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The tell tail signs of lurve!

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When communicating via text and email, what are the tell tail signs of serious attraction?

i.e. not simple flirting but a serious willingness to take things further

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

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A) Suggesting stuff for the future, like, 'maybe when we..'
B) 'Lines' like 'you know it'
C) Emoticons - particularly the :wink:

or :P
D) References such as 'hi gorgeous' or 'hey beautiful'
E) Frequency of texts
F) More open stuff like compliments or pretending to be disappointed when you say you can't see them, lol.

I'm no expert but just go with your gut feeling on this :smile:

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

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thanks but some of them sound like basic flirting. i.e. :wink:

and 'hi gorgeous'

What about when, during a text conversation he says, "I'll think of you tomorrow when I'm at the beach"

:redface:

Reply 3

username74922

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that's a bit head on lol. Ermm hey sweetie is always a nice 1. Or tell her you made a special nickname for her (always a winner) it'll make her think you like her enough to care to make her a pointless nickname lmao if that makes any sense.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

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Magikal

that's a bit head on lol. Ermm hey sweetie is always a nice 1. Or tell her you made a special nickname for her (always a winner) it'll make her think you like her enough to care to make her a pointless nickname lmao if that makes any sense.

ahhh yes nicknames.

We've only been talking for a week or so and he's already called me some pet names. Nice one :cool:

And asked me for a drink.

But how do I know if he's just being friendly? :confused:

Or if he does this to every girl.

On his facebook he has loads of females as friends and hardly any males. It's worrisome :s-smilie:

I'm playing it cool and holding off our drink for a while saying "I will soon". It seems to be making him keener :wink:

heh heh

Reply 5

Anon80008

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You can't tell from texts or e-mails.

You can tell if someone loves you in person from their tone of voice, their facial expressions and their general body language. Even then there's a fair chance you're wrong. But with words alone it's essentially impossible. Listen to Cher

Reply 6

Tufts

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Cher is a scary robot-voiced person :afraid:

But thanks for the advice :^_^:

I just want to figure out this dudes vibes

Reply 7

MurderGBush

Expect the unexpected. There are no clear signs unless its face-to-face, gestures, attitude, eye-contact - look out for all these things :tongue:

Reply 8

scribble_girl

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Okay, I'm more with the above on this now, I agree some of the stuff I had up there is a bit vague :smile:

Just go see him... I think he sounds interested, but there you go. :]

Reply 9

DodgyTrousers

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I think it's way too easy to overplay wording in text communication. As you say, the line between harmless flirt and genuine interest isn't that thick.

Honestly, I'd say you'll only really know if you meet him. Body language such as leaning in to listen to you, touching you a lot etc make it more obvious. The number one best way to know though is just to try to kiss him and see how he reacts :smile:

It doesn't sound like you're trying to court a potential friend anyway, so what have you got to lose?

Reply 10

King Hippo

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The Anthropologist

Is this anything to do with King Hippo?

Mate, piss off, eh?

Reply 11

FCabinet34x72

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Wez

You can't tell from texts or e-mails.

You can tell if someone loves you in person from their tone of voice, their facial expressions and their general body language. Even then there's a fair chance you're wrong. But with words alone it's essentially impossible. Listen to Cher

True is the only real clues , to knowing whether its real!

Reply 12

BlueRoses

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Hey Tufts almost 10,000 posts!....

But yeah, I think the beach thing means he likes you :smile:

and I agree with what scribble_girl said.

Reply 13

Anon80008

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The Anthropologist

Is this anything to do with King Hippo?

King Hippo

Mate, piss off, eh?

1 minute between those times of posting.

I think someone may be refreshing the page religiously. :p:

Who's been texting Tufts... *drumroll*

Reply 14

ILikeToHaveFun

"x"?

Reply 15

King Hippo

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Wez

1 minute between those times of posting.

I think someone may be refreshing the page religiously. :p:

Who's been texting Tufts... *drumroll*

Afraid you're wrong, she's not on about me. Unlucky.

Reply 16

ISH

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King Hippo

Afraid you're wrong, she's not on about me. Unlucky.

You ought to go for the chick in your avatar :hubba:

Reply 17

Anon80008

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King Hippo

Afraid you're wrong, she's not on about me. Unlucky.

No, I meant that someone's been texting Tufts, she posted about it in this thread and now you're refreshing the page religiously.

We know you lurve her. :wink:

Reply 18

King Hippo

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She's my best mate, nothing more. I love her like a sister, I'm just looking out for her.

Reply 19

*Katie*

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Maybe I'm old-fashioned (or something :s-smilie:

) but I don't think there are obvious signs when texting - maybe with e-mails, if he clearly wants you go to x with him, compliments you in a more than off-handed way, and replies pretty quickly (or lengthily - not a word, I know :p:

).

I think you'll just have to suss out his vibe when you meet with him. Some people are just HUGE flirts (myself included), and I pretty much do everything mentioned here as standard - calling people gorgeous, coming up with names for thm (they're usually not cute, though) and so on.

But it also depends on how well you know eachother - if you've just met, then it looks promising :smile:

. Certain levels of flirting are either signs of attraction or familiarity.

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