Girlfriend says im an aquired taste.

Im quite confident about my looks, I think im an alright looking guy, and sometimes I joke about it to my girlfriend. And she has told me on several occasions that im an "aquired taste", and im not standard of everyones cup of tea. Shes also said im not her usual type. Im not insecure about her not liking me, or my looks but I find it quite a hurtful thing for her to say which i translate as basically that most people wouldnt fancy me , when I think that I am fairly atractive. Shes also said im prettier than most girls rather than fit. To make things worse shes quite attractive, and gets loads of attention and offers from other guys (which to be fair anyone with tits and a face does), and it sometimes feels to me as if shes trying to say you're lucky to have me kind of thing :frown:

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Reply 1

Ang|ophi|e

12

No use just telling us. Communicate with your girlfriend. Tell her how you feel. I doubt she'd do it again.

Reply 2

The Bishman

8

Actually it sounds like after all those 'jokes' about you saying your quite attractive, she has decided to bring your inflated head down a few notches.

Reply 3

grace

15

hahaha my ex bf used to always tell me he was better looking than me. Which is honestly laughable, to anyone (and that's not me being big headed, it's a fact!)

she's not exactly saying anything horrible, she's just not saying what you want to hear and you're putting a pretty negative spin on things from the sounds of it.

Reply 4

lea164

So what if you're an aquired taste, looks aren't the most important thing in the world!

Reply 5

dita_parlo

11

My boyfriend always tells me that I have a weird look, but I don't care because it just means that he obviously likes weird looking girls lol!

Reply 6

grammar_king

2

To me, being an "aquired taste" says more about your personality than your looks.

Reply 7

Rutter knows best!

12

i would take it as a compliment personally.

Reply 8

tetrahydrocannabinol.

10

Pic?

Reply 9

Bluelight

13

Im girlfriend says this to me sometimes, Its perhaps because Im well mannered and not very laddish. I dont look like an alien do I? :eek:

Reply 10

Crimson Black

13

Bluelight

Im girlfriend says this to me sometimes, Its perhaps because Im well mannered and not very laddish. I dont look like an alien do I? :eek:

You probably photoshopped the tentacles out of your prof pic. :p:

"Acquired taste" is something like Tom Waits - it takes a while to get used to him, but once you have, you never want to stop listening to him. I'd take it as a compliment of the highest order. :biggrin:

Reply 11

Danielle89

14

To me every guy is an acquired taste as every girl has a different idea of who her perfect man is. Not all girls like the same guys do they?

And the same vice versa

Reply 12

Bluelight

13

Crimson Black

You probably photoshopped the tentacles out of your prof pic. :p:

lol they were trickly little buggers but i managed. :p:

Reply 13

bone-machine

9

Crimson Black

You probably photoshopped the tentacles out of your prof pic. :p:

"Acquired taste" is something like Tom Waits - it takes a while to get used to him, but once you have, you never want to stop listening to him. I'd take it as a compliment of the highest order. :biggrin:

tom waits

..growly growly

as for her saying you 'pretty' maybe she means that you are very much a pretty boy ie have delicate lady like features, which some girls LOVE and some girls just dont find hott?

try not to take it to heart, dont let her get you down, and i think someones got it right in that shes trying to take you down a notch or two

Reply 14

Ilora-Danon

3

Calling someone an 'acquired taste' is really quite tactless. You should tell your girlfriend how much it offends you when she says that. Communication, is key.

Reply 15

*Katie*

1

Kingsley

Shes also said im prettier than most girls rather than fit.

Haha...are you my bf? I say this to him *all the time* - that he's prettier than most girls, and I call him an acquired taste as well - but that's because he's beautiful, and has a HUGE ego. I think she's just teasing, and probably wants to deflate your ego a bit :p:

. Tell her if it really bothers you, but she's with you, so it's pretty likely that she fancies you. Someone not being your typical type isn't a bad thing - maybe she's into more masculine looking men or something, but you just caught her eye :wink:

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Reply 16

sopheeb

Ha, I told my bf he's "not the type I usually go for"... because to be fair until I met him I only went for girls... :p:

It's not a bad thing for someone to say to you, I think she probably just phrased it lousily.

Reply 17

CheesyBeans

1

bishman

Actually it sounds like after all those 'jokes' about you saying your quite attractive, she has decided to bring your inflated head down a few notches.

I agree with this.

OP your girlfriend might just be totally fed up of your jokes. Nobody like a bighead.

Don't worry too much about it. Everyone has different opinions of what is a attractive and what isn't. Surely you can't expect EVERY female to find you attractive?

My boyfriends friends might think I'm unattractive and my friends might think my boyfriend is unattractive but so what? We both like each other and so it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

Reply 18

big?mark

Insecure people tend to big themselves up and pull other people down. Maybe she's really just insecure.

Then again she might just be trying to stop you from saying how good looking you are all the time. Thats no fun for her, only you lol.

Reply 19

Chumbaniya

17

grammar_king

To me, being an "aquired taste" says more about your personality than your looks.

That's what I would have thought - I don't imagine you can really acquire a taste for the way someone looks, unless it's personality related.

What's wrong with being an acquired taste anyway? Is it really that important to you that you're a typical good-looking man who all girls find attractive?

Girlfriend says im an aquired taste.

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