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I've met this guy...

Anon because I don't want the people involved to know who it is.

Well.. the thing is I've met a guy and I like him. But, I'm not sure how much yet. We met a few times and now we're texting etc.

The thing is. He's got a friend who seems to really hate me. He's been pretty rude to me and has been pressuring me to see his friend all of the time. It's like he wants me to have a relationship with his friend but at the same time really hates me.

I've had this problem before with a guy I was seeing and it led to real complications. The guy knew I hated his friend and it drove a wedge between us. However, I couldn't have lived with how his friend was treating me.

Now that it's happening again I don't know what to do. I can't really ignore his friend but it's not going to work.

I haven't even thought of a relationship with this guy as we're just friends right now and I'm not looking for a relationship right now. I tried telling this to his friend and he just went crazy saying the guy likes me and it's not fair. What do I do? I thought I'd found a good friend but now it looks like it's about to be ruined.

Reply 1

RainbowGurl

tell him how you feel before the relationship starts. he may be ok with it, he may not but you'll never know unless you try. Tbh its this guy you would be seeing not his friend, and his friend may come around.

x

Reply 2

PhilMc

Tell said 'friend' to *insert favoured profanity* off. :biggrin:

Reply 3

ForeverIsMyName

Your friend has probably told his friend that he likes you, and is therefore being rude to try to get you to act in order to help his friend.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

I don't know really. The friend just seems to be really horrible to me. Like insulting me with stuff he found out about me from other people.

I am not sure if I want to talk to the guy because we aren't really close enough, I thought. I also don't want to say anything to the friend incase he then finds a real reason to hate me and it gets worse. Which, I agree, sounds really silly but it's just the way I think.

What would any of you say if someone you had just met (and possibly liked quite a bit) was telling you that they didn't like how your friend was being?

Reply 5

crankycaz

I think it's a guy thing. My bf had a few friends that were a bit funny with me too, but they were really good mates of my bf and I didn't see them that often so it wasn't a big deal. Like someone else said, it's not the rude lad you're potentially gonna be going out with.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

That is true. I just don't want to screw things up.

I like the guy, don't get me wrong, but I'm not that keen on jumping into a relationship. I think, however, that if I say that to his friend who keeps bugging me then he'll tell the guy and maybe he won't want to know me as a friend.

I'm not saying that the guy is just after a relationship, it just might get twisted along the way somehow.

God that's confusing... if anyone knows what I mean it'll be a miracle.