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Dating a girl I met on the internet!
Ok, this might get a bit long winded, so please bear with me!
Essentially, I got this random girl's email address aaages ago, like over a year ago. We chat on msn quite a bit and get on really well. I've seen pictures of her and she's gorgeous, and we have a bit of a laugh (over msn lol - sounds pathetic i know!). There's something really mysterious about her and I can't quite describe what it is.
A while ago I asked her what she thought of meeting up with randoms she's met off the internet and whether she'd consider meeting me. Her response was "Generally I don't. But I actually talk to you and so don't consider you as a random, so...we'll see." I was hardly uplifted by this reply, so next time she came online I told her that we should maybe just forget it. I guessed she wasn't keen, so cut my losses! I took a risk.
We didn't talk for a little while, but after a short amount of time elapsed we began to build up the connection again and she kind of opened up to me about a couple of issues that she'd been having. I won't go into details, but she told me that she thought I was great and she liked chatting to me. I'm now feeling really confused. I don't know how to read her, does she want to meet me or not?! If she does, how do I go about asking her again, having (foolishly?) closed the door to it? I'm quite confused about this all.
If anyone has taken the time to read this all the way through, thanks, can you offer me some help???
Cheers,
Essentially, I got this random girl's email address aaages ago, like over a year ago. We chat on msn quite a bit and get on really well. I've seen pictures of her and she's gorgeous, and we have a bit of a laugh (over msn lol - sounds pathetic i know!). There's something really mysterious about her and I can't quite describe what it is.
A while ago I asked her what she thought of meeting up with randoms she's met off the internet and whether she'd consider meeting me. Her response was "Generally I don't. But I actually talk to you and so don't consider you as a random, so...we'll see." I was hardly uplifted by this reply, so next time she came online I told her that we should maybe just forget it. I guessed she wasn't keen, so cut my losses! I took a risk.
We didn't talk for a little while, but after a short amount of time elapsed we began to build up the connection again and she kind of opened up to me about a couple of issues that she'd been having. I won't go into details, but she told me that she thought I was great and she liked chatting to me. I'm now feeling really confused. I don't know how to read her, does she want to meet me or not?! If she does, how do I go about asking her again, having (foolishly?) closed the door to it? I'm quite confused about this all.
If anyone has taken the time to read this all the way through, thanks, can you offer me some help???
Cheers,
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Reply 1
Why don't you meet her somewhere in a public place and see what she is like in person?
Reply 2
Did you even read my post? I'm trying to find out what signals she's sending, does she want to meet, or not?!
Reply 3
Well ask her then straight up, no need to get snappy.
Reply 4
Erm...again did you read the first post? I did ask her straight up and got a fairly ambiguous response...I'm not sure where I stand with her!
Reply 8
Rock Fan
Well ask her then straight up, no need to get snappy.
Reply 9
Argh! How useless! I don't know if she wants to meet me! That's the whole problem! I appreciate your sentiments guys, but please, at least read my post if you're going to try and offer me advice!
Reply 10
Anonymous
Erm...again did you read the first post? I did ask her straight up and got a fairly ambiguous response...I'm not sure where I stand with her!
Well it's not rocket science it's either yes or not. Then maybe if she is unsure, give her a little bit of time to think.
Reply 11
^That was a response to post number 6 by the way.
Reply 12
Just drop it into conversation.
Not to be rude or funny but have you seen anything more than random msn pictures? Like does she have a myspace? Do you go on cam together? Do you chat on the phone?
Thing is, if this was me and I only knew someone over msn, asked them if they wanted to meet and then they got all ratty about it, i'd assume they wern't who they said they were.
But if you do know who you're chatting to is genuine then I'd just drop it into convo, ask her straight up again, I know it failed the first time but if she says no again then just leave it at that. Try not to get emotionaly attached to her before meeting her, I know it can happen!
Not to be rude or funny but have you seen anything more than random msn pictures? Like does she have a myspace? Do you go on cam together? Do you chat on the phone?
