How to support someone whose mother is dying of cancer?

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    I know this is a very dark thread and I apologise if this is too much for TSR but I don't know what I should do for my friend in real life. I've known him since college and we went to the same university and I'm devastated that this is happening to him because he's such a lovely person. Basically he's found out today that his mother has gone from being given a year to live to 3-6 months. I've been meeting up with him to help him and discuss plans with him and trying to take his mind off it but I feel like this isn't enough. I know that this is a very difficult thing but any advice would be appreciated
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    Perhaps just let that person you're there for them?
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    Honestly,there's nothing you can do to take away their pain (I know it's not nice to see a friend in pain) but knowing someone is there to talk to and planning something to do might give them a sense of normalcy for a few hours.
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    Hi TSR

    I know this is a very dark thread and I apologise if this is too much for TSR but I don't know what I should do for my friend in real life. I've known him since college and we went to the same university and I'm devastated that this is happening to him because he's such a lovely person. Basically he's found out today that his mother has gone from being given a year to live to 3-6 months. I've been meeting up with him to help him and discuss plans with him and trying to take his mind off it but I feel like this isn't enough. I know that this is a very difficult thing but any advice would be appreciated
    Do you get on well with his mum?

    If so visit her, be it in hopsital or at home.
    If or when she comes home be practical and help out, shopping, few chores etc.
    Go round for a cup of tea and be generally cheery. its about making the most of the time left and not being glum.
    Tiy cna reassure her that you will stay friends with her son and keep an eye on him.

    For him it depends. You know his character what he's like when happy so maybe you are one of the few he trusts. Treat him as normal, keep him involved, but be there to listen if he has worries or just wnats to talk.

    He needs to spend as much time with his mum as he can.
    He might need to come to terms about what will happen and how he can best deal with it for his own and his mums sake.
    Besides helping out then your real worth will come in the support you cna offer after she passes away.

    http://www.cancer.net/coping-with-ca...who-has-cancer
    http://www.cancer.org/treatment/unde...ne-with-cancer
    http://www.macmillan.org.uk/informat...one-has-cancer
    https://www.reddit.com/r/socialskill...se_mother_has/
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    Thank you everyone, some good suggestions here. I'll try and do the best I can
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thank you everyone, some good suggestions here. I'll try and do the best I can
    The fact you ve asked for advice, shows that you re a very good friend to them so I m sure you ll find a way to help them
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    Allow him to have a whinge / rant at you if he wishes.

    Don't make every single conversation about his mum's illness / how he feels. Sometimes, he may need you as a distraction to get away from everything.
 
 
 
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