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    Basically im 17, and never had a girlfriend in my entire life. i just finished my AS year. and during that year, i met this reallyyy pretty girl in college that i only like spoke to a handful of times. usually just saying hi or any other abrupt convo. then one time, while in the park with one of her mates, her mate turns around to me and goes that theres a rumour that me and this girl fancy each other, even tho noone knows i like her and havnt spoken to anyone about it. sadly by this time it was summer holidays and i wasnt able to see her! i managed to get her msn thru myspace (i asked her for it) and she gave me it. we talk often on msn but i keep getting mixed messages, sometimes shes all flirty and other times she address's me with the dreaded "mate" word. how on earth can i find out if she likes me or not and how on earth am i gona ask her out WITHOUT using msn? i cant ask for her number on msn cus then its just obvious, and i cant ask to meet up with her on msn cus thts obvious too! HELP!! oh and shes kinda shy too, shes never had a bf! HELPPP
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    You're being overly shy.

    Get over yourself, ask to meet her, have a nice day out together and make sure you get her number then. Texting is better than msn, maybe because people are paying for every message they send so they get to the point quicker...
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    yep - take the plunge - You both sound like your made for each other - you've both got a little bit of shyness... which is no bad thing.

    It would probably be better to just be honest on msn, ask her if she would like to meet you. Tell her how you feel. Good luck.
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    I would take the chance mate ask for her number she can only say no, and worse say she isn't interested and lets face it that isn't the end of the world. If you don't take the chance you will never know, someone has to make the first step.

    But your young so don't jump in too deep take it slow get to know each other etc
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    I third it. Don't mess about, you don't want her as a friend, so why worry about risking that part? Be blatant, ask for her number. If she likes you in that way, she'll agree. If she doesn't, you're better off than landing her as a friend that you fancy the pants off.
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    Just ask her if she fancies meeting up in town. dont imply it as a date just a casual meet up nd hang out. just say sumin like "havnt seen u since we broke up from school. fancy hanging out this weekend? would be nice 2 see u"

    and occationly flatter her. just say little things like "u have great eyes" nd judge her reactions.

    best of luck to u mate =]
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    Yup, you're just being too shy and it you know, it'd be worse if she wasn't shy. This way you have something in common and would probably be able to speak more etc. If i were you, i'd just go up to her and just start a conversation with her. You'll know after that. But just get to know her first.

    Good luck x
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    I used to be a lot like this, but after you eventually get it done, it's a relief to know one way or the other, and it becomes a LOT easier in the future, a hell of a lot easier.

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    while in the park with one of her mates, her mate turns around to me and goes that theres a rumour that me and this girl fancy each other, even tho noone knows i like her and havnt spoken to anyone about it.
    Judging by this it sounds a lot like this girls friend has been sent on a covert mission, in which case I think she likes you! Sounds like the type of thing a 17 year old girl would do if she has never had a boyfriend before.

    You are both inexperienced and scared of gettin shot down, so one of you has to say summat first, unfortunately tradition states it should be they guy. (damn tradition)
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    (Original post by SilverWings)
    You're being overly shy.

    Get over yourself, ask to meet her, have a nice day out together and make sure you get her number then. Texting is better than msn, maybe because people are paying for every message they send so they get to the point quicker...
    WOW :eek: How did you manage to accumulate so much neg rep?
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    like others have said
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    hummm. arghhhh, fine ill take the plunge. just outta curiosity whats the WORST case scenario say she was to reject me...wouldnt things get weird when i see her in college
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    Only if you let it, but try not to look at the worst case scenario! From one shy person who managed to ask out the person they like lol! I'd suggest getting her number first, just be casual with asking for it. And if you don't want to make it blatantly obvious right now that you like her if you ask to meet up the first time you could always be with a couple of mates as well, make it more casual and even if theres other people there, if she likes you she'll make the time to speak to you. It'll give you a chance to get to know one another.
    Just don't worry about it, it's easier than you think
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    hummm. arghhhh, fine ill take the plunge. just outta curiosity whats the WORST case scenario say she was to reject me...wouldnt things get weird when i see her in college

    Well, worst case scenario, she rejects you, kicks you in the testicles, pokes you in the eyes and rips your head off. Though that doesn't tend to happen too often.
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    meet up with her after results
    the results can be a starting point for a Big conversation

    and try to drop hints when your talking to her on myspace/msn
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Basically im 17, and never had a girlfriend in my entire life. i just finished my AS year. and during that year, i met this reallyyy pretty girl in college that i only like spoke to a handful of times. usually just saying hi or any other abrupt convo. then one time, while in the park with one of her mates, her mate turns around to me and goes that theres a rumour that me and this girl fancy each other, even tho noone knows i like her and havnt spoken to anyone about it. sadly by this time it was summer holidays and i wasnt able to see her! i managed to get her msn thru myspace (i asked her for it) and she gave me it. we talk often on msn but i keep getting mixed messages, sometimes shes all flirty and other times she address's me with the dreaded "mate" word. how on earth can i find out if she likes me or not and how on earth am i gona ask her out WITHOUT using msn? i cant ask for her number on msn cus then its just obvious, and i cant ask to meet up with her on msn cus thts obvious too! HELP!! oh and shes kinda shy too, shes never had a bf! HELPPP
    Ok, so if I asked a friend "Shall we meet up some time?" it means I obviously fancy him/her? If that's the case, then oh my goodness I fancy an awful lot of people!

    Lol no, asking to meet up is not being obvious. It's the only natural thing to do since you two are friends. You either pluck up the courage to do it, or you forget about it cus it's not gonna go anywhere if you never meet up with her lol.

    Good luck! xx
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    (Original post by qwerty5102)
    Judging by this it sounds a lot like this girls friend has been sent on a covert mission, in which case I think she likes you! Sounds like the type of thing a 17 year old girl would do if she has never had a boyfriend before.
    Not wishing to contribute to his worries, but that could just be her friend playing games with him in a matter completely unrelated to her. It's cruel but I've seen it a lot.

    But yes, majority opinion speaks the truth in this thread. Ask her ASAP or you'll regret it later.
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    Actaully getting her number and asking if she wants to meet up isn't obvious, because friends this all the time. But of she flirts with you, she must fancy you.
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    Alternatively you could wait til results night and get to the nearest party, when you find out she is there, get drunk and things become a hell of a lot easier, not too drunk tho or u will forget what you have said and regret it! Fine balance.
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    Just ask her out! if its really bothering you then on MSN start a convo bout films on at cinema, when she says : ah yes... i wantd to see that... you volunteer to take her! simple! lol!

    good luck me deary!
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