how do you cope with knowing someone has fallen out of love with you?

anon because people i know use this site.

how have others here coped with being told by their boyfriend or girlfriend that they have fallen out of love with them? rejection in the worst feeling in the world and my ex broke my heart by telling me, "i was in love with you. but now i'm not." it was the hardest thing i have ever had to cope with, as i was completely and utterly in love with him. the worst bit was, he went on a holiday for a few weeks, and it was during these few weeks, when he wasn't even with me, that he decided he didn't love me anymore. i was going travelling, and i think he felt pressured to end it before i left, so that he could run away from his feelings. he told me that he hoped i could get over him while i was away travelling. it just made no sense to me, and i felt like he was taking the easy way out because he saw an oppurtunity to run...

how have other people coped with similar things? it was the worst thing which has ever happened to me.

Reply 1

Ghetto_Princess12

I'm sorry to hear that :hugs:

I've never been in that situation before, but at the same time I've never been in love with someone.

All I can say is you'll find the strength to move on and you might find someone else, you're probably hurt right now but everything happens for a reason, time will heal :smile:

Reply 2

Yellowmarshmellow

I know how you feel in a way, my best friend has kind of decided she doesn´t want to know me anymore and although our relationship isn´t romantic obviously it hurts alot, she´s the closest peson to me and knows everything about me but now seems to hate me and i´d do anything to sort things out.... i guess you have to keep going with life and move on, it takes time.. alot of time but you have to realise people move on which is what you will eventually do...i really hope you feel better soon though, if i feel this depressed because of my best friend i can´t imagine how i´d be coping in your situation so i admire you for not totally giving up. Everything will be ok, PM me if you want to talk :smile:

Reply 3

little sheep

i no how u feel. my bf did the same to me after 4 yrs. im sorry to hear it happened to u. tbh i still dont no how to get over him and stuff but im coping by spending time wiv my mates and trying not to think about it 2 much really. there isnt a lot u can do in my opinion-finding some1 else helps as it helps to take ur mind of ur ex but apart from that i dont no. i think its just a matter of time and finding some1 else although its hard to turn off feelings to some1 u love.

hope things get better for you. xxx

Reply 4

kicakicks

i guess you have to look on the positive side... at least you were in love for a time and thats more than lots of people ever have. you have to accept that people change, and whilst its really hard just try to get on with your life... you'll never find someone else, or entice him back (if that's what you want) if you are moping... so get out there and enjoy being single! xxxx

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

anon because people i know use this site.

how have others here coped with being told by their boyfriend or girlfriend that they have fallen out of love with them? rejection in the worst feeling in the world and my ex broke my heart by telling me, "i was in love with you. but now i'm not." it was the hardest thing i have ever had to cope with, as i was completely and utterly in love with him. the worst bit was, he went on a holiday for a few weeks, and it was during these few weeks, when he wasn't even with me, that he decided he didn't love me anymore. i was going travelling, and i think he felt pressured to end it before i left, so that he could run away from his feelings. he told me that he hoped i could get over him while i was away travelling. it just made no sense to me, and i felt like he was taking the easy way out because he saw an oppurtunity to run...

how have other people coped with similar things? it was the worst thing which has ever happened to me.

Aww, OP.
I've kind of been there. Still am, in fact. My boyfriend "doesn't know" if he loves me anymore. We're still together, with me giving him some time to discover whether he does or not. Do I feel like a bit of a walkover? Oh yes. And does it feel like the worst thing in the world? Very much so.

I'm pretty much expecting him to tell me he doesn't love me anymore sometime soon. I can imagine how awful it must be. The only thing you can really do is ride the horrible feeling of rejection through. I guess you just have to think: he doesn't reciprocate my strong feelings, therefore he isn't the one for me.
You don't deserve to be with someone who doesn't match your own feelings. Basically, you can do a lot better than that.

Reply 6

khil

15

Count yourself lucky that this is the worst thing that's ever happened to you.

Give yourself time :hugs:

Reply 7

romeosbitch

15

I think the only way to cope is to throw yourself into something you really enjoy, sat around pinning for my ex has made me start to write the book i always wanted to.

avoid romantic songs or films like the plague, and remember what doesnt kill you makes you stronger, even if it really reallly really really hurts.

and dont throw yourself into another relationship, it's not pretty.

Reply 8

Anonymous #3

Anonymous

Aww, OP.
I've kind of been there. Still am, in fact. My boyfriend "doesn't know" if he loves me anymore. We're still together, with me giving him some time to discover whether he does or not. Do I feel like a bit of a walkover? Oh yes. And does it feel like the worst thing in the world? Very much so.

I'm pretty much expecting him to tell me he doesn't love me anymore sometime soon. I can imagine how awful it must be. The only thing you can really do is ride the horrible feeling of rejection through. I guess you just have to think: he doesn't reciprocate my strong feelings, therefore he isn't the one for me.
You don't deserve to be with someone who doesn't match your own feelings. Basically, you can do a lot better than that.