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    I've been at uni for nearly three weeks now but I haven't really formed any proper friendships with people from my flat. This is panicking me because I always felt like you would be amazing friends with the people in your flat and whilst I don't hate them, I just don't get on well with them, like we don't click. Is this normal or do most people form strong friendships with the people of their flat?
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    It's fine, people tend to cling to their flatmates like glue at the start of freshers but by the end of the year a lot of people will be finding their friendship groups elsewhere, the idea of being best friends with your flatmates is pushed so much that anyone who isn't best friends with their flatmates will be keeping quiet about it so you won't hear it

    tbh if you get on fine that's still really good so be happy you don't have hellish flatmates and try not to worry, you'll meet people in lots of places
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    (Original post by senpaipoppy)
    I've been at uni for nearly three weeks now but I haven't really formed any proper friendships with people from my flat. This is panicking me because I always felt like you would be amazing friends with the people in your flat and whilst I don't hate them, I just don't get on well with them, like we don't click. Is this normal or do most people form strong friendships with the people of their flat?
    Hello ,

    This isn't uncommon, although it's nice to get on with your flatmates, it isn't compulsory. Sometimes, people just don't get on with their flatmates and it shouldn't be a big deal - just be civil with them and live with them and enjoy your time living in your flat but at the end of the day, you can make friends off your course and through societies - just bare that in mind!

    Good luck
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    (Original post by doodle_333)
    It's fine, people tend to cling to their flatmates like glue at the start of freshers but by the end of the year a lot of people will be finding their friendship groups elsewhere, the idea of being best friends with your flatmates is pushed so much that anyone who isn't best friends with their flatmates will be keeping quiet about it so you won't hear it

    tbh if you get on fine that's still really good so be happy you don't have hellish flatmates and try not to worry, you'll meet people in lots of places
    (Original post by JustGeorgeJ)
    Hello ,

    This isn't uncommon, although it's nice to get on with your flatmates, it isn't compulsory. Sometimes, people just don't get on with their flatmates and it shouldn't be a big deal - just be civil with them and live with them and enjoy your time living in your flat but at the end of the day, you can make friends off your course and through societies - just bare that in mind!

    Good luck
    Thanks guys, it's nice to know that it is pretty normal. It is still upsetting me though that I don't click with them because I just feel like it makes socialising harder because I have to go find other people to be with, like they're not just in the same flat as me and it's kinda annoying idk
 
 
 
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