What's going on?

Ok, so there's this girl that I *really* like. Quite what I see in her, I'm not sure, since we have roughly nothing in common yet still we manage to talk for ages, which I can never do with someone else (if I have so little in common with someone).

Anyway, she went with my mate a while back (few weeks), and from what she's said it was a one night stand because he's so fit (she's let me know that a few times, and I won't deny it, he's a very good looking guy). She was also the most drunk I've ever seen her that night; but that's probably me making excuses.

Nevertheless, she is pretty much constantly texting/msning me. I never start the conversation, always her, because I don't know where I stand.

After a night out recently I managed to end up back at her house with a couple of her (female) mates, she invited me. Sex just wasn't on the agenda. We drank some serious vodka+coke together through the night which is the only reason it wasn't massively awkward.

Got talking to one of her friends and she said "my mate thinks you're really cool", to which I asked how. Said I was a really nice guy etc and fun to hang around with. I laughed and jokingly said to her if we would ever make a couple and she laughed back, saying "I don't think that'd work out".

I really just don't know where I stand with this. She's dead forward with me, always physical with me and she sometimes stares at me a bit.

I really need some advice. I honestly think I should calm down the contact with her because I'm off to a different end of the country in a month or so and this really can't work out. Yet she's the first girl I've really ever felt about in this way. If she asked me to drop everything and run away with her, I would.

Reply 1

spark911

Perhaps you see the coke in her.

Reply 2

Erana

It sounds like you feel more for her than she does for you... I'd say the reason she seems so comfortable with you is because she sees you as someone who is firmly in the friend zone.

Reply 3

Chewwy

Erana

It sounds like you feel more for her than she does for you...

i don't think so.. she's the one initiating everything.

i think the OP should stop thinking about this so much and make a move. if you're moving away soon, the clock is ticking!

Reply 4

Saffie

if you're about to move to the other side of the country, then i'm afraid it's unlikely to work. There's no need to stop the contact now, but I don't think it's worth asking her out because you're setting yourself up for more heartache when you leave.

But, it's up to you, of course.

Reply 5

joeawful

Erana

It sounds like you feel more for her than she does for you... I'd say the reason she seems so comfortable with you is because she sees you as someone who is firmly in the friend zone.

This is quite possible and what I keep on telling myself. But I've never had female friends that are that physical with me. Everytime we sit down to talk her hands seem to start 'wandering'.

To be honest, maybe it's just the way she is and I'm misinterpreting it.