Going to third and final year of university, no friends

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    I have completed 2 years at the University and I really have made no friends. I have been living on campus and there have been people I have interacted with to ask simple questions like when that test is or why the lecture was cancelled, but they're like less than what an acquaintance would be. My flatmates never socialised either. I think one of the main reasons is because I dont play sports and I'm a guy who's 20 years old. I was going to join societies in my first year, but I was struggling and did not find the time to attend. Now I am on track with my course and I am currently doing my Placement for my sandwich year.

    I really want to make the most of my final year when I return, but I feel like it will just be the same. I really think it is because I don't play sports that makes me not have friends, but i always felt like i was never good at sport which is why i didnt bother with sport. I just feel like a lonely person on the inside and nobody knows the real me. I'm shy to new people, but once I introduce myself and meet someone , i can talk in the next minute like we're best friends, so I dont have a socialising problem.


    I'm here to tell you that not being interested or taking part in sports would not lead to you not making friends - no one is that shallow to judge you for that reason so stop putting that thought in your head because it's not a justification or explanation you need to put there.
    I'm sorry to hear that you have that experience but you can always improve your final year! I'd suggest giving it another go by joining societies - ones that you have an interest in and would enjoy taking part it. Make extra effort with people on your course, invite them to study after lectures, invite them for drinks, nights out and what not - with your flatmates, invite to cook for them and what not.

    Just give that little bit of effort!
    Good luck!

    I highly suggest you join your university's Christian society. Even if you are not religious, Christians are the most accepting and friendly people and will not judge you for not partaking in sporting activities. There is no reason why you wouldn't make friends there.
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