Feeling taken for granted

Any of you's out there ever feel like this? Just lately (what with school holidays and stuff) I've been feeling more and more like this. I went away at the beginning, and I had my friends texting me saying how much they missed me and wanted me to come back, but as soon as I was home, nothing. Absolutely nothing. No phonecalls, texts, emails, messages. The only time we met up was when I arranged it, and even then it felt like they didn't want to be there. :frown:

And then yesterday. One of my friends has been together with this lad now on and off for 2 years. Everytime they've broke up (about 3/4 times now), it's been because of him, she's been really hurt and it's me she's been crying to. Yet she went back to him because she 'loves' him. I dislike him yes, not only for constantly messing her around but he's never been properly nice to me, always making sarcastic comments for no reason etc. However she doesn't know that. So while I was away, she got back with him again (after swearing she'd never do that again), but she didn't decide to tell me until I'd been back nearly two weeks (Great friend hey?!). And yesterday he's dumped her. Again. And who does she come running to? Me. Yet she's not bothered with me since I've been back. And I said to myself I wasn't gonna let her do that, which I haven't, all I said to her was that I didn't know what to say, because I'm fed up of it now, but I couldn't exactly tell her 'I knew this'd happen' could I. Arghh.

And also, my parents and brother. I didn't go away with them, and I had them ringing me saying how much they missed me. When I came back, it seemed as if I hadn't even been away, and my mum expects me to get up early everyday to clean the house, tidy up and then do the dinner, just because I'm here. I do sort most of the dinner out anyway, but it's like noone even acknowledges it, I never get a thanks or anything. This is my final break as in September I'm starting second year of A Levels and am gonna be really busy, but my mum seems to think I should be working flat out all day here cleaning all THEIR mess up!! :mad:

It just really irritates me how I'm just here for everyone's 'use' if you like. How I'm just here when they want me to be, but when they've got other people it doesn't matter about me. I shall be glad when I move next year to go to Uni I really will!!

Sorry for how long this is, I dunno what to do, it just seems like when I'm here, noone cares, but as soon as I'm not here, everyone suddenly cares. Before I went away my parents and friends kept making me feel guilty for going without them, and they shouldn't have, because it was a once in a lifetime opportunity for me, and I'm glad I took it.
Rant over lol! Thanks for reading if you get this far x

Reply 1

hannah_dru

The friends thing sounds just like situations I used to have. Before we broke up from school they'd always say how much they'd miss me and wanted to meet up etc etc. Once it actually got down to the holidays nothing ever happened. I wouldn't call them real friends to be honest.

I think you're doing the right thing in trying to back off when this girl comes to you for a shoulder to cry on. Don't give in to that. Obviously she's in denial and thinks the world of him.

I would give a flat out no to your family if they ask you to do stuff whilst you're doing A Levels. Or I'd say that you'll simply do what you can and leave it at that. You can't do much more than that, cos yeah you will be busy. They'll just have to accept that.