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I'm attracted to a girl that doesn't want me and not attracted to one that does?

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    Hello all

    I like this girl physically. I don't really know her too well, but she's part of our friendship group. Her boyfriend is a good friend of me, and I'd never want to break them apart (he was part of the friendship group too before). When I saw her a while ago before she got with her boyfriend I actually found her more attractive than when I saw her recently. Still for some reason it bothers me and I feel bad.

    There's another girl that's also part of our friendship group whom I know a lot better. I know she likes me and I feel really guilty, I just don't find her attractive. She's not objectively unattractive I think, she gets plenty of attention (objectively she might not even be less attractive than the former girl). I like her personality, but more as a friend, but I feel like perhaps I would see her in a different light if she was attractive to me. Again feel terrible, feel shallow, I don't want to lose her as a friend.

    Dunno what to do, I really love this friendship group. I don't think it'd work out with either girl, and more I just want to be cool with the situation. But being there just makes me feel awkward.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hello all

    I like this girl physically. I don't really know her too well, but she's part of our friendship group. Her boyfriend is a good friend of me, and I'd never want to break them apart (he was part of the friendship group too before). When I saw her a while ago before she got with her boyfriend I actually found her more attractive than when I saw her recently. Still for some reason it bothers me and I feel bad.

    There's another girl that's also part of our friendship group whom I know a lot better. I know she likes me and I feel really guilty, I just don't find her attractive. She's not objectively unattractive I think, she gets plenty of attention (objectively she might not even be less attractive than the former girl). I like her personality, but more as a friend, but I feel like perhaps I would see her in a different light if she was attractive to me. Again feel terrible, feel shallow, I don't want to lose her as a friend.

    Dunno what to do, I really love this friendship group. I don't think it'd work out with either girl, and more I just want to be cool with the situation. But being there just makes me feel awkward.
    Turn it into a TV script, call it something cheesy like "Its complicated" or "20 somethings" make an intro using an indie song. Kinda like New Girl's intro song and make big bucks!!!!!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hello all

    I like this girl physically. I don't really know her too well, but she's part of our friendship group. Her boyfriend is a good friend of me, and I'd never want to break them apart (he was part of the friendship group too before). When I saw her a while ago before she got with her boyfriend I actually found her more attractive than when I saw her recently. Still for some reason it bothers me and I feel bad.

    There's another girl that's also part of our friendship group whom I know a lot better. I know she likes me and I feel really guilty, I just don't find her attractive. She's not objectively unattractive I think, she gets plenty of attention (objectively she might not even be less attractive than the former girl). I like her personality, but more as a friend, but I feel like perhaps I would see her in a different light if she was attractive to me. Again feel terrible, feel shallow, I don't want to lose her as a friend.

    Dunno what to do, I really love this friendship group. I don't think it'd work out with either girl, and more I just want to be cool with the situation. But being there just makes me feel awkward.

    Come on mate you are grown up and u should know what to do ....
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    (Original post by Treblebee)
    I think Shakespeare had a solution to this sort of issue...
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    Not sure, know it's about unrequited love and love potions but not much into Shakespeare to infer the solution from it.
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    (Original post by UnknownItalian)
    Come on mate you are grown up and u should know what to do ....
    No idea. Try me.
 
 
 
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