Should i feel guilty...?

ok this is probably gonna sound really lame
but i duno its just really bugging me

oh and before i start..just to make sure i dont confuse anyone..im a girl and yes i have a girlfriend
so yeah...

me and my girlfriend lately have been arguing - things have been tense lately..everyone knows results are coming up ...shes really down at the moment and i dont know where i am with her and im trying to support her but its just hard, but we're working through it.

The other night i went out with some friends and got pretty trashed..just because i hadnt been out in a while cos my friends had been on holiday so i wanted a good time when they got back. anyway.. me and my gf had argued that evening and ..dont get me wrong..i wasnt holding a grudge jst wanted to forget about it and have a good night out

anyway that night.. on the way back from the toilet some guy came over to me and was chatting to me, he seemed nice enough but when he asked for a kiss i said "sorry ive got a gf"
then he was like "aww ok..cant i just have 1 kiss" and so just to humour him i pecked him on the cheek and he was all "aww no a proper kiss" and again i turned him down but he seemed nice so i sed "cmere il buy u a drink if u want", cos wed been just friendly chatting and he seemed like a nice guy...(unlike a lot of those guys only after 1 thing who i used to always end up with) anyway we carried on chatting and we never got round to geting this drink (service nowadays pfft )

so by now i was thinking i should get back to my friends and i said "anyway im gonna go now dont worry im sure you'll pull tonight" and he was all like "no i wana pull you cant i have a kiss?" and he leaned in and i went to peck him on the lips (incase you're wondering me and my gf dont really have a problem with this because we don't really consider it that bad and we know its meaningless)
anyway he went in for a proper snog and for a cuple of seconds i was snogging him back..but im thinking it was only because i was pretty trashed...(and im not trying to say that as an excuse i just want to fill you in on the full situation...i actually threw up 5 times that night) anyway i pulled away after a couple of seconds and said bye and went back to my friends

anyway at the moment my gf is just not in a good state for me to tell her the truth but im just wondering whether i should be feeling guilty about it or not?

i did feel really guilty and did say i just pecked a lad on the lips 9as that is what i was intending to do) and she was fine with it.

so im just wondering what you think. whether you would tell your bf/gf and whether you would be annoyed etc?

i know i probably sound sad but please dont be harsh

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Reply 1

Ozy

7

I'd be upset if my GF (if I had one) kissed a guy/girl properly, but you said you and your GF consider it meaning less, so you shouldn't fee guilty in that respect.

I wouldn't tell her, but if she asks, I wouldn't withhold the truth either. Maybe tell her after the results (if they go well).

Good luck, I hope you both get back on track.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Ozy

I'd be upset if my GF (if I had one) kissed a guy/girl properly, but you said you and your GF consider it meaning less, so you shouldn't fee guilty in that respect.

I wouldn't tell her, but if she asks, I wouldn't withhold the truth either. Maybe tell her after the results (if they go well).

Good luck, I hope you both get back on track.

just to be clear..we dont really have a problem with pecking somebody on the lips

thanks ozy

Reply 3

Ozy

7

Anonymous

just to be clear..we dont really have a problem with pecking somebody on the lips

thanks ozy

Oh...I see.

Well in that case maybe you should tell her, but do explain you were wasted at the time tho. Being sick 5 times in one night, you must have had loads to drink to be fair.

Reply 4

NSW

are you worried cos it was more than just a peck on the lips? i would prob mention some guy hit on you and you were so hammered u didnt back of straight away, which is what it sounds like. don't beat yourself up over it though. if your girlfriends having a ****ty time at the mo and you think this would make things worse, i dont see any harm in overlooking it... unless any of your mates are likely to go **** stirring.

Reply 5

username47781

20

Regardless of what gender you kissed you should feel pretty damn guilty. I wouldn't be happy if I were your girlfriend.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

I've told her that i pecked a guy on the lips and that he went in for more..just didnt tell her that for a cuple of seconds i was kissing him back because that would have upset her, but the fact is it meant nothing to me, i wasnt attracted to him at all...if anything i think i was just shocked and like i said very drunk.

but i just know that she would overreact and think that it meant something just because of the situation.

Reply 7

NSW

yeh, personally i really wouldnt tell her, maybe that makes me a bad person i dunno. i know alcohol shouldnt be an excuse, but in this case, i think it's somewhat valid.

Reply 8

sopheeb

Bit off topic, sorry, but why is it that guys ALWAYS react like that to "sorry I have a gf"? Grr!

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

sopheeb

Bit off topic, sorry, but why is it that guys ALWAYS react like that to "sorry I have a gf"? Grr!

lol i know
tell me about it!!

Reply 10

sopheeb

It's so annoying, it's as if it just doesn't count, and all that crap you go through means nothing because obviously lesbianism is just there to fulfil men's sexual fantasies. </end rant> Never mind.

Reply 11

Dionysus

15

Well at least you are guilty about it, meaning you hopefully won't do it again. Everybody makes mistakes... Personally if a gf of mine did that, obviously I'd be annoyed but I would also accept that these things happen.

Should i feel guilty...?

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