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    Ever since i graduated from university, I've not made any friends, all my friends from uni deserted me and I have no time to do anything. It's really making me depressed and I have to put on a fake smile whenever I go to work but deep down I'm not really happy.

    I work long shifts, my day starts at 6am and I get home from work at about 8pm. I like my job, the pay is good but my team are all older so they just go home on most days. We go to bars on Friday but it's really not the same when hanging out with guys my age like I used to at uni.

    I really miss uni, I want to go back to studying to enjoy student life again but I dont want to leave my job because it's a really good source of income. Because of my long hours, I have no time to socialise or make friends and at the weekend I'm usually catching up on sleep because I'm so shattered from the long week.

    Being 23 years old, single, lonely, living at home, what can I do to have a happier life?
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    Life isn't like uni. I think it's tough now but when your hours reduce or you adjust to them, your weekends will open up more.
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    All part of growing up. Work for a firm you like doing a job you like, then your colleagues become your friends to an extent.
    Keep in contact with the good friends or if you dont have any, thne see if you cna find time fo a couple of hobbies and make time to go out and do them.

    You sau you have no time to socialise, but then its your choice to do that job so find another one with less restrctive hours. You have the weekends? Can you make time by going into work earluer and finishing on time?
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    All part of growing up. Work for a firm you like doing a job you like, then your colleagues become your friends to an extent.
    Keep in contact with the good friends or if you dont have any, thne see if you cna find time fo a couple of hobbies and make time to go out and do them.

    You sau you have no time to socialise, but then its your choice to do that job so find another one with less restrctive hours. You have the weekends? Can you make time by going into work earluer and finishing on time?
    My good friends all have jobs now and we are scattered across the country. We may only meet up once every 3-4 months.

    The pay is good and there are a lot of benefits with my role. That's the downside to my situation, I feel like I can't give up this job seeing that 1. I've only just started and 2. the pay/benefits are too good to just leave. I'm not sure if leaving the company will make things better since the 9-5 is just time consuming as it is.

    With regards to weekends, I live in quite a quiet area of my town. It's a huge effort to find any events in my area, I have tried but the nearest one is at least an hour away, some of the better ones are further. I don't think weekends are doable.

    I just don't have any close friends that I can keep going out with. My best friend lives an hour away from me and he's very busy (he owns a shop). My work colleagues are all older than me, I'm the youngest. It just makes me feel that this is what I have to deal with forever now.
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    My good friends all have jobs now and we are scattered across the country. We may only meet up once every 3-4 months.

    The pay is good and there are a lot of benefits with my role. That's the downside to my situation, I feel like I can't give up this job seeing that 1. I've only just started and 2. the pay/benefits are too good to just leave. I'm not sure if leaving the company will make things better since the 9-5 is just time consuming as it is.

    With regards to weekends, I live in quite a quiet area of my town. It's a huge effort to find any events in my area, I have tried but the nearest one is at least an hour away, some of the better ones are further. I don't think weekends are doable.

    I just don't have any close friends that I can keep going out with. My best friend lives an hour away from me and he's very busy (he owns a shop). My work colleagues are all older than me, I'm the youngest. It just makes me feel that this is what I have to deal with forever now.
    Do you have a car, gf/bf? I think you are just encountering modern life tbh. See how much socialising oes on at the firm. Btw its full of putfalls sleeping with colleagues.

    If you cant go anywhere and you have no time, then you are stuck with social media or online stuff. theres no loacal friendship groups?
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    Do you have a car, gf/bf? I think you are just encountering modern life tbh. See how much socialising oes on at the firm. Btw its full of putfalls sleeping with colleagues.

    If you cant go anywhere and you have no time, then you are stuck with social media or online stuff. theres no loacal friendship groups?
    No gf and I'm still learning to drive. Don't even get me started on a girlfriend, it's hard as it is trying to find a friend! Yeah I wasn't really planning on dating within my company, it's a hazy situation to be in and I don't want to get involved.

    Local yes, but the age groups are like 25-40 mainly and hardly anyone in the lower bracket of that age group goes so it's mainly older people. What kind of social media or online stuff do you mean? I can't consider TSR as a social place btw, I don't know what else there is
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    Your post is basically my life except I don't live at home.

    I don't know how anyone makes friends after uni, I graduated in 2014 and I haven't made a single friend since. When I look at everyone I know, they've all settled down with a partner and don't really feel the need to try and meet people. I get along with everyone in the office but they're just colleagues, if we didn't work together i'd never speak to them.

    People say to try online dating but that's impossible for a bloke unless you look like Brad Pitt - someone like me with no social skills and looks like the elephant man has no chance.

    I wake up some mornings and just think is this it? Is this my life? and it is so ****ing depressing. Like you i've also got a healthy bank balance but what's the use if i've got nothing and noone to spend it on?
 
 
 
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