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    if anyone especially an acquaintance that i admire or feel attracted towards starts a convo with me i immediately get attached. As the weeks go by we would normally talk at least once everyday and at last become very close friends. But the thing is. They normally know how to move on and they had other people to talk to during those times we've talked so they're not as easily attached as i am. when i am talking to somoene all i can think about is them and i focus all my attention to them. but when i don't get that typpe of response back i feel like a wreck.

    Does anyone know how to not feel too attached to somebody?
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    Same here, whenever a girl shows me any form of friendliness/kindness I'm already falling for her.

    It just might be a psychological thing, it might stem from an inexperience in forming true relationships with people or maybe that's just how you are. The best thing to do is if you start to fall for them, is to step back a bit and reduce contact.
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    I'm clingy and require a lot of attention so I guess you could say that makes me easily attach onto people ESPECIALLY if they provide me with the attention I need. Then they'll stop for a little while and my whole world just falls apart. And they'll give it to me again and its just a cycle that is actually quite unhealthy. I rely on other peoples attention to self validate myself and boost my self esteem. I need to learn to rely on myself. I need to become attached to my reflection.
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    (Original post by bluemadhatter)
    I'm clingy and require a lot of attention so I guess you could say that makes me easily attach onto people ESPECIALLY if they provide me with the attention I need. Then they'll stop for a little while and my whole world just falls apart. And they'll give it to me again and its just a cycle that is actually quite unhealthy. I rely on other peoples attention to self validate myself and boost my self esteem. I need to learn to rely on myself. I need to become attached to my reflection.
    this is me so much
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    (Original post by bluemadhatter)
    I'm clingy and require a lot of attention so I guess you could say that makes me easily attach onto people ESPECIALLY if they provide me with the attention I need. Then they'll stop for a little while and my whole world just falls apart. And they'll give it to me again and its just a cycle that is actually quite unhealthy. I rely on other peoples attention to self validate myself and boost my self esteem. I need to learn to rely on myself. I need to become attached to my reflection.
    You can always kiss the mirror , get closer to ur reflection

    nom sayin?
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    (Original post by TSR Mustafa)
    You can always kiss the mirror , get closer to ur reflection

    nom sayin?
    lipsyncing sassy songs on snapchat helps me love myself
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    Same here, whenever a girl shows me any form of friendliness/kindness I'm already falling for her.

    It just might be a psychological thing, it might stem from an inexperience in forming true relationships with people or maybe that's just how you are. The best thing to do is if you start to fall for them, is to step back a bit and reduce contact.
    Yeah its almost attractive when they show friendliness/kindness
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    (Original post by bluemadhatter)
    lipsyncing sassy songs on snapchat helps me love myself
    Yeah i have the same problem :P
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    (Original post by UWS)
    Same here, whenever a girl shows me any form of friendliness/kindness I'm already falling for her.

    It just might be a psychological thing, it might stem from an inexperience in forming true relationships with people or maybe that's just how you are. The best thing to do is if you start to fall for them, is to step back a bit and reduce contact.
    Thank you, I think inexperience could be a possibility and i'll make sure to create a distance when i feel myself getting too attached
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    (Original post by bluemadhatter)
    I'm clingy and require a lot of attention so I guess you could say that makes me easily attach onto people ESPECIALLY if they provide me with the attention I need. Then they'll stop for a little while and my whole world just falls apart. And they'll give it to me again and its just a cycle that is actually quite unhealthy. I rely on other peoples attention to self validate myself and boost my self esteem. I need to learn to rely on myself. I need to become attached to my reflection.
    Thank you, i am quite glad im not the only person :')
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    (Original post by bluemadhatter)
    I'm clingy and require a lot of attention so I guess you could say that makes me easily attach onto people ESPECIALLY if they provide me with the attention I need. Then they'll stop for a little while and my whole world just falls apart. And they'll give it to me again and its just a cycle that is actually quite unhealthy. I rely on other peoples attention to self validate myself and boost my self esteem. I need to learn to rely on myself. I need to become attached to my reflection.
    I think this is the most relatable thing i've read on this god forsaken site
 
 
 
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