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    This is my third day at uni and I am already feeling like crying, I have some people to hang around with , but there is a disco going on today and I have no one to go with. I went to the bar on my own had a drink and went back. My flatmates are party animals and do not talk to me for some reason, they do it sometimes when I come to their flat (they usually hang around with flatmates from the opposite flat.
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    If you have a ticket to the LCR tonight just go along, you will find people to talk to as loads of people meet at the events on campus rather than through their flatmates!

    If you don't click with you flatmates societies and your course mates are a great way to make friends Did you go along to the society fair today? If you did, try some of the welcome events for them, if you didn't go on the Student Union website and there is a HUGE list of societies you can join and then attend the welcome events. The Sports fair is tomorrow too so if you want to do hockey or fencing or whatever you can meet people that way too.

    Also just keep in mind the first couple of weeks people generally cling to whoever they meet first, as everyone is in the same situation, it's all new and no-one knows anyone - within a few weeks friendship groups will start to change so if you don't immediately click with everyone don't worry - I made friends in the meantime but I didn't really get to know some of my closest uni friends until January of my first year!
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    (Original post by Clur.M.)
    If you have a ticket to the LCR tonight just go along, you will find people to talk to as loads of people meet at the events on campus rather than through their flatmates!

    If you don't click with you flatmates societies and your course mates are a great way to make friends Did you go along to the society fair today? If you did, try some of the welcome events for them, if you didn't go on the Student Union website and there is a HUGE list of societies you can join and then attend the welcome events. The Sports fair is tomorrow too so if you want to do hockey or fencing or whatever you can meet people that way too.

    Also just keep in mind the first couple of weeks people generally cling to whoever they meet first, as everyone is in the same situation, it's all new and no-one knows anyone - within a few weeks friendship groups will start to change so if you don't immediately click with everyone don't worry - I made friends in the meantime but I didn't really get to know some of my closest uni friends until January of my first year!
    I went to the disco with my flatmates at the end, it was pretty fun. I have joined two societies. I did not go to the sports fair because sports is just not my thing. The people i am most close to stay in their rooms the whole day, i just don't understand how someone can live like that. Thanks for advice, i guess it's going to be a borrrrring weekend.
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    Hi PeterHorvath, some great advice above from Clur.M. We hope you're feeling happier about your time at UEA - but please don't sit in silence. There are lots of great help resources to help you here at the university.

    For instance, our Student Support Services, who will be all ears for you. We also have the Student Union Advice Centre as well. And if you want some confidential advice from fellow students we would recommend the Norwich Nightline available every night during term time.
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    Don't sit in your room moping, honest - it's the very worst thing you could do.
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    Hopefully you'll branch out societies are always a really fun way to meet people, massively regret not doing it in first year and just sticking with flatmates. Also don't know how sporty you are but Kayaking/Canoe club is always really friendly and social!
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    I've also just started at UEA and until recently I was in the exact same situation - seeing everyone else making friends so quickly really scared me especially as I'm so different to the rest of my flatmates who only seem to like clubbing. But luckily I have met a few people on my course now so I don't feel so bad. If you are still feeling the same way I'm sure it will gradually improve - I was very close to wanting to go home but I'm glad I stayed as its getting better. Also there's probably loads more feeling the exact same way its just about finding similar people, which may take a while but will probably be better in the long run as they will be more like-minded. I hope its starting to improve for you!
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    (Original post by jellybeanbabytot)
    If you are still feeling the same way I'm sure it will gradually improve - I was very close to wanting to go home but I'm glad I stayed as its getting better. Also there's probably loads more feeling the exact same way its just about finding similar people, which may take a while but will probably be better in the long run as they will be more like-minded. I hope its starting to improve for you!
    It does get better, I speak from experience on that. And as you say it takes time, we're only two weeks into semester. Just make sure you're polite and remain on good terms with your flatmates, and you will start to find other friends over the semester you can socialise with
 
 
 
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