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Friends after rejection

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    I met a girl recently and after a few days of hanging out I asked her out. She said no and we agreed to remain friends (I'm actually kind of glad, I think I only really like her as a friend). I have talked to her once and texted her once since and I'm not sure if she was uncomfortable or felt weird. Is it best to wait a while before talking to her again? I'd rather not break off contact completely as I really like her as a friend. How long should I wait?

    It doesn't really work out. Your feelings may grow stronger if you stay friends with her, this while you knowing that she only sees you as a friend. I wouldn't say break off contact completely, but you should take a step back and not get too close. You're already thinking about when to text her; your feelings haven't gone yet so keep that in mind.

    If anything it may be awkward for you and not necessarily the girl. Some people stay in the friendship to keep giving the girl some attention to win her over but that never works. If you find that your feelings get stronger and stronger, you probably should cut contact. It's for the best. I've been in that position before and the friendship just doesn't hold when one person's feelings isn't reciprocated.

    Do friends worry about how long to wait? No. Just be yourself fam, if she can't handle that, she's no friend. Simples
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Updated: October 8, 2016
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