So... How does this thing work?

Right, well, I'm in a bit of new territory here. Having never gone out with anyone before, I'm not sure how it works. A guy at work asked me to go with him out on Tuesday. Now, whilst never having experienced it firsthand, I know how it works at boarding school, or at least how it worked at mine. You were 'asked out', and then you were 'going out'- since we couldn't leave campus, there were no 'dates'. But how does it work in the big wide world? Are we now going out, or are we just going on a date? Should I continue just to treat him in a kinda flirtatious way until then, or are we now more than that? Confused! help!

Reply 1

ßlαcksωαn

No you're not bf and gf yet...

Reply 2

emzay

If he asked you to go out on Tuesday, then it's a date. Usually, it takes a few dates before things come more serious :smile:

. So you're not boyfriend and girlfriend yet!

Reply 3

louisedotcom

From the thread title I was hoping that you were male, and talking about your penis.

Reply 4

ßlαcksωαn

louisedotcom

From the thread title I was hoping that you were male, and talking about your penis.

gold

Reply 5

louisedotcom

From the thread title I was hoping that you were male, and talking about your penis.

Not very likely, we've been playing with them since we were babies. We know them more intimately than the back of our hands!

Reply 6

HaNzY

louisedotcom

From the thread title I was hoping that you were male, and talking about your penis.

i was thinking the same :p:

Reply 7

Somebody

I would saying he's asked you on a date.

If you want to go on it (and it sounds like you do!), go - and continue to be flirtaceous.

If you don't want to go, let him down gently and curb your flirtacions.

But don't let him do more than you feel comfortable with!

Reply 8

reisen

louisedotcom

From the thread title I was hoping that you were male, and talking about your penis.

exactly my thought.....so why did we look at it, the thread i mean :s-smilie:

Reply 9

Sticky

In the big wide world, "asking out" like in an preppy American teen series doesn't really happen. You don't go on a first "date" with Billy Bob the star quarterback just after going on the second "date "with Brad the class president and then start "going steady" with Brad after reaching "second base" with Billy Bob etc.

Sure there's a bit of influence but we're a million miles from the classic American dating system. Even in the US, the whole concepts, which fit the 50s and 60s are fading.

You're only really going out when it's agreed between both of you that you're boyfriend and girlfriend. It can be done explicitly or you might realise after meeting up a few times that you appear to be an item. Then again, only the straightforward question will give you the firm answer you need.