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    Hello I am in year 13 and I have a group of 6 gthat have been my friends for years , me and a friend got into an argument about something silly and they all sided with her. I have decided my only option is to avoid them. There is a guy that still speaks to me (we have lessons toegther so he is forced to) and a girl that I'm okay with but its just awkward to hang with her because she's close to the girl I had the argument with.

    So I basically have to spend breaks alone. Walk home alone , have no social life and just have little humour or fun in my life, I have no hobbies and there's no clubs in my school that my ex friends don't go to .

    Also I can't 'find new friends' because I strongly doubt anyone would care or want to be my friend as everyone is already in cliques or whatever and I've thought long and hard and there's no one that I actually feel I could possibly be friends with in my school. there's almost no chance unless a nice new student comes in this month

    Chances of making up and being friends again are slim to none. I cry almost every day because I literally have no one apart from family which is just my parents . (only child) they have told me to ignore them and focus on what's important - studies .and that in university I will have many friends . but a whole year of nothing? no jokes no fun no one to speak to. urgh

    So how do I go to school like this. I feel depressed thinking about it . Maybe it's better I can concentrate on school . thanks
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    Hello I am in year 13 and I have a group of 6 gthat have been my friends for years , me and a friend got into an argument about something silly and they all sided with her. I have decided my only option is to avoid them. There is a guy that still speaks to me (we have lessons toegther so he is forced to) and a girl that I'm okay with but its just awkward to hang with her because she's close to the girl I had the argument with.

    So I basically have to spend breaks alone. Walk home alone , have no social life and just have little humour or fun in my life, I have no hobbies and there's no clubs in my school that my ex friends don't go to .

    Also I can't 'find new friends' because I strongly doubt anyone would care or want to be my friend as everyone is already in cliques or whatever and I've thought long and hard and there's no one that I actually feel I could possibly be friends with in my school. there's almost no chance unless a nice new student comes in this month

    Chances of making up and being friends again are slim to none. I cry almost every day because I literally have no one apart from family which is just my parents . (only child) they have told me to ignore them and focus on what's important - studies .and that in university I will have many friends . but a whole year of nothing? no jokes no fun no one to speak to. urgh

    So how do I go to school like this. I feel depressed thinking about it . Maybe it's better I can concentrate on school . thanks
    btw in no way am I trying to look like a sad lonely girl. im OK with being alone but I just haven't fully accepted that I will really have no friends and stuff
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    Hello I am in year 13 and I have a group of 6 gthat have been my friends for years , me and a friend got into an argument about something silly and they all sided with her. I have decided my only option is to avoid them. There is a guy that still speaks to me (we have lessons toegther so he is forced to) and a girl that I'm okay with but its just awkward to hang with her because she's close to the girl I had the argument with.

    So I basically have to spend breaks alone. Walk home alone , have no social life and just have little humour or fun in my life, I have no hobbies and there's no clubs in my school that my ex friends don't go to .

    Also I can't 'find new friends' because I strongly doubt anyone would care or want to be my friend as everyone is already in cliques or whatever and I've thought long and hard and there's no one that I actually feel I could possibly be friends with in my school. there's almost no chance unless a nice new student comes in this month

    Chances of making up and being friends again are slim to none. I cry almost every day because I literally have no one apart from family which is just my parents . (only child) they have told me to ignore them and focus on what's important - studies .and that in university I will have many friends . but a whole year of nothing? no jokes no fun no one to speak to. urgh

    So how do I go to school like this. I feel depressed thinking about it . Maybe it's better I can concentrate on school . thanks
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hello I am in year 13 and I have a group of 6 gthat have been my friends for years , me and a friend got into an argument about something silly and they all sided with her. I have decided my only option is to avoid them. There is a guy that still speaks to me (we have lessons toegther so he is forced to) and a girl that I'm okay with but its just awkward to hang with her because she's close to the girl I had the argument with.

    So I basically have to spend breaks alone. Walk home alone , have no social life and just have little humour or fun in my life, I have no hobbies and there's no clubs in my school that my ex friends don't go to .

    Also I can't 'find new friends' because I strongly doubt anyone would care or want to be my friend as everyone is already in cliques or whatever and I've thought long and hard and there's no one that I actually feel I could possibly be friends with in my school. there's almost no chance unless a nice new student comes in this month

    Chances of making up and being friends again are slim to none. I cry almost every day because I literally have no one apart from family which is just my parents . (only child) they have told me to ignore them and focus on what's important - studies .and that in university I will have many friends . but a whole year of nothing? no jokes no fun no one to speak to. urgh

    So how do I go to school like this. I feel depressed thinking about it . Maybe it's better I can concentrate on school . thanks
    Listen, first of all I'm really sorry about your situation. The same exact thing happened to me two years ago and it was really hard for me. But the thing is you sound like a strong mature person who's willing to handle the situation. If you beloved avoiding them is the best thing you can do then do it. I would say just focus in your studies, your in year 13 so you'll likely be off to uni in less then a year or have a job. Anyways you'll meet new people and talk to new people, I find it highly unlikely your 'friends' we're going to be stuck to you all your life. You sound like a nice person that will make new friends, don't put yourself down. I'm not really friends with anyone either but I DO socialise. I focus in my studies and do work experience. Try to not to think about it to much and don't blame yourself for anything. Maybe this will give you more time to think about the future and what you want to do in life.

    I'm sorry if you don't like my advice but like I said I've been in the same situation and I'm doing fine, if anything it's made me stronger. Good luck
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    Listen, first of all I'm really sorry about your situation. The same exact thing happened to me two years ago and it was really hard for me. But the thing is you sound like a strong mature person who's willing to handle the situation. If you beloved avoiding them is the best thing you can do then do it. I would say just focus in your studies, your in year 13 so you'll likely be off to uni in less then a year or have a job. Anyways you'll meet new people and talk to new people, I find it highly unlikely your 'friends' we're going to be stuck to you all your life. You sound like a nice person that will make new friends, don't put yourself down. I'm not really friends with anyone either but I DO socialise. I focus in my studies and do work experience. Try to not to think about it to much and don't blame yourself for anything. Maybe this will give you more time to think about the future and what you want to do in life.

    I'm sorry if you don't like my advice but like I said I've been in the same situation and I'm doing fine, if anything it's made me stronger. Good luck
    but how do I just roam around alome? at some point won't I get tired of such little interaction and boringness? also I get what u mean about not knowing them my whole life , I guess I've just stopped contact sooner than I would have
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    but how do I just roam around alome? at some point won't I get tired of such little interaction and boringness? also I get what u mean about not knowing them my whole life , I guess I've just stopped contact sooner than I would have
    Hmm that's a difficult one. Try and give yourself a hobby. Such as reading, drawing or start keeping a diary and talk to the one girl that your ok with. I know it's hard to be alone if your used to talking alot so try and find new friends. The issue with sixth form is that you get a lot of free periods. Keep up yourself busy and do your homework. Talk to someone at your school that can help you deal with things. The funny thing is most everyone at my sixth form is a loner as well. We don't really get into cliques. Yo could litterly walk up to some random girl and say hi and she'll strike up a conversation with you. Talk to people you sit next to in class.
    I'm very sorry I can't offer better advice.
 
 
 
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