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What to do with my x i want her back
Hi,
Im struggling to cope really bad at the min n want 2 get things of my chest i hope you guys can help. She is 19 next month with a 2 year old baby and I am 20 next week, the baby I took on as mine. I have just finished all ties with my x after 18months of living in n out of each others back pockets and im finding it so difficult, let me explain the situation.
Basically when we met she was really into me that much so i couldn't take it so i split up with her after 5 - 6 months went with someone else and then came back. She was really demanding and quite bad tempered thats why i did it, you couldn't imagine. Anyway we worked things out and got back together then she started going onto these flirting websites talking 2 other men I went mad and she said that it was because we had a big arguement and that she wanted to talk 2 someone, even though there were videos of him with his shirt off. See was crying and begging for me back. Anyways in March this year we called it 2 a head, my decision. Anyway we carried on seeing each other like we were going out, till she told me she had slept with someone else as a one off (this happened may time when I wouldn't communicate with her at all over something serious she told me about someone else). Now she knew I had been around and she had to handle it but I couldn't so I fell out with her again.
Since then we started getting on again the past few weeks so much so that I finished anything I had with any other girl. Anyway she came clean and said that she had slept with 2 people, the one from a few months earlier and one other lad after a night out. It really hurt me even though we aren't together. So i tryed to bite my lip because she had and tried again. We spent time together as a family again, she stayed over we had sex and cuddled up to a film kissed etc for 3 nights on the go, we also had dinner out in nottingham and she really went to a lot of effort. Anyway during the time we spent together she commented on moving in with darcy (her daughter) with me, at which I just laughed at because I didn't think she was serious. I regret that. Also on the night we made up some asked if I was seeing her in front of her and I said no we are mates now and apparently she was really upset?
However, it is not all honest, she has gone away for a week in wales and ive been trying 2 get2 c her or talk 2 her and she says she wants to talk 2 me when she gets back which is killing me. This week I have found that she has a profile on flirtomatic where she is really popular with 200 kisses and over 2000 hits etc and has a backstage area with backstage pics. This really hurt me that this must have been going on for sometime. I feel so sick, stressed i can't sleep i can't stop thinking about her and what she could have been upto. But she swears she has only slept with 2 other people 3 times between them and sex with me is much better and it means somethings??
Oh and the last thing is that at the weekend I planned to commit with her since i wasn't sure if thats what she wanted and was waiting for me, so I spent £1,150 I had saved up on an engagement ring. She was going to birmingham that night with a few mates n a few lads, anyway I told her 2 come round after n i had a ring, her phone died and I have a few good mates who backed her up on this and I have the same phone and the battery is poor. Anyway she didn't come round and decided to club it till 9 am and go to some rich guys house and take a load of coke???? She had togo to wales straight after with her family so she never saw me so I said I didn't want to see her again if she couldn't make the effort! She begged for me not to leave as I said I was going to find somewhere else to live which I have. I have just spoken 2 her and she seems wound up by all of this like she doesn't care yet can't tell me she doesn't love me and that she will come and see me when she gets back. But I dont know what to do and that she probably doesn't want me and even if she does can I trust her?
Help guys im in such a mess! I love her so much and she says she miss's me but she doesn't know what she wants and she wants to think while on holiday and talk 2 me when she gets back, but I don't know who she is texting, she says im too paranoid and it spoils things but after finding that website can you blame me?
Im struggling to cope really bad at the min n want 2 get things of my chest i hope you guys can help. She is 19 next month with a 2 year old baby and I am 20 next week, the baby I took on as mine. I have just finished all ties with my x after 18months of living in n out of each others back pockets and im finding it so difficult, let me explain the situation.
Basically when we met she was really into me that much so i couldn't take it so i split up with her after 5 - 6 months went with someone else and then came back. She was really demanding and quite bad tempered thats why i did it, you couldn't imagine. Anyway we worked things out and got back together then she started going onto these flirting websites talking 2 other men I went mad and she said that it was because we had a big arguement and that she wanted to talk 2 someone, even though there were videos of him with his shirt off. See was crying and begging for me back. Anyways in March this year we called it 2 a head, my decision. Anyway we carried on seeing each other like we were going out, till she told me she had slept with someone else as a one off (this happened may time when I wouldn't communicate with her at all over something serious she told me about someone else). Now she knew I had been around and she had to handle it but I couldn't so I fell out with her again.
Since then we started getting on again the past few weeks so much so that I finished anything I had with any other girl. Anyway she came clean and said that she had slept with 2 people, the one from a few months earlier and one other lad after a night out. It really hurt me even though we aren't together. So i tryed to bite my lip because she had and tried again. We spent time together as a family again, she stayed over we had sex and cuddled up to a film kissed etc for 3 nights on the go, we also had dinner out in nottingham and she really went to a lot of effort. Anyway during the time we spent together she commented on moving in with darcy (her daughter) with me, at which I just laughed at because I didn't think she was serious. I regret that. Also on the night we made up some asked if I was seeing her in front of her and I said no we are mates now and apparently she was really upset?
However, it is not all honest, she has gone away for a week in wales and ive been trying 2 get2 c her or talk 2 her and she says she wants to talk 2 me when she gets back which is killing me. This week I have found that she has a profile on flirtomatic where she is really popular with 200 kisses and over 2000 hits etc and has a backstage area with backstage pics. This really hurt me that this must have been going on for sometime. I feel so sick, stressed i can't sleep i can't stop thinking about her and what she could have been upto. But she swears she has only slept with 2 other people 3 times between them and sex with me is much better and it means somethings??
