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    Don't worry it won't have changed a whole lot in those 3 years. You'll find it all comes back to you really quickly I'm sure
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    Only someone naive would make an issue about you not having sex for 3 years.
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    (Original post by mangomaz)
    Don't worry it won't have changed a whole lot in those 3 years.
    :rofl: I just had the best mental image
    Guy: *goes to put his penis in her ear*
    OP: Huh, what're you doing?
    Guy: Where have you been? Since 2004, everyone does that.
    OP: Oh. At least this way I won't get pregnant


    Sorry. It had to be done.
    OP, don't stress. It's a little unusual to have had such a long break (this is probably just because I'm 19 and at uni) - meaning I've not anyone in this situation (that's told me :p:), but I don't think it'll matter. Or that he'll even be able to tell if you don't mention it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a mature person and by that I mean I'm not a naive 12 year old and I have only slept with 3 people from previous relationships. It's been 3 years since I had sex - i'm not missing it - but I'm worried that the next person I get with might not be understanding. It's been a while and (understandably?) I feel a bit, I don't know, worried that the guy might not understand that I feel a bit worried, not quite ready. I have almost forgotten what sex is like and don't want any guys to laugh at me. When I think about sleeping with someone, I feel a bit afraid.

    I'm old enough to know that if a guy isn't going to wait around then he isn't worth my time but I wonder if my fear of the idea of sleeping with someone means I'm frigid and I worry I won't find someone who understands and would wanna take it slow. I haven't explained myself properly.

    Are there a thousand threads like this? I haven't noticed :P
    If the guy laughs at you he's a *******.

    I'm sure there are men who would understand. They may even be in the same position.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I haven't been in a relationship since then and can't bring myself to hae sex with any guys because they're just out for a shag and I don't like being used.

    I won't tell them I haven't had sex but I'd want them to understand that it's been a while, in case we get together and they think "hey, what's going on?
    I dont get why some people just fell its ok to tar everyone with their ignorance.....as someone said sex is sex it makes no ****ing difference how often you've had it recently - its more of a confidence thing though isnt it? Just find a nice guy ffs.
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    (Original post by Wangers)
    Just find a nice guy ffs.
    Hahaha you seem quite angry about it!
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    I've read statistics that state that about 5-10% of people in Western countries are likely to die virgins.
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    Yes try being 22 and never having a gf......
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yes try being 22 and never having a gf......
    im sure shes in this situation anyway lol.
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    Yes but given i'm not one for sleeping around i've never had sex. Part of me feels almost pressured into having sex but whenever I have the "oppurtunity" shall we say, I always opt not to take it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yes but given i'm not one for sleeping around i've never had sex. Part of me feels almost pressured into having sex but whenever I have the "oppurtunity" shall we say, I always opt not to take it.
    So why complain then u poon

    p.s. if youve never had a girlfriend its unlikely youve really opted out of taking the opportunity to sleep with someone. If a decent hot girl said "please anonymous user #3 im dieing to ride your ****", I doubt youd say no.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yes but given i'm not one for sleeping around i've never had sex. Part of me feels almost pressured into having sex but whenever I have the "oppurtunity" shall we say, I always opt not to take it.
    Are you waiting for something? Cos that's understandable.
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    Well i'd rather have sex with a gf. I'm not particularly bothered about sex before marriage issues. My biggest problem is actually asking girls out. I just can't do and as a result i've never had a gf because girls don't know how i've felt about them
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    So you havent opted out of having sex youve just not had the opportunity. EVERYBODY gets those nerves before they ask a girl out for the first time you just have to dive in and do it. I was such a pussy with my girlfriend, we were really into each other but I never got the balls to as her out properly. After 6 months fancying awkwardness she finally got tired of it and when my friend asked her out she said yes! Anyhow it hurt a lot seeing some girl that youve pretty much been going out with walking hand in hand with your friend. Needless to say I got the balls, told her what I thought and she decided she wanted to be with me. And now weve been together 2 and a half year so happy ending.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Well i'd rather have sex with a gf. I'm not particularly bothered about sex before marriage issues. My biggest problem is actually asking girls out. I just can't do and as a result i've never had a gf because girls don't know how i've felt about them
    Just go for it and take the chance. You will get rejected some times ( or even quite a few times ) but is it better the way things are? Put it this way, the times when it does work out is well worth the disappointment when it doesn't.
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    So you havent opted out of having sex youve just not had the opportunity. EVERYBODY gets those nerves before they ask a girl out for the first time you just have to dive in and do it. I was such a pussy with my girlfriend, we were really into each other but I never got the balls to as her out properly. After 6 months fancying awkwardness she finally got tired of it and when my friend asked her out she said yes! Anyhow it hurt a lot seeing some girl that youve pretty much been going out with walking hand in hand with your friend. Needless to say I got the balls, told her what I thought and she decided she wanted to be with me. And now weve been together 2 and a half year so happy ending.
    Such a nice ending lol!! Wish I could do that, were you really good friends with her? I have had the oppurtunity, but they would all be through one night stands and like I said i'm not going for that so I usually keep my distance from any girl looking for some lol
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Such a nice ending lol!! Wish I could do that, were you really good friends with her? I have had the oppurtunity, but they would all be through one night stands and like I said i'm not going for that so I usually keep my distance from any girl looking for some lol
    yeah good friends and it we both knew we liked each other, I was just a sissy.

    Just a tip, if your both virgins, the first few times you do it can be pretty poor, both not really knowing exactly what youre doing. Not that id advocate a one night stand just for experience but in the end it all helps.
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    yeah good friends and it we both knew we liked each other, I was just a sissy.

    Just a tip, if your both virgins, the first few times you do it can be pretty poor, both not really knowing exactly what youre doing. Not that id advocate a one night stand just for experience but in the end it all helps.
    Well my problem is that I never know if the girls I like, like me or think of me in that way as well. I understand the experience thing, one girl came on to me and apparently she is a massive sleaze so i'm sure she would be great experience lol
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yes try being 22 and never having a gf......
    Well Jimmy Carr didnt lose his virginity till 26, and now look at him...
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    He is a little bit strange though isnt he...
 
 
 
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