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    I'm currently year 13 and thinking of going away to university next summer but I'm worried the fact I don't drink will effect my opportunity to make friends.

    I see posts on Facebook of people in the year above me (first year of uni) and all they seem to do is go out clubbing and drinking. I have a massive phobia of sick and although I am getting help to sort it out I'm scared I won't be able to get over it and so won't be going to the parties.

    I'm already introverted and I'm worried this is just going to be another barrier for trying to make new friends.


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    I enjoy drinking so much! jk
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    I'm pretty much in the same spot as you lol
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    First year student here! No, you don't have to drink. Go out and drink non-alcoholic drinks and also you'll find quite a few don't drink. Don't worry about it, most conversations will go like this.

    Them: Hey! Want a drink?
    You: I don't drink alcohol, sorry.
    Them: Okay. Want a coke?
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    No. You don't have to drink to have fun. No one's gonna force you to drink and if they do then they're not worth hanging out with.
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    Yes and no

    Drinking is undeniably a huge part of university, at least at the beginning. Many freshers events focus on parties, clubbing and pub crawls because they know that's what students want. If you're not a drinker that's the sort of thing you'll miss out on.

    And you know what? There's nothing wrong with that. Many freshers living here purchased £45 tickets to go to these events, spent far more on alcohol, stumble in at 3am, cause all sorts of problems (fire alarms, vandalism, etc.) and generally waste their money imo. It's really not my idea of a good time and I'm glad I have nothing to do with it.

    In terms of making friends, it does sort of hurt your chances in that you won't be exposed to as many people if you don't socialise at the events. Of course nothing stops your from going and not drinking and socialising that way. Just be careful and don't give into peer pressure or anything.

    It can be a hassle depending on where you live. For example I'm in a student flat where 2 of the 4 people are drinkers/party people (despite assuring me they don't drink heavily). They left the kitchen in a mess after last night and haven't even gotten out of bed yet (I wrote this at 3:30pm). I personally don't miss not being able to socialise with these people and I certainly don't feel worse for not having them as friends.

    And naturally all these people moan about being poor when it's only a few weeks in.

    I on the other hand have made a few good friends with people in my classes and on my courses. I also had a chance to sign up for some taster sessions and have joined 4 societies. In particular I've tried Archery and Fencing for the first time, signed up to both and I'm sure I'll meet some good people there. I also feel that spending £150 on joining these societies is a much better investment than trying to socialise with alcohol. Especially when you consider I'm surrounded with people with similar interests.

    So yes alcohol and drinking are a big part of the first few weeks. But don't think you're going to miss out on anything. If you're not a drinker then you won't enjoy making friends with drunks. Look for clubs, sports, societies and classmates with similar interests. Socialise with these people instead. It takes a little longer but you'll make more meaningful relationships.
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    no way I'm a final year and have never drank, smoke or been clubbing but still have so many friends! As long as your a sociable person you'll be fine because most if not all people at uni are so nice and understanding and want to make friends!
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    (Original post by bellalalaxo)
    First year student here! No, you don't have to drink. Go out and drink non-alcoholic drinks and also you'll find quite a few don't drink. Don't worry about it, most conversations will go like this.

    Them: Hey! Want a drink?
    You: I don't drink alcohol, sorry.
    Them: Okay. Want a coke?
    Then there is me who doesn't like fizzy drinks
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    If you want it to be, it can be. if not, it doesnt have to be
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    (Original post by Hachik0)
    Then there is me who doesn't like fizzy drinks
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    You and me both. I don't like fizzy drinks or hot drinks. Or alcohol so 99% of stuff you'd buy anywhere immediately goes bye bye
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    (Original post by Acsel)
    You and me both. I don't like fizzy drinks or hot drinks. Or alcohol so 99% of stuff you'd buy anywhere immediately goes bye bye
    The only hot drinks i like are tea or hot chocolate but i hardly drink them. Beer and wine tastes fizzy to me even though my parents insist that it doesn't. I don't mind vodka but thats about it.
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    (Original post by Hachik0)
    The only hot drinks i like are tea or hot chocolate but i hardly drink them. Beer and wine tastes fizzy to me even though my parents insist that it doesn't. I don't mind vodka but thats about it.
    I would drink tea, coffee, hot chocolate and so on but not while they're hot. Cold is fine but that seems to defeat the object of something like hot chocolate.

    I'm impartial to adding rum to a juice/squash but I don't make a habit of it or go out of my way to do it.

    Most alcoholic drinks will taste fizzy to some extent unless you're used to drinking fizzy stuff. It's more about what you're used to rather than what's actually in the drink I guess.
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    Good to hear I'm not completely strange 😂 I feel a bit better now. Thanks!


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    (Original post by WowClo)
    I'm currently year 13 and thinking of going away to university next summer but I'm worried the fact I don't drink will effect my opportunity to make friends.

    I see posts on Facebook of people in the year above me (first year of uni) and all they seem to do is go out clubbing and drinking. I have a massive phobia of sick and although I am getting help to sort it out I'm scared I won't be able to get over it and so won't be going to the parties.

    I'm already introverted and I'm worried this is just going to be another barrier for trying to make new friends.


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    Hello ,

    It's only a big part of university life if you want to be. Simple as that.
    If you want to drink and let it be what your first year is all about then yes it will be but if you don't like drinking or don't want to drink, then it won't be. Simple!

    No one judges you for not drinking at university because nobody is that shallow. People will respect you for your decision and you'll still be able to make friends.

    Good luck!
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    Meh - I think that the happy medium is not to say no to drinks if they are offered to you (for fear of appearing rude), but to not go out and get extra drinks for yourself just for the sake of alcohol.

    You can go to pubs, bars, clubs, etc., without having drunk anything. Actually, being sober in a rave is a pretty... thought-provoking moment. All budding philosophers/sociologists should try it.
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    Yes, but no really.
    No one is going to force you to drink but you can easily feel left out if your'e not drinking (but I think people think that people are noticing more than they actually are).
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    (Original post by bellalalaxo)
    First year student here! No, you don't have to drink. Go out and drink non-alcoholic drinks and also you'll find quite a few don't drink. Don't worry about it, most conversations will go like this.

    Them: Hey! Want a drink?
    You: I don't drink alcohol, sorry.
    Them: Okay. Want a coke?
    Good to see people are nice!
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    (Original post by WowClo)
    I'm currently year 13 and thinking of going away to university next summer but I'm worried the fact I don't drink will effect my opportunity to make friends.

    I see posts on Facebook of people in the year above me (first year of uni) and all they seem to do is go out clubbing and drinking. I have a massive phobia of sick and although I am getting help to sort it out I'm scared I won't be able to get over it and so won't be going to the parties.

    I'm already introverted and I'm worried this is just going to be another barrier for trying to make new friends.



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    I don't drink either! So it's fine 😂
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    Yes, its a massive part of uni life for the majority. No you definitely don't have to drink and nobody will judge and you can still have an amazing time (know a few people who don't and they have plenty of pals)

    Personally I didn't really drink that much before university and love that whole side of things, its fun and sociable. Though I totally understand why some don't want to and I don't think anybody would ever ever force someone into drinking, or judge someone for not.
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    (Original post by Daniellejadde)
    I don't drink either! So it's fine 😂
    Haha we can be sober clubbing together 😂
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    Depends where you stay - in halls, on a flat on your own or with mum and dad.
    I never found it to be a massive issue though, it will be if you let it to be.
    there will always be people in uni who dont drink and dont judge you based on whether you drink or not.
 
 
 
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