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Help starting to feel very sad at Uni first year Watch

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    Right so I've started a conservatoire (music college) this year in London.
    I'm living in the student halls in a flat, however my flatmates are nice people but v boring and not my usual out going fun personality.
    I do have friends in another flat so went there every night in freshers week as my flat didn't want to go to the events or go out. Although one of those in the flat plays the same instrument as me and I feel like he thinks there's a lot of jealousy/competition between us, or in other words I feel he really dislikes me. So I feel now freshers are over that I am intruding by going to their flat in the evenings to hang out (as I get such hate vibes from him). The flat below them are also nice people but I also feel like I'm intruding by going into their flat.
    I guess because I'm spending 4-5 hours in a practise room with my
    Instrument everyday I'm becoming quite isolated and I'm the kind of person who wants to go out and enjoy student life. I think spending the days alone and then the evenings in my room is getting me really down and I'm feeling v sad at night especially. I'm also beginning to really miss home too and my friends there.
    Next year I can live with some friends so I'm hoping that all will work out and I can feel happy again because I am enjoying my degree but just not the social side sadly.

    Please help, I really need to cheer the hell up as I think I'm starting to feel depressed which is something completely new for me.
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    a good way to meet people living in other halls is to join some societies or clubs ; is there a particular activity you haven't done for ages or something you've always wanted to try which your uni offers as doing something fun and potentially active will make you feel more positive and give you the chance to meet new people also ! you don't have to limit yourself to those you know via halls ! there is nothing from stopping you going out and trying a wide range of activities.... I like yourself am also a fresher at uni and have come to the conclusion I'm not particularly close with many people in my hall so this week i've been trying out new societies and clubs and having tried gymnastics club last night I can vouch for the fact doing something active with others makes you feel great, and this wednesday I plan on trying rock climbing !
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