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    Hey People!

    Im quite a shy girl and not very sociable initally when I meet new people for the first time. I tend to take a while to start feeling able to talk to people I dont Know. Im trying to overcome this cos I want to go to uni. Do you think this will stop my chances of getting the most out of uni life?

    Any opinions appreciated!
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    (Original post by Kate101)
    Hey People!

    Im quite a shy girl and not very sociable initally when I meet new people for the first time. I tend to take a while to start feeling able to talk to people I dont Know. Im trying to overcome this cos I want to go to uni. Do you think this will stop my chances of getting the most out of uni life?

    Any opinions appreciated!
    Nope. You'll gonna love university. Which uni are you going too?
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    I hope your right!!

    Im still looking into uni's at the moment cos I wont be starting until 2005.
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    (Original post by Kate101)
    Hey People!

    Im quite a shy girl and not very sociable initally when I meet new people for the first time. I tend to take a while to start feeling able to talk to people I dont Know. Im trying to overcome this cos I want to go to uni. Do you think this will stop my chances of getting the most out of uni life?

    Any opinions appreciated!
    tend to have the same problem myself.... but been trying to overcome it this past yr........ dont want to have problems fitting in.... uni is said to be the best time of ur life..... hope it is for me.......
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    It won't affect your university life. No matter what happens, you will make friends.
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    (Original post by Kate101)
    Hey People!

    Im quite a shy girl and not very sociable initally when I meet new people for the first time. I tend to take a while to start feeling able to talk to people I dont Know. Im trying to overcome this cos I want to go to uni. Do you think this will stop my chances of getting the most out of uni life?

    Any opinions appreciated!
    I don't like talking much either... and didn't. I avoided presentations, rarely spoke in class and literally hid from the teachers whenever they were about. As for making friends... that's no problem. People will talk to you in class and in lectures. After a few weeks, you will probably be comfortable around them and talk.

    You don't need to change. Be yourself.
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    (Original post by Kate101)
    I hope your right!!

    Im still looking into uni's at the moment cos I wont be starting until 2005.
    You have plenty time. Try meeting people before you go to university and build up your confidence. But always be yourself
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    All i can say to you is stay in Uni halls, you'll have about 7 other people around you straigh off in the same boat, you'll soon make friends. Just go out have a great time.
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    University has an amazing effect on shy people, my friends brother went to uni two years ago and he was always so shy, never had friends, didnt even talk to his cousins and stuff at parties etc.

    The saddest thing was when he left his mobile on the backseat of his car, and he only had two contacts.. his house phone, and his mums mobile number.
    I really felt for the guy and regularly tried to make friends with him, but he was just too shy and stayed in his room all the time.

    He was so quiet and shy, and after two years I can't believe what a change there has been in him. He never said a word to me before, now he comes with me and my mates clubbing when he is back in town. Hes part of the reason I changed my mind and decided to go university, because I saw first hand it really does change your life.
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    (Original post by worried_mess)
    University has an amazing effect on shy people, my friends brother went to uni two years ago and he was always so shy, never had friends, didnt even talk to his cousins and stuff at parties etc.

    The saddest thing was when he left his mobile on the backseat of his car, and he only had two contacts.. his house phone, and his mums mobile number.
    I really felt for the guy and regularly tried to make friends with him, but he was just too shy and stayed in his room all the time.

    He was so quiet and shy, and after two years I can't believe what a change there has been in him. He never said a word to me before, now he comes with me and my mates clubbing when he is back in town. Hes part of the reason I changed my mind and decided to go university, because I saw first hand it really does change your life.

    That's a lovely story! Really inspiring as well.
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    it could certainly make you a more outgoing person, there's plenty of shy people there anyway - you have nothing to be scared of.
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    Everyone joining university must be a little nervous..... i guess its all about getting used to uni and making friends....
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    (Original post by Kate101)
    Hey People!

    Im quite a shy girl and not very sociable initally when I meet new people for the first time. I tend to take a while to start feeling able to talk to people I dont Know. Im trying to overcome this cos I want to go to uni. Do you think this will stop my chances of getting the most out of uni life?

    Any opinions appreciated!
    hey! I'm kinda like you... -really shy sometimes... esp when meeting ppl for the first time. And yeh, i gotta admit the prospect of going to uni seemes oh so daunting and scary when we were in the middle of uni applications... so much that i even felt like backing out altogether! :confused:
    Anyway, now that I've thought about it more and more, I've realised there's nothing to be scared of at all. Uni is full of loadsa different kindsa ppl, from what I've heard (believe me!- i've had enough pep talks from my friends who have already ventured of into uni ages ago! ) and even if you still remain a shy type, there WILL be other shy ppl there too, so please don't feel intimidated... To be honest, if anything, i think uni will bring out the best in you as there's lotsa opportunities in socialising, there WILL be something that appeals to you, (eg a society or something where you can be socialise with like-minded peeps and have fun okay? So... trust me... it WILL be a good experience and you're no way gonna be lonely! I mean, you say you're not too confident in new situations... neither am i sometimes! (coming from a girl who passed out on her 2nd day at work and had to get sent home! *blushes*) but I actually think that perhaps, being a totally new situation, there will be less pressures and you can be yourself more, but that's more my own opinion tho.. And another point, shyness CAN be overcome if you want to... (just a thought)- coming from the girl who can now ooze confidence when she puts her mind to it but admittedly still feel nervous as hell on other occasions!

    Anyway, sorry about the essay... was gonna write more, but i'm probably sending you off to sleep already! Anyway, i wouldn't want you to go to uni all a worried mess or anything! Hope that reassures slightly! *Keep smiling and dont't worry! -you owe it to yourself to make teh best of it and HAVE FUN!!!*

    ~Skye~
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    You sound like you've come a long way skye- well done!
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    (Original post by young_free)
    You sound like you've come a long way skye- well done!
    Thanks! ... i feel like i have done!
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    I think that despite some shyness (which I do understand), you would get on extremely well at university. It is said by so many to be a life changing experience, and one that you will never forget.

    I think that because there are so many other people like you who go to university, you will probably become the most popular of the bunch. Don't worry about it all, if worst comes to worst, I'm entering in 2005, and I'll be your friend.
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    (Original post by RobbieC)
    I think that despite some shyness (which I do understand), you would get on extremely well at university.
    You know, for some of us, that isn't true.
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    (Original post by Kate101)
    Hey People!

    Im quite a shy girl and not very sociable initally when I meet new people for the first time. I tend to take a while to start feeling able to talk to people I dont Know. Im trying to overcome this cos I want to go to uni. Do you think this will stop my chances of getting the most out of uni life?

    Any opinions appreciated!
    I think you'll be fine! Like you I was really shy before I went to uni but when you get there most people are in the same boat and don't know anyone so just take a deep breath and talk to people. Most people are bound to be really nervous so if you're the one who starts off a conversation they're gonna be really grateful.

    I was really worried about not making any friends or not getting on with my flatmates but everything seemed to slot into place. I'm still not the most out going person and there are still lots of louder people than me but I do have A LOT more self confidence since I've been at uni. Like you it takes me a quite a while to start feeling comfortable around people and able to talk to them but with people like your flatmates you're gonna be spending a lot of time with them and soon it'll feel like you've known some of them for years!

    Good luck with everything
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    I've always been shy and I still am. But it's different at uni because there are so many people you actually finds friends you have something in common with. At school you are forced to get on with the people you will be in the same class with for years and years. Even if you cannot stand them or they you. I am still shy but I have found real friends who do not mind this.
 
 
 
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