I hate my dad

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    All he does is swear and say nasty stuff to me and says am ****in weird and insults me then tells me to f off and go get him food is there something wrong with him and what am i to do? he doesnt let me study becos he distracts me and then i cant be bothered trying to carry on what shall i do i hate this everyday argh im 16 if it help
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    So do I, if you want, I could tell you the best revenge plan.
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    Well, if he treats you like that then immediately after tries to tell you to get him food simply refuse! Don't do nice things for people who treat you like crap. That just reinforces their behaviour. If you're brave enough, I'd say confront him on the matter. Don't just stay silent.

    But if you don't like the bolshy approach, at least get yourself out of the house to do your studying. Go to your local library instead.
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    (Original post by sinfonietta)
    Well, if he treats you like that then immediately after tries to tell you to get him food simply refuse! Don't do nice things for people who treat you like crap. That just reinforces their behaviour. If you're brave enough, I'd say confront him on the matter. Don't just stay silent.

    But if you don't like the bolshy approach, at least get yourself out of the house to do your studying. Go to your local library instead.
    Yeah follow the above advice ^^^

    Try to alpha yourself.
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    On a practical note, you don't have to put up with this. If it is making life unbearable, if he is trying to control your life, get out and go to a refuge. My father was abusive too. I've cut him out entirely. It has made my life so much better. Though not necessarily easier.*

    You have to take care of yourself. *
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    All he does is swear and say nasty stuff to me and says am ****in weird and insults me then tells me to f off and go get him food is there something wrong with him and what am i to do? he doesnt let me study becos he distracts me and then i cant be bothered trying to carry on what shall i do i hate this everyday argh im 16 if it help
    It depends how bad it is. Is your mum around? You do make him sound unpleasant.

    If its as bad as you say, then you might wnat to get out, but that would mean getting social services involved and more or less leaving the family. I dont know what your family environment is really like. Its not good at 16 because you arent independent yet.

    You can always ring childline and talk to them in confidence 0800 1111.

    Alternatively if leaving isnt an option, then the other method is aboidance and non confrontation.

    Stay away from him.
    If he is rude to you ignore it and let i go over your head.
    If you have to make food, then do it quickly and get back to what you were doing.
    If you cant study in the house go to the library or study round at a friends..

    It sucks to have a rubbish parent, especially when they should be kind and supportive. At the moment you need to do well in your exams so focus on working hard, then you cna go to Uni and start to get away from him. When you have a full time job and a degree then you wont have to deal with him.
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    Thats verbal abuse report him.
 
 
 
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