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Hurting

Hey was wondering if anyone could offer me advice please?

This guy that I was supposed to be seeing pulled one girl and slept with another girl the other night. I am absolutely devastated. He doesn't even care either, I text him to let him know I knew and his reply was 'Yeh I'm sorry, not much I can say.'

I am so angry, we weren't supposed to be seeing other people, I had had my doubts with his lack of contact but I gave him an ultimatum on friday as to what was happening between us and he said he still wanted to meet up when I got back to uni. He even texting me the night he slept with her - before I am presuming.

I just feel so hurt and confused - he is my first real hurt and guy that I've liked and it feels rubbish. What's worse is when I do go back to uni I have a part time job which involves working with him (in a much higher up position than me - he can make my life hell if he wants) and also with the girls he cheated with.

Has anyone got any advice on how to act and get over him? Thank you.

Reply 1

I'm very sorry to hear about the difficult situation you are in. The only advice I can really offer you, is that he isn't worth bothering with! He sounds like a horrible person, try your best not to associate with him!

As for the job, do you best to keep professional, don't let him 'make your life hell' and if he tries to, complain to your boss/anyone who can do something about it.

For now hun, all i can say is try your best to move on, let this be a lesson to you and be glad that this happened early on, and not after many years of a loving relationship. Hope this helps a little :smile:

Reply 2

Thank you for your reply. I am tryng not to think about it but it still hurts. I trusted him and believed that he liked me - how wrong was I? I can't believe one minutes he's nice the next he is treating me with no respect at all. He hasn't even apologised.

Reply 3

Anonymous
Hey was wondering if anyone could offer me advice please?

This guy that I was supposed to be seeing pulled one girl and slept with another girl the other night. I am absolutely devastated. He doesn't even care either, I text him to let him know I knew and his reply was 'Yeh I'm sorry, not much I can say.'

I am so angry, we weren't supposed to be seeing other people, I had had my doubts with his lack of contact but I gave him an ultimatum on friday as to what was happening between us and he said he still wanted to meet up when I got back to uni. He even texting me the night he slept with her - before I am presuming.

I just feel so hurt and confused - he is my first real hurt and guy that I've liked and it feels rubbish. What's worse is when I do go back to uni I have a part time job which involves working with him (in a much higher up position than me - he can make my life hell if he wants) and also with the girls he cheated with.

Has anyone got any advice on how to act and get over him? Thank you.


He's a tosser - and your better than worrying about that. That's how you get over it. :wink:

Reply 4

Anonymous
Thank you for your reply. I am tryng not to think about it but it still hurts. I trusted him and believed that he liked me - how wrong was I? I can't believe one minutes he's nice the next he is treating me with no respect at all. He hasn't even apologised.


I know how you feel, a few years ago a guy i realy liked did something similar to me (he didnt sleep with anyone but he did hit on all my friends.. i.e he sent same text to all of us) i remember feelin like you do and although it is hard you will get over it... there are some jerky guys out there but for everyone of them there is a sweet guy and you will find him! just keep your chin up and forget about him its not easy but you will get over him!

Reply 5

You deserve better, cut all contact with this loser.

Reply 6

Forget him. Get a new job. Sorted!