ask her for her phone number.. then txt each other.. then ask her..
if she wont give u her phone number. give up.
Nah s'all good in the hood.
Ah okay, that kinda sucks then if he doesn't know, know her.
I'd just say go for it then really. Explain why you backed off and then hopefully it'll all work out.
The worst she can do is say no, least you'll know, then you can be friends and just move on to someone else.
Well perhaps she really is just apprehensive about meeting up with someone off of the internet. You could ask her for her phone number and start having conversations over the phone - that might help her to feel more comfortable and so she might become more confident about meeting up.
Or you could try webcam.
Good luck anyway.
As a girl who's like on the receiving end of this also, I'll give you the story behind it and what my view is and why I haven't met him.
I've now known him a year, he just randomly added me on myspace. We're at different schools but live in the same city. Turns out one of my friends was gonna be joining his class for a lesson at the beginning of last year, so I know he's definitely real. We did arrange to meet, but I cancelled it because it didn't feel right. He said he was gutted because he'd grown to like me as I seemed like a nice girl and he could talk easily to me but would wait for me to be comfortable and everything was normal. I told the friend who was in the same class as him about him saying he liked me and wanting to meet up and she said that I should just go for it and see what happens, but I didn't. He asked to meet up again but I admit I kept making excuses saying I was busy. He asked again, but I did have a genuine reason, as it was going to be a year since someone close to me had died, yet he didn't seem interested, and acted like he thought I was making excuses. That annoyed me alot because why would I make up something like that? I guess you could say we kinda had an argument (over msn lol) about how I never seem to wanna meet up and how he's getting frustrated with me letting him down, but he won't give up because I'm not worth giving up on, unless I wanted him to. My response to that was that I was sorry, I couldn't change circumstances and that I couldn't tell him what to do in regards to him giving up on me. Another thing which annoyed me is that he brought my friend into this, he was asking her why I kept refusing to meet him and would I ever meet him. Of course he didn't know that my friend told me what he said, but that's not the point. It's between me and him, noone else. After that we really drifted, hardly spoke anymore, if at all.
He next spoke to me when I had something stupid up as my display name on msn, and for a second I thought 'great! we're gonna go back to normal!' but it wasn't long until he brought meeting up up again. Fortunately I was going on holiday the next week and so said maybe we'd sort something out when I got back.
I've been back almost 4 weeks now and he's spoke to me once, asking about my holiday - even though he's online everyday.
I basically haven't met up with him because I'm scared. Sounds utterly stupid but it's true. I have tons of questions buzzing round my head like what if he meets me and doesn't like what he sees? What if I'm not what he expects? To me, from the way he talks, it's like he has all these expectations of me which I know I won't live up to, and so he's just gonna be disappointed. Another reason why I haven't met up with him is because I don't trust people. I don't even fully trust my friends, I keep nearly everything bottled up which I know isn't good. This is because of past things which he doesn't know about (even my friends don't know the whole story - just bits of it), but I then think why should I have to justify myself to him? To anyone even? I've said to my friend that I'm scared (haven't really gone into details with her though) and she's said to me many times she's more than happy to come with me, or even arrange bowling and him take a friend, but I've said no everytime. I know it's my fault and I don't blame him for being frustrated with me, but I can't change the way I am and I can't make him or my friend understand why.
This girl has said what she thinks of you and how much she likes talking to you - definitely sounds to me that she likes you. As for meeting up, ask her what she thinks of the idea, and that you're ok with it if she's unsure, and that you've got plenty of time to meet. If she's unsure about meeting, how about talking on the phone? I'd say that's a stepping stone to her being more comfortable, as you will hear each others voice and first reactions and stuff. Even better would be talking on the phone/via microphone on msn and being on webcam, as you can see and hear each other, but it's not meeting.
Sorry for it being soo long! And if anyone has any ideas of what I could maybe do I'd be grateful!
Good luck though x
Just ask her if she wants to meet for lunch sometime. Make it not look like a date.
Oops.. I've kinda repeated what other people have said. I started writing this about two hours ago but I got distracted lol. Sorryy!
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OP you were the one being funny, she only said 'we'll see' ad then you got funny and said to forget it. Just build things up again and see if things are going in that direction. Don't just spring it on her.
I've met lots of people from the internet, I think the whole meeting up thing is overhyped. At the end of the day we're all human (i hope) and if you just be yourself and prove you're the same person in real life than on the internet things will be fine.
I believe relationshipwise, you can't really like someone until you've crossed the meeting them in person step. You might just meet them and nothing happens / arkward or something is forced because you aren't sure if you're 'meant to'
I know what I'm saying is probably obvious but I hope it helps you. Good luck with your situation
I don't accept randomers to my msn, they're usually blocked within 10 mins.
But i've met tons of people online too.
Never had a bad experience.
You seem to be reading too much into this. I met my current girlfriend online (from TSR actually), but we decided to meet up as friends. It blossomed into a relationship.