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    No.

    Depends on how much "money" you ask for. My parents help me out here and there, as much as they can. I certainly don't think I just use them for money though.

    If you expect your parents to buy materialistic and designer things then, yes.
    What else do you use them for then?

    I don't "expect" anything, they just do...
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    You sound like a wonderful person. Maybe your children will do that to you one day.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What else do you use them for then?

    I don't "expect" anything, they just do...
    You're not supposed to use your parents.
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    If I knew where the **** was pshh yea I would
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    (Original post by UWS)
    You sound like a wonderful person. Maybe your children will do that to you one day.
    not really into having multiple of the specimen
    nice comment btw, I don't mind if they would since I don't really see what else parents are there for other than providing?
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    (Original post by Ishax)
    You're not supposed to use your parents.
    what are you supposed to do with them then?
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    I have such a toxic relationship with my dad. I generally try not to talk to him, unless it comes to money. I am completely dependent on him for it, and I hate it. :sigh:
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    I'm not even particularly keen on my Dad, which is sad, but of course I depend on him financially - although I live frugally for the most part. Not that I see him just as a money machine, but I certainly don't place him on a pillar or particularly want to spend much time with him. He's a pretty toxic person, and I don't feel bad about recognizing that, some people just are a bit rotten on the inside.

    I don't feel bad about that, because I feel it's the responsibility of a parent, and I wouldn't think twice about sacrificing far more when it
    s my turn for the good of my own children.
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    Parents support you.
    You show appreciation through actions, gestures...yada yada.

    You don't sound like the nicest of people though :/
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm in sixth form/ still living with my parents.

    I sat down and thought about it and I realised that I only really "use" my dad materialistically.

    In fact it's gotten so bad I don't even like it when he now tries to form some kind of relationship, I'm used to not spending time with him or just being hurt by **** he says. I just go to him when I need stuff or money.

    I pretty much buy whatever I want with his money, granted I don't ask for *that* much. As soon as I start earning, I'll probably become alot more distant.

    I feel like I should feel bad about this:
    Anyone else only see their parents as a money machine?
    Why do you use him only for money?
    Is he not a good dad except for that?
    No parental bonding? You hint at the fact he's let you down?
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    (Original post by MyunrequitedLove)
    Parents support you.
    You show appreciation through actions, gestures...yada yada.

    You don't sound like the nicest of people though :/
    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Why do you use him only for money?
    Is he not a good dad except for that?
    No parental bonding? You hint at the fact he's let you down?
    well I wouldn't say he's a "bad" dad but I don't really know what makes a good one? All he does is give me money so I don't really expect anything else.

    Yeah no bonding not that I'd want to spend time with him nowadays anyway, and he has no emotional understanding, he's also really unsupportive verbally he just expects us to do well I've never heard him say anything positive to me - only ever put me down if I **** up. I think he means well though.

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    Parents support you.
    You show appreciation through actions, gestures...yada yada.

    You don't sound like the nicest of people though :/
    what actions can I show appreciation through?
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    Sounds like he just throws money at you to make up for or as his idea of parenting.
    Do well in your exams for yourself. Too late to have drama questioning your relationship with your dad.
    Get on well with your mum?

    You might sort it out later in life.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm in sixth form/ still living with my parents.

    I sat down and thought about it and I realised that I only really "use" my dad materialistically.

    In fact it's gotten so bad I don't even like it when he now tries to form some kind of relationship, I'm used to not spending time with him or just being hurt by **** he says. I just go to him when I need stuff or money.

    I pretty much buy whatever I want with his money, granted I don't ask for *that* much. As soon as I start earning, I'll probably become alot more distant.

    I feel like I should feel bad about this:
    Anyone else only see their parents as a money machine?
    No because it's disrespectful to treat your parents like that, if I want something I will work and save up to get it myself.
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    (Original post by AngryRedhead)
    No because it's disrespectful to treat your parents like that, if I want something I will work and save up to get it myself.
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    I am kind of the same, but mine only visits me once a week...

    Am I in the wrong?
 
 
 
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