Oh and the last thing is that at the weekend I planned to commit with her since i wasn't sure if thats what she wanted and was waiting for me, so I spent £1,150 I had saved up on an engagement ring. She was going to birmingham that night with a few mates n a few lads, anyway I told her 2 come round after n i had a ring, her phone died and I have a few good mates who backed her up on this and I have the same phone and the battery is poor. Anyway she didn't come round and decided to club it till 9 am and go to some rich guys house and take a load of coke???? She had togo to wales straight after with her family so she never saw me so I said I didn't want to see her again if she couldn't make the effort! She begged for me not to leave as I said I was going to find somewhere else to live which I have. I have just spoken 2 her and she seems wound up by all of this like she doesn't care yet can't tell me she doesn't love me and that she will come and see me when she gets back. But I dont know what to do and that she probably doesn't want me and even if she does can I trust her?
Help guys im in such a mess! I love her so much and she says she miss's me but she doesn't know what she wants and she wants to think while on holiday and talk 2 me when she gets back, but I don't know who she is texting, she says im too paranoid and it spoils things but after finding that website can you blame me?
please guys can your share ur opinions I need real help on this one. She has told me to not move out cos she says she will talk 2 me when i get back and its important
hmm this must be a tricky situation for u, sounds like she is running hot (ie saying she wanted to move in with her daughter and u) and cold (not coming round when u were going to propose)
in relation to the sleeping with each other i would say forget about all that-u have both slept with other people so forget about that now.
about the flirtomatic...sounds like she wasnt officially in a relationshio with u at that time so though it must be annoying and upsetting, try and forget about it for now.
basically i think u should both sit down and have a chat about it all, decide if u both want to be in the relationship. if u do, great, commit ie no flirting or other partners. if not then accept it and both move on.
hope this helps, good luck x x
in relation to the sleeping with each other i would say forget about all that-u have both slept with other people so forget about that now.
about the flirtomatic...sounds like she wasnt officially in a relationshio with u at that time so though it must be annoying and upsetting, try and forget about it for now.
basically i think u should both sit down and have a chat about it all, decide if u both want to be in the relationship. if u do, great, commit ie no flirting or other partners. if not then accept it and both move on.
hope this helps, good luck x x
cheers for your replies, she said she will call me later because i rang her ealier upset and the signal was really bad. I she text asking if I was okay and I basically said if you want me to move away I will (I moved 20miles to loughborough to make the relationship more serious). She said please don't do anything and that she will talk to me when I get back.
She also stated she just wants to chill out with her daughter etc for this
holiday and doesn't want to be pressured. She comes back on saturday Im working away till sunday night so waiting till next week will bug me! Just paranoid about who she is texting, I am texting other people because she is. This all started since we were not going out I slept with someone a few months back so she did the same and then i did so on so forth. But she says she is missing me and was considering getting back with me but wasn't sure.
She is just as paranoid, she came down to work to see me on the doors and some bird I didn't know came up and kissed me on the cheek and cuddled me I showed no interest but thats what stopped her asking me to try again that night.
Anyways please give me your advice I will see her next week she wants to talk to me and is calling later so I might just say that we need to sit down and talk about what we both want.
Im going to say, if you love me and want to be with me then I want everything, my name on her daughters birth certificate, them both to move in, all internet flirting website profiles to be deleted and all lads who she has met from there to be deleted. I may even ask her to come away with me for a week or weekend to skeggy or something to get away and spend time together with no phones. Otherwise I will ask her to leave and not return into my life since I can't cope with this.
Cheers
P.S. she was telling me the other night she has been texting a lad from a club who is a mate she talks to, saying to him she miss's me, this was said on the night she came to see me at work.
She also stated she just wants to chill out with her daughter etc for this
holiday and doesn't want to be pressured. She comes back on saturday Im working away till sunday night so waiting till next week will bug me! Just paranoid about who she is texting, I am texting other people because she is. This all started since we were not going out I slept with someone a few months back so she did the same and then i did so on so forth. But she says she is missing me and was considering getting back with me but wasn't sure.
She is just as paranoid, she came down to work to see me on the doors and some bird I didn't know came up and kissed me on the cheek and cuddled me I showed no interest but thats what stopped her asking me to try again that night.
Anyways please give me your advice I will see her next week she wants to talk to me and is calling later so I might just say that we need to sit down and talk about what we both want.
Im going to say, if you love me and want to be with me then I want everything, my name on her daughters birth certificate, them both to move in, all internet flirting website profiles to be deleted and all lads who she has met from there to be deleted. I may even ask her to come away with me for a week or weekend to skeggy or something to get away and spend time together with no phones. Otherwise I will ask her to leave and not return into my life since I can't cope with this.
Cheers
P.S. she was telling me the other night she has been texting a lad from a club who is a mate she talks to, saying to him she miss's me, this was said on the night she came to see me at work.
any advice?
Cheers for reply. She comes back from holiday on sat I come back from working away late sun night/ early mon morning. I'm not sure what situation to ask her what she wants. She said to me she wants time to think and shes so confused and doesn't know what she wants so ive left her to it till I see her and its killing me.
Im not sure whether to cook dinner, have champagne etc or go to our fav restaurant or go away for one night? I believe she still loves me as she can't say that she doesn't she says she can just hide her feelings more?
Any suggestions guys n gals
Cheers
Im not sure whether to cook dinner, have champagne etc or go to our fav restaurant or go away for one night? I believe she still loves me as she can't say that she doesn't she says she can just hide her feelings more?
Any suggestions guys n gals
Cheers
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