Thing is, if this was me and I only knew someone over msn, asked them if they wanted to meet and then they got all ratty about it, i'd assume they wern't who they said they were.
But if you do know who you're chatting to is genuine then I'd just drop it into convo, ask her straight up again, I know it failed the first time but if she says no again then just leave it at that. Try not to get emotionaly attached to her before meeting her, I know it can happen!
Well how close are you guys distance wise? I mean thanks to the multitude of TSR-Oxford meets I went out with a guy from here for quite a while, but we hung out as a group and lived in the same city so actually got to know each other in person for a few months first. If she lives miles away then yuo can hardly have a relationship anyway, so what's the point?
Reply 14
Sit outside her house.
Then she has to meet you.
Then she has to meet you.
Reply 15
jennella
Just drop it into conversation.
Not to be rude or funny but have you seen anything more than random msn pictures? Like does she have a myspace? Do you go on cam together? Do you chat on the phone?
Thing is, if this was me and I only knew someone over msn, asked them if they wanted to meet and then they got all ratty about it, i'd assume they wern't who they said they were.
But if you do know who you're chatting to is genuine then I'd just drop it into convo, ask her straight up again, I know it failed the first time but if she says no again then just leave it at that. Try not to get emotionaly attached to her before meeting her, I know it can happen!
Not to be rude or funny but have you seen anything more than random msn pictures? Like does she have a myspace? Do you go on cam together? Do you chat on the phone?
Thing is, if this was me and I only knew someone over msn, asked them if they wanted to meet and then they got all ratty about it, i'd assume they wern't who they said they were.
But if you do know who you're chatting to is genuine then I'd just drop it into convo, ask her straight up again, I know it failed the first time but if she says no again then just leave it at that. Try not to get emotionaly attached to her before meeting her, I know it can happen!
Great response, thank you
. As far as her credability goes, I've got her on Myspace and have seen many pictures of her, I know someone who knows who she is too, so she's definately a real person 
!You're right, it's amazing how an emotional attachment can arise through a few photos and some words on a screen...
Reply 16
Bekaboo
Well how close are you guys distance wise? I mean thanks to the multitude of TSR-Oxford meets I went out with a guy from here for quite a while, but we hung out as a group and lived in the same city so actually got to know each other in person for a few months first. If she lives miles away then yuo can hardly have a relationship anyway, so what's the point?
She lives about 4 miles away, no problem distance-wise.
Reply 17
It seems like she likes you, but wants to get to know you better before she is completely comfortable. You're already comfortable with her coz she's a girl and most girls are nice. Girls need more time coz there's loads of blokes just out for sex etc.
Reply 18
PHKnows
She seems like she likes you, but wants to get to know you better before she is completely comfortable. You're already comfortable with her coz she's a girl and most girls are nice. Girls need more time coz there's loads of blokes just out for sex etc.
I hope so. She knows I'm not just out for sex, I think I might just give it a bit more time, then tell her exactly my reasoning behind calling it off. I saw her response as a knockback, when perhaps she was just playing hard to get or stalling to get to know me better. Thanks for the advice people.
.Reply 19
Anonymous
Great response, thank you . As far as her credability goes, I've got her on Myspace and have seen many pictures of her, I know someone who knows who she is too, so she's definitely a real person !
You're right, it's amazing how an emotional attachment can arise through a few photos and some words on a screen...
. As far as her credability goes, I've got her on Myspace and have seen many pictures of her, I know someone who knows who she is too, so she's definitely a real person !You're right, it's amazing how an emotional attachment can arise through a few photos and some words on a screen...
She might just be nervous or worried then. Like she may like you and might be thinking "oh gosh what if he doesn't like me" and all the other things girls worry about. Why don't you suggest the friend who you both know comes along and someone else too, go out as a group bowling or something. That way you meet, know what each other is like in person and then maybe from there things could happen?
And it is amazing you're right. Just try not to get too sucked in, I learnt my lesson haha.
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