How come my mum was like this, is it my fault for being odd?

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    Whilst growing up, how come my mum has always preferred to call me rather thanseeing my side of something and discussing it. An example was when we were going for a day out she had her music on loud in the car and it was uncomfortable to me. I asked for it to be turned down and my dad over reacting just turned it off. My mum then said to my dad 'shes a boring ***** isnt she'. I got annoyed and said that i only suggested turning it down not off and she went off on one saying 'why does she have to come to moan all the way and it caused an argument. I do love music but im the quiet type and listen to it on my headphones lol. Another example is at a family do i was conscious of an essay that needed finishing and so after a while asked if i could get home and my mum just said 'shes sad isnt she' lol. My dad said that i never got on with her past the age of 12 cause im a different personality she's more outgoing and im quiet/boring. Theres been loads of arguments because ive got annoyed at her not being able to discuss things and her just calling me. I dont know if its my fault as i can get obsessed with things like noise etc (expecially at night) but looking back I cant say that i like her and she doesn't like me. I sometimes wonder if im being oversensitive though, do you ever hold grudges against parents and things?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Whilst growing up, how come my mum has always preferred to call me rather thanseeing my side of something and discussing it. An example was when we were going for a day out she had her music on loud in the car and it was uncomfortable to me. I asked for it to be turned down and my dad over reacting just turned it off. My mum then said to my dad 'shes a boring ***** isnt she'. I got annoyed and said that i only suggested turning it down not off and she went off on one saying 'why does she have to come to moan all the way and it caused an argument. I do love music but im the quiet type and listen to it on my headphones lol. Another example is at a family do i was conscious of an essay that needed finishing and so after a while asked if i could get home and my mum just said 'shes sad isnt she' lol. My dad said that i never got on with her past the age of 12 cause im a different personality she's more outgoing and im quiet/boring. Theres been loads of arguments because ive got annoyed at her not being able to discuss things and her just calling me. I dont know if its my fault as i can get obsessed with things like noise etc (expecially at night) but looking back I cant say that i like her and she doesn't like me. I sometimes wonder if im being oversensitive though, do you ever hold grudges against parents and things?
    lol thats sad man
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    try talking things out, and saying exactly what you said here. I'm sure she loves you. after all, she is your mother. dont think so much about it. because then it will become a huge issue.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Whilst growing up, how come my mum has always preferred to call me rather thanseeing my side of something and discussing it. An example was when we were going for a day out she had her music on loud in the car and it was uncomfortable to me. I asked for it to be turned down and my dad over reacting just turned it off. My mum then said to my dad 'shes a boring ***** isnt she'. I got annoyed and said that i only suggested turning it down not off and she went off on one saying 'why does she have to come to moan all the way and it caused an argument. I do love music but im the quiet type and listen to it on my headphones lol. Another example is at a family do i was conscious of an essay that needed finishing and so after a while asked if i could get home and my mum just said 'shes sad isnt she' lol. My dad said that i never got on with her past the age of 12 cause im a different personality she's more outgoing and im quiet/boring. Theres been loads of arguments because ive got annoyed at her not being able to discuss things and her just calling me. I dont know if its my fault as i can get obsessed with things like noise etc (expecially at night) but looking back I cant say that i like her and she doesn't like me. I sometimes wonder if im being oversensitive though, do you ever hold grudges against parents and things?
    I feel similar my mother thinks i am the world's most boring person to my mother was quite popular at school I am a loner type who enjoys her own company reading a book or doing research about random things eg historical figures.I wish things could be different my mother hates spending time with me it makes me sad as I try my best yet for her nothing is ever good enough.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Whilst growing up, how come my mum has always preferred to call me rather thanseeing my side of something and discussing it. An example was when we were going for a day out she had her music on loud in the car and it was uncomfortable to me. I asked for it to be turned down and my dad over reacting just turned it off. My mum then said to my dad 'shes a boring ***** isnt she'. I got annoyed and said that i only suggested turning it down not off and she went off on one saying 'why does she have to come to moan all the way and it caused an argument. I do love music but im the quiet type and listen to it on my headphones lol. Another example is at a family do i was conscious of an essay that needed finishing and so after a while asked if i could get home and my mum just said 'shes sad isnt she' lol. My dad said that i never got on with her past the age of 12 cause im a different personality she's more outgoing and im quiet/boring. Theres been loads of arguments because ive got annoyed at her not being able to discuss things and her just calling me. I dont know if its my fault as i can get obsessed with things like noise etc (expecially at night) but looking back I cant say that i like her and she doesn't like me. I sometimes wonder if im being oversensitive though, do you ever hold grudges against parents and things?
    Also I am too a deeply sensitive person who is weak emotionally and will cry about anything
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    I'm guessing your mother is relatively uneducated/unaccomplished, and possibly has a chip on her shoulder :dontknow:
 
 
 
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