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    I am a first year uni student living in halls. I have no friends, I don't like my flatmates.They're loud, alcholics. I hate drinking and being surrounded by it. I want to go home and commute, I've decided that I would prefer to do this for second and third year. I go home at weekends, which really cheers me up.I feel that this is preventing my unhappiness becoming full-out depression. But during the week I'm really unhappy, I spend most of the time I don't spend working, communicating with friends and family back home. I have a countdown to Friday (when I go home) I have worked out how many nights I have to spend away. I hate having a communal kitchen, they have been using my things so I have resorted to moving my plates and cutlery to my room and most food as well I have been eating things that can be cooked in under 10 minutes to spend minimal time in the kitchen. The course is interesting and I am enjoying it, but I feel like as I am not enjoying the rest. I'm a commutable distance, I am very prepared to do it. My parents have said that I should have first year at uni, staying at weekdays but coming home at weekends and then commuting from second year. I have joined a society, but even then I haven't succeded in sociallising. My Mum thinks I may have mild autism, I can believe it, I hate that my comforts are gone for the week and not being physically around people I like. I just feel so unhappy from Monday evening (i come back Mon morn) to Friday morning when I go back home (no lectures Friday)
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    (Original post by maryling1997)
    I am a first year uni student living in halls. I have no friends, I don't like my flatmates.They're loud, alcholics. I hate drinking and being surrounded by it. I want to go home and commute, I've decided that I would prefer to do this for second and third year. I go home at weekends, which really cheers me up.I feel that this is preventing my unhappiness becoming full-out depression. But during the week I'm really unhappy, I spend most of the time I don't spend working, communicating with friends and family back home. I have a countdown to Friday (when I go home) I have worked out how many nights I have to spend away. I hate having a communal kitchen, they have been using my things so I have resorted to moving my plates and cutlery to my room and most food as well I have been eating things that can be cooked in under 10 minutes to spend minimal time in the kitchen. The course is interesting and I am enjoying it, but I feel like as I am not enjoying the rest. I'm a commutable distance, I am very prepared to do it. My parents have said that I should have first year at uni, staying at weekdays but coming home at weekends and then commuting from second year. I have joined a society, but even then I haven't succeded in sociallising. My Mum thinks I may have mild autism, I can believe it, I hate that my comforts are gone for the week and not being physically around people I like. I just feel so unhappy from Monday evening (i come back Mon morn) to Friday morning when I go back home (no lectures Friday)
    Firstly, I'd get in touch with your university about the possibility of moving into different accommodation. Most of them offer "quiet flats" or some such equivalent which are probably a lot more suited to someone who doesn't enjoy the drinking culture or forced socialisation. But if that doesnt work out, bear in mind that things are very likely to get better over time - the drinking will die down, people will begin to focus on work more and things will hopefully get a little more manageable Try to get involved in more societies if you can as they're a great way to meet people, but other than that don't worry - however hard it is right now this isn't going to ruin university for you
 
 
 
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