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I need a drastic change
I'm 17, male, in college. It's the summer holiday as you know, and it's dawning on me that 3 weeks in and I've not done anything. I've not seen any friends on a night out, not filled any job apps in, no provisional license forms, no gym, nothing.
I've wasted this year of my life. I made a change last summer as I did badly at GCSE to stop hanging around with certain people and I've realised they were all I had. This year I've done all my work, but I've not accomplished anything. i haven't had a girlfriend, no friends to talk to on a daily basis, it's making me depressed. My family have picked up on it, and I always lie. I'll tell them I don't need people all the time to keep myself happy, I love being at home, when I dont. Im just too embarassed to tell them because my sister is always going out, and my brother works 5 days a week and is still busy on weekends. Whereas I do nothing, just mope around home all day. Time will go by so quickly from watching films or going on the net. I haven't exercised because there are about 10000 different exercise regimes for 1000000 different people, so I dont bother to focus on it. I mean, Im not even on drugs so I really have no excuse. I'm pathetic, a waste of space. I've been invisible for a year.
What should I do? I need something new, something important, a new lifestyle. I've been getting up at 8am and sleeping at around 10pm every night this week but tonight Ive been too depressed to sleep so that's my sleeping pattern ****ed. I really need some ideas or some self-awareness of what Ive been doing and why. How have I ended up with no friends, no life at 17?
I've wasted this year of my life. I made a change last summer as I did badly at GCSE to stop hanging around with certain people and I've realised they were all I had. This year I've done all my work, but I've not accomplished anything. i haven't had a girlfriend, no friends to talk to on a daily basis, it's making me depressed. My family have picked up on it, and I always lie. I'll tell them I don't need people all the time to keep myself happy, I love being at home, when I dont. Im just too embarassed to tell them because my sister is always going out, and my brother works 5 days a week and is still busy on weekends. Whereas I do nothing, just mope around home all day. Time will go by so quickly from watching films or going on the net. I haven't exercised because there are about 10000 different exercise regimes for 1000000 different people, so I dont bother to focus on it. I mean, Im not even on drugs so I really have no excuse. I'm pathetic, a waste of space. I've been invisible for a year.
What should I do? I need something new, something important, a new lifestyle. I've been getting up at 8am and sleeping at around 10pm every night this week but tonight Ive been too depressed to sleep so that's my sleeping pattern ****ed. I really need some ideas or some self-awareness of what Ive been doing and why. How have I ended up with no friends, no life at 17?
It's not as easy as it sounds though. Especially the friends thing. Everytime I've made the effort to ring one we've talked for a bit and then rough plans get made but they don't act on it. I know that finding a job, driving, gym will change, but I dont like living this way, but I can't visualise how I'd change it, that's more of what I'm looking for. Some days I don't even leave the house, but then I don't see what I'd do outdoors instead.
Hey, I feel the same as you, except my friends are always working and so 'too busy' or 'too tired' to do anything, and then other friends always say they have no money so can't do this, or not allowed out (we're all 17). And then my brother will say how I'm a loner and I've got no mates and all the rest of it, but it's not my fault.
I've wasted the past two weeks pretty much, but tomorrow I've decided I'm gonna go look for a job, anything, even if just for the rest of summer. And if that fails, I'm gonna do some voluntary work at a nursery nearby because I wanna do early years at Uni, and so that will help me get some more experience and so get more chance of them letting me in lol. Is there anything you could volunteer for? Some schools do playscheme type things, maybe they could do with extra people? If you're gonna apply to Uni this'll look good, as it shows you give up your own time to help others. The gym could be a good idea, as I'm sure there would be lots of lads your age there and so this could be a way to gain new people in your life.
You say you changed last summer because of your GCSE's, have you done better this year because of that? If so, thats a good thing, because it means you're focusing on what you want your future to be, rather than just seeing what happens.
PM me if you wanna chat more x
I've wasted the past two weeks pretty much, but tomorrow I've decided I'm gonna go look for a job, anything, even if just for the rest of summer. And if that fails, I'm gonna do some voluntary work at a nursery nearby because I wanna do early years at Uni, and so that will help me get some more experience and so get more chance of them letting me in lol. Is there anything you could volunteer for? Some schools do playscheme type things, maybe they could do with extra people? If you're gonna apply to Uni this'll look good, as it shows you give up your own time to help others. The gym could be a good idea, as I'm sure there would be lots of lads your age there and so this could be a way to gain new people in your life.
You say you changed last summer because of your GCSE's, have you done better this year because of that? If so, thats a good thing, because it means you're focusing on what you want your future to be, rather than just seeing what happens.
PM me if you wanna chat more x
I totally get the friends thing. I'm always the one who has to initiate meeting up and then it usually doesn't happen. I've taken to asking more than once although it may be regarded as being pushy.
It can be difficult to tell your family but I think that you should try and tell someone if you can. It could make things a lot better.
I'm guessing that you really want to do all of those things that you mentioned. So I would start small. Say to yourself that you will try to sort out one thing each day if it's possible.
With excercise, I've never stuck to regimes which others do. I just devised a plan myself. If you don't know where to start, walking is good. Sometimes going out for a short walk can really help.
It can be difficult to tell your family but I think that you should try and tell someone if you can. It could make things a lot better.
I'm guessing that you really want to do all of those things that you mentioned. So I would start small. Say to yourself that you will try to sort out one thing each day if it's possible.
With excercise, I've never stuck to regimes which others do. I just devised a plan myself. If you don't know where to start, walking is good. Sometimes going out for a short walk can really help.
i was feeling exactly the same as you until i got a job. It's def the best thing i've done all summer! i get exercise walking to work, i've made friends there whom i got out with and i have the money to go out. It also means that i have had to keep to a sensible sleeping pattern and i feel i'm actually doing something productive rather than wasting my time on this bloody computer...except for now of course!
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