So my ex rather brutally dumped me about 4 months ago. For a while I clung on to the hope that he would call me, tell me he still loved me etc. but it has now come apparent that he has moved on. And I need to move on as well
So I have just started seeing this guy. He is ok. Like on paper he would be a pretty good match for me, but I don't fancy him much and I'm still thinking about my ex a lot, and always comparing him to my ex, to whom he doesn't even come close.
Now my dilemma is this; should I continue seeing this guy, because then at least I'm somewhat moving on and it's a distraction ?
Or should I cut things off? And spend more time wallowing over my ex who doesn't want me?
Me and the new guy haven't slept together yet although I reckon that's on the cards for the next time we see each other. I haven't had sex since my ex and I worry I'll get upset and wish it was him. :s
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- 12-10-2016 20:29
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- 12-10-2016 20:51
I think you shouldn't jump into a new relationship too quickly, it doesn't mean you should spend the time "wallowing" over your ex, but you can just make sure you're properly over him before getting into something else, because it won't be fair on the new guy, and it won't be the best for you.
Maybe find something else to take your mind off things?
That's just my opinion... Good luck xo
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- 12-10-2016 20:58
Hi! We have the exact same problem dude, except that I dumped my ex.
Don't do it, honestly. This may sound so brutal but just end it now. I went into another relationship after my other one, which was two years, and I ended up cheating on her! Which is nothing like me; it was just that I was trying to get attention when the one person I truly wanted it from was the person I broke up with, albeit without all the arguments we used to have and the arrogance she acquired.
I know it can seem really **** and there is always this massive temptation to date but honestly, try and enjoy yourself. Now is the time to work on stuff and do things you couldn't before. Good luck.