Join TSR now for chat about life, relationships, fashion and more…Sign up now

Ask a girl out via email? Watch

    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    I live in London. I know I have posted a few similar questions, for which I am sorry. This question relates to a post on a previous question.

    I am a shy male who doesn't have the confidence to go and ask a girl out when her friends are there. I was thinking of asking her out via email as I would find it easier to get to know her in a cafe rather than at school. Should I go for it and ask this girl out via email???
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    they say romance is dead
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    Email? Are we in the mid 90s?
    • TSR Support Team
    • Clearing and Applications Advisor
    • Welcome Squad
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    Though I appreciate that you're shy, email really isn't appropriate. *It's not a business transaction or discussion with a tutor! *If you want, then you could email her asking if you could meet privately when she has a minute and then ask her in person, but please don't do it by email!
    • TSR Support Team
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    I understand you are shy and how nerve racking it can be to ask someone out face to face or over the phone/email etc but you will gain a lot more respect from the person you ask out if you do it face to face plus it is good practice at hopefully overcoming your shyness. Even if you did ask her out over email and she said yes, you would still have to meet her after that and I imagine your nerves would be higher since you are now meeting her as a partner and not just a friend.
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    Don't be silly, we all know it's better if you ask her in person.
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Dave Peterson)
    I live in London. I know I have posted a few similar questions, for which I am sorry. This question relates to a post on a previous question.

    I am a shy male who doesn't have the confidence to go and ask a girl out when her friends are there. I was thinking of asking her out via email as I would find it easier to get to know her in a cafe rather than at school. Should I go for it and ask this girl out via email???
    Are we in 2005 or what? :toofunny:
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    Asking out by email is a bad strategy. It displays lack of courage which is never an attractive trait. But worst of all is the hideous wait after you have sent the message, which gets worse and worse the longer the delay before (or if) you get a reply. Far, far, better to push forward nerves and all - afaint heart never won a fair lady etc.. - and ask her out face to face. You get immediate feedback. and ultimately what ever happens it feels better. Good luck.
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    You can borrow my cell phone here and call her and ask her out.

    You're welcome.

    Reagan for president.
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by RainbowMan)
    You can borrow my cell phone here and call her and ask her out.

    You're welcome.

    Reagan for president.
    PRSOM
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    Judging by this thread it seems I am one of the few people left who use email to communicate.

    This dodo enjoys the island.
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    Check the mirror. Is your hair on point? Walk up to her. Breathe. Hey, I was wondering if you wanted to hang out sometime? (or say a date, so she can't keep avoiding it) Win or lose, you tried.
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    Aw cute

    Although it is kind of dated to ask her out over email if you haven't got any other means and you really are to shy to ask her face to face then there's no harm in just asking if she wants to meet for coffee over email and then just say you're sorry you're asking over email it's just because you don't have her number...

    If you do have her number message her that way instead.
    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Little Popcorns)
    Aw cute

    Although it is kind of dated to ask her out over email if you haven't got any other means and you really are to shy to ask her face to face then there's no harm in just asking if she wants to meet for coffee over email and then just say you're sorry you're asking over email it's just because you don't have her number...

    If you do have her number message her that way instead.
    Yeah ive got her number so i will do that thanks for the advice!!!
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    Please just go up to her and talk to her rhen alone ask her out? Are you shy? If you do it by email then you will be shy on the date. Get out of your comfort zone
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    If you wanna be ignored and a first class ticket to the friend zone then go for it. Seriously nothing turns women off more than a lack of confidence, believe me i know.

    I suggest working on your confidence a little more and then asking the girl out in person, ideally when she's not surrounded by her friends.
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Dave Peterson)
    I live in London. I know I have posted a few similar questions, for which I am sorry. This question relates to a post on a previous question.

    I am a shy male who doesn't have the confidence to go and ask a girl out when her friends are there. I was thinking of asking her out via email as I would find it easier to get to know her in a cafe rather than at school. Should I go for it and ask this girl out via email???
    EMAIL?! hahah
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    Email? Interesting


    Posted from TSR Mobile
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    Please don't do this via email omg LOL


    Posted from TSR Mobile
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Dave Peterson)
    I live in London. I know I have posted a few similar questions, for which I am sorry. This question relates to a post on a previous question.

    I am a shy male who doesn't have the confidence to go and ask a girl out when her friends are there. I was thinking of asking her out via email as I would find it easier to get to know her in a cafe rather than at school. Should I go for it and ask this girl out via email???
    If you're even considering this than you should... Can't finish this sentence without getting banned, apologies
 
 
 
Write a reply… Reply
Submit reply
Updated: October 8, 2016
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Poll
Is GoT overrated?

The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

Quick reply
Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.