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    I'm currently studying at the University of Liverpool, and although my halls are quite a sociable place, my flat hasn't been. I know everyone says to 'keep your doors open', but nobody else does so I'm not going to be the only one doing it. Many people have made good friends the first few days at university, but because all we really have in our accommodation is our rooms (no proper kitchen), I haven't had the chance to network and don't feel I've made any great friendships (not clicking with people the way I wanted to.) How do I branch out and make good friends? & am I overreacting? (Seeing as I've only been here 3 weeks.)
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    (Original post by jessicadegreeff)
    I'm currently studying at the University of Liverpool, and although my halls are quite a sociable place, my flat hasn't been. I know everyone says to 'keep your doors open', but nobody else does so I'm not going to be the only one doing it. Many people have made good friends the first few days at university, but because all we really have in our accommodation is our rooms (no proper kitchen), I haven't had the chance to network and don't feel I've made any great friendships (not clicking with people the way I wanted to.) How do I branch out and make good friends? & am I overreacting? (Seeing as I've only been here 3 weeks.)
    Eh I'm the same. I've made a few friends outside of my flat, but eh. I don't know anymore from my course, and although my flat mates are all nice I doubt I'll be moving in with them. We've got plenty of time to be thinking about this in the future dw

    Get involved in societies, you'll find some people of similar interests then.
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    (Original post by jessicadegreeff)
    I'm currently studying at the University of Liverpool, and although my halls are quite a sociable place, my flat hasn't been. I know everyone says to 'keep your doors open', but nobody else does so I'm not going to be the only one doing it. Many people have made good friends the first few days at university, but because all we really have in our accommodation is our rooms (no proper kitchen), I haven't had the chance to network and don't feel I've made any great friendships (not clicking with people the way I wanted to.) How do I branch out and make good friends? & am I overreacting? (Seeing as I've only been here 3 weeks.)
    How come no proper kicthen? is it catered?

    1. Now at the beginning is an ideal time to advertise, see if you can find other like minded people who are interested in making friends. Might take some bottle but put an advert out saying youd like to make friends and what like minded peopel you are looking for. You can facebook them then meet up later?

    2. People on your course you sit with and your titorials.

    3. People in societies you join

    4. Socialise and network, pub , cinema, food etc

    At the beginning everyone will be open to it
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    Yeah I know there's lots of time! Just a few worries I have as I'm a year older, so my friends back home who are already year 2 students at other universities made friends almost immediately
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    Eh I'm the same. I've made a few friends outside of my flat, but eh. I don't know anymore from my course, and although my flat mates are all nice I doubt I'll be moving in with them. We've got plenty of time to be thinking about this in the future dw

    Get involved in societies, you'll find some people of similar interests then.
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    Yeah, the 'kitchen' isn't big enough to fit more than one person and it is catered but people already have their little clicks. Also, I've made friends outside of my accom but we're not at that level to all go out together. Maybe I should initiate it? People in my societies are all lovely too so there's still time I suppose
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    How come no proper kicthen? is it catered?

    1. Now at the beginning is an ideal time to advertise, see if you can find other like minded people who are interested in making friends. Might take some bottle but put an advert out saying youd like to make friends and what like minded peopel you are looking for. You can facebook them then meet up later?

    2. People on your course you sit with and your titorials.

    3. People in societies you join

    4. Socialise and network, pub , cinema, food etc

    At the beginning everyone will be open to it
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    (Original post by jessicadegreeff)
    Yeah I know there's lots of time! Just a few worries I have as I'm a year older, so my friends back home who are already year 2 students at other universities made friends almost immediately
    I've a friend who's also a year older Doesn't matter much at all. I think you're over thinking things honestly. Be yourself, enjoy your experience and you'll make plenty of friends soon enough.
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    (Original post by jessicadegreeff)
    Yeah, the 'kitchen' isn't big enough to fit more than one person and it is catered but people already have their little clicks. Also, I've made friends outside of my accom but we're not at that level to all go out together. Maybe I should initiate it? People in my societies are all lovely too so there's still time I suppose
    initiate it. They are all thinking the same imo. Look at these forums so many people unhappy they havent made friends. You need to do it now before they all clique off.

    If its catered, then theres meal times? Always an opportunity to sit with new people?
    Common rooms? Recreation room? Doesnt the hall have socials?

    Normally people are in and out of each others rooms, people in the corridor, go to the pub together etc. Plus other people on your course in your hall?
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    To be fair the social space is pretty minimal and on the first night me and my flat mate went upstairs to try and socialise with people upstairs we got given a weird look and they didn't really pay attention to us at all after that so we just sort of left. I've gathered by now that they're all quite *****y but that experience sort of soured me from doing the same again. I always talk to people but it's the making it stick that I struggle with! Also I'm terrible with names and faces so that can't help
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    initiate it. They are all thinking the same imo. Look at these forums so many people unhappy they havent made friends. You need to do it now before they all clique off.

    If its catered, then theres meal times? Always an opportunity to sit with new people?
    Common rooms? Recreation room? Doesnt the hall have socials?

    Normally people are in and out of each others rooms, people in the corridor, go to the pub together etc. Plus other people on your course in your hall?
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    (Original post by jessicadegreeff)
    To be fair the social space is pretty minimal and on the first night me and my flat mate went upstairs to try and socialise with people upstairs we got given a weird look and they didn't really pay attention to us at all after that so we just sort of left. I've gathered by now that they're all quite *****y but that experience sort of soured me from doing the same again. I always talk to people but it's the making it stick that I struggle with! Also I'm terrible with names and faces so that can't help
    Then do the societies thing and other avenues I suggested. In that hall there will be people who feel exactly the same way you do and youd get on with. ince you get a couple of friends you tend to canibalise their network of friends etc. You have plenty of time and will feel better when you know a few people. If you think you have it bad, then think about the ones stuck in student houses with either too noisy or roo quiet flatmates. Nowhere to run. Just keep smiling and be sociable, there will be plenty of others out there looking.
 
 
 
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